I think it cannot be expected that people who have never come across a name before will immediately like it if the spelling and sounds do not feel familiar. If weâre introducing names like that, we need to be patient, we need to up the exposure (rather than taking them out of our UC or posts) and perhaps, most importantly, donât just ask people what they think or how they would rate the names but instead be more specific in what weâre asking, e.g. what do you like about this combo, how well does this combo flow, what imagery does it evoke, and so onâŚ
When making polls, donât put âI donât like itâ as an option because it is of no importance; instead âit doesnât workâ (which is less about the immediate personal reaction but lets the other users reflect on the name within a context, or âI donât like it because (@me)â feel like much more interesting options.
Also, if you give somebody the choice between vanilla and lemon, the might go for lemon because itâs a bit more fun, however, when itâs between vanilla and lavender-thyme, most will stick with vanilla because itâs familiar. Once the choice isnât as easy, when itâs between lavender-thyme and lime-basil, people reflect a little longer and give the choice more thought, therefore familiarizing themselves with the options.
All metaphorical of course, but I think the same applies for names from other cultures.
Why do so many people seem to dislike the name [name_m]John[/name_m] so much? Itâs actually one of my favorite names, and seeing so many negative comments about it on NB makes me feel kind of bummed out. Yes, itâs a simple, common name. Whatâs wrong with that? Not every name has to be super unique and creative. I feel the same way about names like [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] and [name_f]Olivia[/name_f]-- yes, theyâve been used a lot, and maybe thatâs for a reason! [name_m]Just[/name_m] because a name has lost its flair for you doesnât mean it has for other people.
[name_m]Don[/name_m]ât get me wrong; I think itâs fine to share your opinion on a name. You donât need to criticize others for liking it, though.
Someone posted in this thread a little while ago about loving âdatedâ midcentury girlsâ names and I totally agree but more about midcentury boysâ names! [name_m]Bruce[/name_m], [name_m]Russell[/name_m], and [name_m]Brian[/name_m] are my favorites. Theyâre dad names ranging to grandpa names now, but theyâre so handsome. For the girlsâ side, I love [name_f]Linda[/name_f], [name_f]Lynne[/name_f], and [name_f]Lorraine[/name_f].
@anon75780134 I love [name_m]John[/name_m] too! I donât have it on my list because I like too many J names as it is having one myself, but I would love to see a little [name_m]John[/name_m].
I love so many people and characters named [name_m]Steve[/name_m]: [name_m]Steve[/name_m] [name_m]Harrington[/name_m], [name_m]Steve[/name_m] [name_m]Trevor[/name_m], [name_m]Steve[/name_m] [name_m]Rogers[/name_m], [name_m]Steve[/name_m] [name_m]Randle[/name_m], [name_m]Steven[/name_m] Yeun. The name just sounds unappealing to me but I wish I liked it.
I wasnât trying to label the comment as abusive, I was trying to tell OP to be a bit kinder in her wording. I quoted from the forum rules. Iâm so sorry if I came off as condescending and disrespectful in my comments.
Just to clarify: I donât have a problem with people not liking a name. We are all entitled to our own opinions, however, I donât quite like it when comments come off as rude/are written in a rude manner. Maybe Iâm overreacting, but I donât like it when names are called âhorribleâ or âawfulâ or are given negative stereotypes. (Which Iâm not implying @sophie_sawriter did the latter two, Iâm just using that as an example.)
Names are called âtrashyâ because people associate them with certain cultures of communities. To call a name âtrashyâ because you associate it with a community is to call that community âtrashy.â Using this to describe names is more than pretentious, it is discriminatory and perpetuates negative stereotypes and messages. To call a name âtrashyâ that is associated with the black community is only pushing anti-black sentiment.
I canât say that I like creative spellings of names, but to call them âtrashyâ should not be a valid opinion. We can express ourselves without reverting to offensive and inappropriate terms.
[name_f]Barbara[/name_f], [name_f]Wanda[/name_f] and [name_f]Marilyn[/name_f] for me I love them so much
Especially [name_m]Steve[/name_m] [name_m]Rogers[/name_m], but I feel the same way I just canât get into it. I got [name_m]Buchanan[/name_m] because of [name_m]Bucky[/name_m] though
This is a great description, and thank you for sharing these thoughts! I should take this piece of advice and apply it to my posts more often, youâre totally right about exposure.
It can be frustrating and hurtful when sometimes people canât respect different cultures - and very significant cultural names get torn to pieces. Of course this doesnât happen within the regular, more senior members of Nameberry, however I have unfortunately seen this happen a few times with newer people who are unfamiliar with the sort of community we have created here.
I saw that! And I have to say, I love [name_m]Bucky[/name_m], the character and the name. Iâd love to meet someone called [name_m]Bucky[/name_m]. And Iâm sure itâs just because of [name_m]Bucky[/name_m] [name_m]Barnes[/name_m], but that idea is just soâŚ
Even though I know itâs a name with quite cool etymology, when I see [name_u]Carson[/name_u], I just impulsively want to interpret it the same way as [name_m]Harrison[/name_m], [name_u]Jackson[/name_u], etc.
Harrison, son of [name_u]Harry[/name_u], [name_u]Jackson[/name_u], son of [name_m]Jack[/name_m], [name_u]Carson[/name_u]⌠[name_m]Son[/name_m] of ?
I love them! And [name_m]John[/name_m]!
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I love them so much
I donât know why the y makes it seem so much nicer of a name to me, but it does!
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