Hot Takes? 🤭

[baffled_jessica]

I think that’s a good idea. There are a lot of issues that people might want the discuss about using religious names, and I think having a place to talk about it with those not emotionally invested so you can take or ignore their advice without hurting any feelings is a good idea. People are touchy about religion though so you would have to be careful to respect different views/religions.

[Inlakesh]

I agree, a thread would be nice. I like a lot of religious names, and I’m not even religious. I still feel like there is value in the stories and the people though.

[ladywiththelamp]

I don’t like the name [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] especially with the nn [name_m]Baz[/name_m]

[Paxramena]

I love the name [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] and I think it’s a shame to shorten it.

[CecilyG]

I think I like [name_m]Baz[/name_m] better than [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m]. I’d like [name_u]Basil[/name_u] but it would be said bay-zil over here lol.

[leafygreens]

Same I don’t mind it having a nickname but just the full [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] is my favorite

[new.romantic]

Coming in with a probably very hot take but…

[details=“[name_f]Lilian[/name_f] > [name_f]Lillian[/name_f]”]
I know [name_f]Lillian[/name_f] is more visually pleasing, but [name_f]Lilian[/name_f] just has a cooler vibe to me. Idk why, it just does.
[/details]

[leafygreens]

I’m the same with [name_u]Kora[/name_u] in my mind it’s

Korra = [name_u]Kora[/name_u] >>>>>>>> [name_f]Cora[/name_f]

I just think [name_f]Korra[/name_f] and [name_u]Kora[/name_u] are so much prettier than [name_f]Cora[/name_f]

[kasatka]

Not sure where else to put this comment, but it is name/Nameberry related…

Some of the posts/polls lately make me sad. They’ve been around for a while, but I’ve noticed them becoming more and more prevalent recently.

I’m talking about the polls/posts where people are really stressing out over something. “Is this (insert totally fine name) too weird for a GP section of my UC?! Please help!”
or
“These names are so similar. (insert names that are similar but not too similar like [name_f]Octavia[/name_f] & [name_f]Olivia[/name_f]) Please help! I don’t know what to do. I’m so stressed because I can’t find another name I like as much as these.”
or
“(insert totally fine, just slightly unusual, useable names) are my favorite names. Are my kids going to bullied and tormented by classmates and coworkers for life? Am I pushing my (insert religious, social, whatever belief) onto them?” (I am SO guilty of this one…)

It makes me sad because we all joined Nameberry for fun. Creating and sharing name combos, getting fun feedback, etc. It makes me sad that a lot of us (including myself, I had to unlearn a lot of these thinking patterns…) have gotten to the point where names become a source of stress? Names are our outlets!

People name their kids all sorts of wacky and wild stuff.

I know a girl named K’lee. Pronounced [name_u]Kay[/name_u]-[name_u]Lee[/name_u]. No reason other than for the fact her parents wanted to be creative. She’s fine. She has a job. She has plenty of friends. She is happy.

I know a boy named ‘No’. Literally, just ‘No’. He’s one of the smartest people I know. He has friends. He’s doing well in school. He doesn’t get picked on or tormented. He is happy.

Your children are going to be okay. [name_m]Don[/name_m]’t worry. Your names are beautiful. You aren’t pushing your beliefs onto them by giving them a name that is special to you.

My parents briefly considered naming me something that would be very frowned upon in my religion. They didn’t end up naming me this, but if they had, I would be okay. I would still be loved and accepted by others in my religion, and I would still be happy. Worst case scenario? Your kids change their names. And even that is unlikely. I promise.

[Elle1]

@kasatka

It makes me sad because we all joined Nameberry for fun

I don’t really think this is true. I did not join NB for fun, I joined because I was stressed about finding a name for the child I was about to start trying for (girl names are easy for me, but my boy name journey has been bumpy).

Now that I’ve found my names, I’ve absolutely found joy in exploring other names and hanging out in the community here… But not everyone does

I haven’t noticed an increase in these posts, it feels about the same since I joined (last year, so I know that’s not very long). But whether it’s on NB or in real life, parents-to-be are always going to worry about whether or not their name choice will invite bullying (until they process that bullying, in some context, is nearly inevitable and all we can do is teach kids how to handle it rather than move mountains to avoid it).

[kasatka]

I understand that you disagree with me. I’m sorry if my post caused any offence, it’s just my perspective on the topic lately.

By all, I really meant the regular community. Sure, the majority of posts are from expecting parents, but the majority of the regulars are not.

[Elle1]

No offense at all, I promise! [name_m]Just[/name_m] an adult here with a lot of people naming babies We seem to stress about everything (and I meant that I wish more people looking to name their own babies could also find joy on NB, but sooo many just need that help and reassurance because creating a human is terrifying )

[kasatka]

I totally understand that!

I joined NB back in 2018 (old account, @eileithyia) when I was naming a baby too. I had miscarried a few months prior and thought naming it would help me cope. It did! I guess I don’t have the perspective of a parent naming a REAL baby, unfortunately, so my experience probably varies greatly from other parents. NB became very much a source of comfort, and when I found myself stressing out over names for children that didn’t yet, and may never exist, I started to question myself and why I was asking these questions. I know it’s the same for some of my friends here, but perhaps it’s ignorant of me to speak on behalf of the whole community? Thank you for sharing your opinion! It’s so incredibly helpful to hear another P.O.V.

Also, best of luck to you with TTC this year! I’m sure you’ll be a great mom, and your kid will have an epic name. I’ll take this opportunity to tell you that I LOVE [name_f]Drucilla[/name_f] “[name_u]Dru[/name_u]” for a girl.

[Elle1]

I’m sorry for your loss Some friends did the same with the names for their angel babies. I’m glad it helped for you as well.

And thank you!

[hannahhh]

giulia > julia

[gracegillian]

Yulia > [name_f]Julia[/name_f]

[rosepip]

I will expand this to:

iulia > yulia > giulia > julia

[enwmn]

For me it’s:

iulia>giulia>julia>yulia

[ethelmary]

Julie > [name_f]Julia[/name_f]

[josieaitken]

Jula > [name_f]Julia[/name_f] >[name_u]Julie[/name_u]