[name]How[/name] do you know if your name remorse “means something” – as in, how do you know if the remorse is significant enough to actually make a change?
Another thread got me thinking. Well actually, I have been at times consumed thinking about it since my daughter was born 8 weeks ago. I don’t know if we picked the right name for her, and it is heavy on my mind. I love her name, but I don’t know if the name is right for her. Maybe I am just not giving it enough time for the name to “grow” on her, but from the beginning it hasn’t fit her. I guess I am scared that this feeling will never go away, which makes me start to panic a little. I wish I could rewind to the day she was born and really think things through before announcing her name. I was uncertain from the moment we picked the name – when the nurses would ask what her name was, I would say “We are 90% sure it will be —” So I obviously wasn’t confident with our name choice from the very beginning…it just seemed like the best choice at the time. Now I am not so sure it was the right one.
I just want to be at peace with her name so I can enjoy her 100% and not feel so stressed about her name. I still call her “baby” most of the time, and I really want to feel connected to her name and feel proud of it, too.
Any advice, thoughts or suggestions?
Has anyone been through something like this? What would you do?
I know a little uncertainty and doubt is common, but how do you know if it is just a little doubt that will go away, or if it is such strong remorse that it is worth changing the name?
Or do I just trust that she will grow into her name and I will someday love it 100% without regret? I don’t want to spend the rest of my life wishing I would have done something about it…yet I don’t want to regret changing it, either sigh