I find it soā¦ eerie when everyoneās like āOh, your babyās named Molly? Zenobia would be a perfect nickname! They both have that O sound after all 
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Meawhile, Iām like 
When I come across posts where no oneās willing to say anything that doesnāt validate OP, I know Iām not their audience and just keep scrolling so I donāt incur their wrath !! 
I read about some nicknames like 
Iām all for unexpected nicknames that have nothing to do with the first name, but really donāt get when theyāre planned. I find it cute to call a fun and lively girl Scout, butā¦ whatās the point of planning that before she exists
I donāt agree with these specifically, but I think some people really do go to great lengths to get to a nickname they like. I admit Iām guilty of that as well with certain nicknames I love, but I try to avoid it. And in general I still think that if you want to call your child by a certain name, then give your child that name and donāt use a longer/different name if youāre not going to use it anyway. And the āit gives them more options if they donāt like the nicknameā makes no sense, because basically youāre saying that everyone who gives their child a short name or a name without a whole range of nickname options is selling their child short, which is ridiculous.
Some people have nicknames that seem to be unrelated to their full name or that are a stretch, but I find that these nicknames usually come about in a more organic or natural way, theyāre not planned. In that case thereās obviously nothing wrong with it, anyone can use the nickname they want. But thatās a completely different situation.
People do this with Italian names all the time, and itās super easy for them to get away with it. But when will people finally understand that [name_f]Chiara[/name_f] and [name_f]Gianna[/name_f] are only 2 syllables and [name_m]Giovanni[/name_m] is only 3??
Oh yes 
It happens with Russian names too, all the time. [name_m]Nikolai[/name_m] is not suddenly pronounced NIK-oh-lay just because you like it better.
Yikes.
this this this. I donāt mind stretchy nicknames, and itās cool if it just develops naturally but I think itās weird if you plan it out like that. The best nicknames are the ones that just kinda happen (with stretchy nicknames of course, sometimes have a set nickname but itās already fairly popular or obvious then I think thatās fine, ie. Alexander nn Alex etc, etc), if you name your daughter Rose and then as a cute little nickname you end up calling her Blossom thatās adorable, but if you name your daughter Rose with the complete intend on calling Blossom then why donāt you just name her Blossom?
Am I the only berry that just canāt get on board with [name_f]Celeste[/name_f]? 
Nope. Iāve never liked Celeste. 
(No offense to anyone with the name or who likes it, of course. Itās just not my cup of tea.)
Ugh yes! I see this every day with Hebrew names ah 
I liked it until I realized I wasnāt pronouncing it right. I was pronouncing it seh-lehs-tee which I loved 
I found it in a book and pronounced it seh-LESS-teh. And although itās completely against the very good point that has just been made in this thread about changing pronunciations at will, there are several correct ones for [name_f]Celeste[/name_f] and I think itās fine to choose any of them as āyoursā.
The English pronunciation of many Hebrew, Latin, Greek etc origin names is so weird. I blame the Great Vowel Shift. Why do we pronounce David as day-vid when the Hebrew pronunciation is dah-veed?
The Great Vowel Shift was a mistake. Thatās my hot take.
That is indeed a hot take!
Honestly, I donāt think changing the pronunciation to feel natural in the language youāre speaking is as bad as having a faux-french/spanish/russian pronunciation of a name.
Iād rather you say [name_f]EsmĆ©[/name_f] as Es-mee than try to sell me ez-may, specifically the -ay sound, as the [name_u]French[/name_u] Ć©. Itās really not the same (closest would be stopping right before you pronounce the -y in -ay).
However, once a name has been integrated into a language with whatever pronunciation, I do think itās fine to use it, even if itās technically incorrect. Whether thatās [name_f]EsmĆ©[/name_f], [name_m]Nikolai[/name_m] (though Iāve only ever heard NEE-koh-lye) or [name_f]Gianna[/name_f].
Especially in [name_u]America[/name_u] I just view it as the same way origin/ancestry has been Americanized - if you want to call yourself Italian and name your kid gee-ah-na, go ahead, itās Americanized Italian and thatās valid in its own right, just donāt argue about it with somebody from [name_f]Italy[/name_f].
Okay, so pre-planning nicknames.
Here we go. [name_f]My[/name_f] irl name is currently trending with the Berries. The nn I go by is pretty common in the US, especially for around the years I was born. With this being said, my parents tweaked the spelling of my name so that the nn I go by is more obvious.
I have been called by my nn my entire life, because I just have. So I have a pre-planned nn and I find no problem with it. I feel evenly my nn and my full name, and thereās not a division there, of which I feel āmoreā like.
So plan your kidās if you want to. Go for it!
I LOVE Lorde. Specifically that spelling. Itās slightly influenced by the singer but I grew to love the name on its own, I love the sound of it and the E makes it look so elegant to me. Unfortunately in my opinion I think itād be inappropriate to use for literally anything other than a fake name
I agree, just donāt expect other people to understand or use the nickname if it doesnāt come natural to them or if they feel another, more intuitive nickname suits your child better.
Basically, you get to choose what everyone calls your child when you announce their name, e.g. āThis is [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] but she will be called Lynnieā but if you say āThis is Evelynā and you end up calling her Lynnie while others call her [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] or [name_f]Evie[/name_f], let them.
My hot take today is that Jem is overrated.
I said this for non-obvious nicknames. Your nickname makes perfect sense with your first name. What I mean is, things like [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] nn [name_u]Teddy[/name_u]. Justā¦ wait it to come. [name_u]Or[/name_u] name him [name_u]Teddy[/name_u].