Lately I’ve been thinking of my siblings’ names a lot [name_f][/name_f]- they’re some of my dearest friends, and I would love to honor them just as much as I would my parents or grandparents were I to be blessed with a precious kiddo. [name_f][/name_f] Where do you draw the line with “oh this is too close to XXXX’s name”? [name_f][/name_f] For years I’ve felt that I would need to keep [name_m]Breccan[/name_m] and [name_f]Natalia[/name_f] as middles (my sisters’ names are Reb3cca and Nat@lie) since they sound so close. [name_f][/name_f] But maybe it’s because I want[name_f][/name_f] them to work, but I have had Tali/Talitha on my list for years as a first name, and I 100% would have named a son [name_m]Jack[/name_m] (a variant of my brother’s name). [name_f][/name_f] I would love to know if you’d use a first name that is very similar in sound to a close family member of yours, especially with the intent of honoring them, and where would you draw the line?
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I’m so in love with the idea of [name_m]Breccan[/name_m] nn [name_m]Beck[/name_m] lately, but is [name_m]Beck[/name_m] and B3cca too much for one very close family? [name_f][/name_f] Would love to know your thoughts!
I think [name_f]Natalia[/name_f] and [name_m]Beck[/name_m] are too close, at least for me, since they’re only one letter off your siblings’ names. But [name_f]Tali[/name_f] and [name_f]Talitha[/name_f] are lovely.
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Granted, I know families where family members share the exact same name, and they’re doing fine, but I personally do dislike that when it comes to close family where it could become confusing or require constant clarification as to who you’re talking about! I’ve had to exclude my brother’s name (and its variants) from my list because I just know I would feel weird about it, even though I love the name and me and my brother get along [name_f][/name_f] well
[name_f]My[/name_f] family has multiple Rebecca/Rebekah/Becky/Becca/Beck/Beckett -s (none of whom are named after each other btw) so I think [name_m]Breccan[/name_m] nn [name_m]Beck[/name_m] [name_f]Rebecca[/name_f] nn [name_f]Becca[/name_f] is totally normal and fine… honestly a little [name_m]Beck[/name_m] having an Aunt [name_f]Becca[/name_f] is so cute (we have that in my family lol)
Breccan and Natalia are so cool and creative as honor names for Rebecca and Natalie. Beck and Becca might get misheard as the other name sometimes, but I don’t think that’s enough to rule out the name you love. Natalia nickname Tali is less close in my mind, since Natalia has multiple distinct sounds from Natalie (the vowel sounds are different throughout) and Tali is a completely different name.
I will also say I grew up in a large extended family with lots of honor names / very close names (think Allie and Callie, Rod and Rodney) and it never caused problems. If Jamie is always little nephew Jamie, there’s not much confusion between him and his always-James uncle. I think they naturally start to feel less similar over time because you start associating each name with completely different people.
I love this idea and understand completely where your train of thought is. A few thoughts in my humble opinion [name_f][/name_f]-
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While you and your siblings are super close, do you live close to each other? [name_f]My[/name_f] brother and I live in the same state but still like 5 hours away from each other. His youngest is named after me, not the same exact name, but VERY close and it has never remotely been an issue. We see each other often and are all very close. It was such an honor (and shock to me) that it would have never felt too close to me as the honoree. And then my youngest’s middle is after him too. (see I get it!!)
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And second, I have never heard of [name_m]Breccan[/name_m] and think that is the sweet nod to your sister. While [name_m]Beck[/name_m] and [name_m]Bec[/name_m] are essentially the same, does anyone call your sister a variation of [name_m]Bec[/name_m] or is it just [name_f]Rebecca[/name_f]? Either way, it works!
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I may be in the minority here but there is no way I think any of your honor names are too close. Isn’t that the idea of an honor name, to “honor” someone? If you veer too far from that it isn’t honoring them. That said, family names and are all over my family. I named my own based on the family names that hadn’t been used yet. All of yours work and perfectly however you put them together!
For me, I find myself avoiding Ad-, Ru-, and [name_f]Lu[/name_f]- names in the first spot as they’re too close to family members, but I have pondered -lu- names still?
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I’d personally want to talk to my sibs/family members about it and get their thoughts [name_f][/name_f]- because I know that if a family member used Grace/Gracie/Gray/Grayson, I wouldn’t like it? And I get the feeling my brother wouldn’t like me using an [name_m]Ad[/name_m]- name either.
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Howeve, I wouldn’t be bothered if they used [name_f][/name_f] an [name_f]Ell[/name_f]- name (from my middle) or even something like [name_m]Chase[/name_m], [name_m]Casey[/name_m], [name_m]Ace[/name_m], [name_m]Grant[/name_m], [name_m]Grady[/name_m]? [name_f][/name_f] [name_f]So[/name_f] maybe [name_m]Breccan[/name_m] with R’s name is fine?
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However, I am aware that others LOVE the idea of sharing their name or something similar [name_f][/name_f]- that it feels special / feels like an honour [name_f][/name_f] which is why I’d check in first
This is entirely fair lol. [name_f][/name_f] Granted [name_f]Natalia[/name_f] does[name_f][/name_f] feel too close to me, but I’ve wondered more realistically about just [name_f]Tali[/name_f] or something like [name_f]Talia[/name_f], [name_f]Thalia[/name_f], or [name_f]Talitha[/name_f]. [name_f][/name_f] N@talie does go by [name_f]Talie[/name_f] (Tally) now and then, mostly by me, and I know she loves that nn, she uses it on her social media, etc. [name_f][/name_f] But I was really the only one who used it and I’ve been defaulting to just N@talie for a while now. [name_f][/name_f] We have so many J0hns and J0hnnys in our family, it’s never been an issue, which is what makes me think [name_f]Tali[/name_f] or [name_m]Breccan[/name_m] would be entirely fine. [name_f][/name_f] But I’m not 100% decided yet. [name_f][/name_f] And there are no kids in the picture that I might give the names to, so. [name_f][/name_f] At least for now.
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oh this is good to know! [name_f][/name_f] I do call my sister B3c sometimes if I’m being lazy, but with so many repeat names in my family already, I feel like we would find something that works?
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That definitely makes sense! [name_f][/name_f] I think our family has done the same; there’s some who go by initials, some go by a double barrel, some go by nicknames! [name_f][/name_f] It’s never really been a problem, and tbh I’m not even sure the different “nicknames” etc. were picked to try and differentiate? [name_f][/name_f] I mean I love the idea of having an individual name, but [name_m]Breccan[/name_m] and [name_f]Talitha[/name_f] feel like such special names, and using [name_m]Breccan[/name_m] as a middle was not[name_f][/name_f] working for me lol. [name_f][/name_f] I couldn’t find any first names I liked for him, but have several I like as middles for [name_m]Breccan[/name_m] (Ivo, [name_m]Ezra[/name_m], etc.).
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Thank you for your thoughts! [name_f][/name_f] And depends on the sibling, and honestly could change, my sister that lives close also works for a very international company and I wouldn’t be shocked if she has to move in the future [name_f][/name_f]- we’ve always come and gone and sometimes we’re close to certain family members and sometimes it’s other ones! [name_f][/name_f] But regardless we’ve always stayed close and even my sister who lived in Guam for a time we would talk to virtually every day. [name_f][/name_f] And my sister is B3cca 95% of the time. [name_f][/name_f] Occasionally I do call her B3c, but not very often I don’t think? [name_f][/name_f] [name_m]Just[/name_m] when I’m trying to get her attention.
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[name_m]Oh[/name_m], this is an interesting point! [name_f][/name_f] It hadn’t even crossed my mind that they wouldn’t like it, my sister used honor names for both her boys. [name_f][/name_f] But also a very good idea! [name_f][/name_f] I would probably have to have close to a dozen kiddos (or two) to get around to using [name_f]Talitha[/name_f] or [name_m]Breccan[/name_m], and definitely don’t need a decision made yet. [name_f][/name_f]
[name_f][/name_f] which is why I’d check in first