This was definitely my experience too. I didn’t love super-frilly names, but definitely liked longish names with cool meanings… [name_f]Astraea[/name_f], [name_f]Alethia[/name_f], [name_f]Elysia[/name_f], [name_f]Athena[/name_f]. But also liked some shorter ones like [name_f]Chloe[/name_f], [name_f]Ida[/name_f].
Suddenly with a real baby I had to think more about the actual wearability, as well as flow with my partner’s surname, AND his tremendous list of vetoes.
The way we ended up doing it was to come up with a list of names we both kinda liked - a LOT or me suggesting and him vetoing. Thought about wearability, flow, meaning (as meaning is important to me). Went to hospital with a shortlist of 3 names. One I’d liked quite a lot for a long time ([name_f]Elsie[/name_f] after my great grandmother), another was much more recent ([name_f]Sylvia[/name_f]) that I’d liked for a few years since meeting a [name_f]Sylvie[/name_f] and I liked the meaning.
Baby did not come out just looking like an anything, she just looked like our cute little smooshy faced baby. So we still had no idea for like 3 days and then just went with one of them.
This time around, with a boy, we have a shortlist of 2 names. Neither are ones that I’ve loved a long time. One is my partner’s suggestion that has really grown on me, the other is one I’d heard of before but when suggested here in the forums I was kinda like… actually maybe I do kinda like that name, maybe it’s a possibility. And since then it really grew on me.