Hot Takes? 🤭

[AveryExtraterrestria]

To me they SOUND cool but just too surnamey to feel like actual names if that makes sense

[tallemaja]

i don’t even know if this is a hot take or a rant, but i’m always so confused when i see people arguing over minor pronunciation differences like babes i’m sorry ah-na and an-ah are the same to me. to reference night’s recent example, leen-dah and lyn-dah are the same to me! there’s a tiny difference but it’s so small that if i hear it i don’t care, so i’m always left so confused with some of the pronunciation polls on nameberry where people will be arguing vehemently over if it’s an “ee” sound vs “ih” sound, an “au” sound vs an “aw” sound or something

[leafygreens]

@tallemaja

lyn-dah

Maybe LIHN-dah better explains it to you than LYN-dah? Though I agree it’s confusing a lot of the time I just try and hope for the best

[tallemaja]

HAH it’s okay i appreciate the attempt </3 i think i’m simply broken. ears don’t work like they used to (this is a joke)

[Rosebeth]

@tallemaja

i’m always so confused when i see people arguing over minor pronunciation differences like babes i’m sorry ah-na and an-ah are the same to me. to reference night’s recent example, leen-dah and lyn-dah are the same to me!

I’m one of those people. And also, LYN-dah and LEEN-dah are hugely different to me, they can never sound the same

[GenEric]

I dislike when people name their children long names just to call them by nicknames and never use their full name. There are many lovely nicknames, but why not name your child just [name_f]Beth[/name_f] if you’re never going to call her [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f]?

[almondmilk]

@GenEric

I dislike when people name their children long names just to call them by nicknames and never use their full name.

For me, a nickname name just doesn’t feel complete. I love the nickname Vivi but I would never put that on a kid’s birth certificate because it’s nice to have a name to fall back on, especially in different settings. I have a friend called Margaret who goes by Margaret in professional settings but with friends and family we all call her Margie (hard g) and Mags. I wouldn’t put Mags on a birth certificate, since I don’t see it as a stand-alone name. Beth is a little different since it does have history as a stand-alone name and is commonly used as such. I see your point there, but for some names like Theodore nn Theo or Teddy, I’d rather put Theodore on the birth certificate. It just seems more complete to me

[Rosebeth]

@almondmilk

For me, a nickname name just doesn’t feel complete.

I agree in a lot of cases, but it’s different when you plan on calling your child only by that nickname. And I definitely don’t agree that, like a lot of people have said on here in the past, you need to give your child a longer name to give your child “options”. That would mean that every child with a shorter name without a ton of options has been sold short.
I think almost any nickname can work as a full name.

[almondmilk]

@Rosebeth

And I definitely don’t agree that, like a lot of people have said on here in the past, you need to give your child a longer name to give your child “options”

Shorter names can totally be sweet! I love Esme but not Esmeralda. I wouldn’t use Esmeralda just because it’s a longer name. It really just depends on the name. Options are nice, but definitely not required or needed

[judy.newstead]

It depends on the name. Some nicknames are definitely too cutesy to stand alone imo (Kitty, [name_f]Evie[/name_f], [name_f]Lulu[/name_f] type).
I personally, am named one of those really cutesy twee feminine names, and I feel it has greatly short changed me. It doesnt fit, it hasnt grown with me, and i feel it changes others’ perceptions of me.I now choose to go by the standard long form of my name. [name_u]Kitty[/name_u] may be fine with being [name_u]Kitty[/name_u] when she’s seven, but its nice for her to have [name_f]Katherine[/name_f] and [name_f]Kate[/name_f] and [name_f]Kathy[/name_f] to fall back on should she choose. Nobody blinks an eye when [name_f]Juliana[/name_f] says she wants to go by [name_u]Juli[/name_u], but there is a weird reaction when [name_u]Juli[/name_u] says she’d rather be [name_f]Juliana[/name_f]. Please save your children the conflict.

[may.rose]

Another aspect is how it flows with the last name! [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f] [name_m]Jones[/name_m] flows a whole lot better than [name_f]Rose[/name_f] [name_m]Jones[/name_m], so parents may opt for the former even if they plan on calling her [name_f]Rose[/name_f]!

[tallemaja]

i think it depends on the person some people will hate having a nickname name, some will love it - i wish i had a “cutesy” nickname name! and a lot of names that others have mentioned like evie or margie feel perfectly usable to me. you never know what your child will prefer so i don’t think it’s worth discussing whether they’ll wish they had a longer name to fall back on or not

[Tasia]

Found a more suitable thread to share my angst lol!

[Inlakesh]

@GenEric

but why not name your child just Beth if you’re never going to call her Elizabeth?

I’ve never really understood this take because I have literally never known a single person that exclusively goes by a nn. Maybe it’s just the culture where I’m from, but even the people that go by a nn 99% of the time, there’s still at least one person that uses their full name.

Also, sometimes people don’t intend to only use the nn, but that’s just what happens as the kid grows up, and sometimes they intend to only use a nn but they end up using the full name anyway because it just fits better. Honestly, I think it makes more sense to call Katherine Kitty most of the time than it does to call Kitty Katherine.

In other words, it’s like insurance for me. I would be really annoyed if I needed it and it wasn’t there. But not needing it and having it anyway is not really an inconvenience.

[winterlyricalfox]

[name_f]My[/name_f] hot take of the day: I honestly like the name [name_f]Mildred[/name_f]! I could see why people would only hear “mildew” or “dread”, but I think it has the spunky, clunky-cool granny flair of [name_f]Dorothy[/name_f] and [name_f]Nancy[/name_f]!

[Myosotis]

On nicknames, I did used to be firmly in the ‘use the name you intend on using’ camp. I still am, but to a lesser extent. If you like and intend to use the full name, but have some nickname options you like, or the nickname comes organically, then that makes sense to me. I personally go mostly by my nickname now, but I do like having my full name as an option. That being said, I am surprised by some names that are considered ‘too nicknamey’. For example I wouldn’t assume [name_f]Sally[/name_f], [name_f]Evie[/name_f], [name_u]Kitty[/name_u], [name_u]Izzy[/name_u], or [name_f]Ellie[/name_f] (to name a few) were short for anything, so they definitely don’t fall into that category for me. I do live in the UK might be part of it though.

[MirandaKReno]

[name_f]My[/name_f] hot take:
The diminutive [name_f]Trixie[/name_f] is better then [name_f]Beatrix[/name_f]
Trixie> [name_f]Beatrix[/name_f].
That is all.

[tallemaja]

@winterlyricalfox

My hot take of the day: I honestly like the name Mildred! I could see why people would only hear “mildew” or “dread”, but I think it has the spunky, clunky-cool granny flair of Dorothy and Nancy!

yes!! mildred has been a favourite of mine for years i love how you can have both the sweet millie and the spunky red as nicknames, and the meaning “gentle strength” is so incredible!

[may.rose]

This is me with [name_f]Prudence[/name_f] and [name_f]Gertrude[/name_f]!

[winterlyricalfox]

I love [name_f]Prudence[/name_f] too!! Annie-Pru is definitely one of my favorite double-barrel names I would def use it as a nickname for [name_f]Johanna[/name_f] [name_f]Prudence[/name_f] or [name_f]Susanna[/name_f] [name_f]Prudence[/name_f] !