Have you been keeping track of your ovulation? [name]How[/name] do you know those are your only fertile days? I’m trying to get pregnant now too and would never just have sex once a month. That’s really limiting your chances…
I use an ovulation calculator type thing and I know my body pretty well. I get cramps on either my left side or right as well. We were not going to try and conceive till the fall. We have been using the pull out method. So this was kind of a last minute whim to see if it would work this early on. We are trying again tonight but I am not sure if it will help. I may have missed my window of opportunity. I do not want to become one of those people who are like “okay! Ovulation time, lets have sex!” I do not like routine like that. Or want sex to become all about that, taking away the fun of it.
Seriously, you’re so young, and I’m sure healthy, have sex a couple of times a week and you’ll get pregnant eventually. If you only do it a couple of times a month you might need to do more planning.
@ottilie this is the first time ever purposely trying. I am just impatient and its the waiting game that gets me crazed. We have to try and have sex more in general but things have been a little crazy with his job and mine so by the time he gets home he is ready to pass out when I am kind of the night owl and can stay awake. [name]Will[/name] it make a difference if we try tonight since my last day of ovulation was yesterday?
As I said, I don’t know much, but I’ve heard that there are really no safe periods, which means you probably could get pregnant when you’re not ovulating. I think those things matters more if you have trouble conceiving. But I’m not an expert. Anyways, go have sex with your man! It’s fun and good practice anyway. When I was 23… well. I shan’t tell.
It took us a year, but I was diagnosed with PCOS during that time so that was a factor in why it took that long. The first 6 months my cycle was irregular and I may not have been ovulating at all. It took 6 months after starting treatment for PCOS. We actually conceived the month I was really giving up hope. I had been charting my BBT and CM, but stopped doing it that month because it was causing me too much stress. Once I stopped obsessing about it, everything worked out! My advice is relax, enjoy the process, and have sex every 2-3 days. Stress is not conducive to ovulation, so if tracking your fertility and trying to do it at the “right” time makes you bonkers, don’t. And, you asked if you should try tonight even though the last day of the “fertile window” was yesterday? Um, yeah you should!
Ovulation calculators always go by averages too… Not every woman has perfect, spot on [name]Day[/name] 14 ovulation. I would for sure keep going, but only if it’s not stressing you out too much!
I wouldn’t worry too much about the exact window you calculated, you could easily ovulate a day or three earlier or later (I was about a week off from when my calendar said I should have ovulated, but like I said before, pretty irregular). Generally you want to try a few times between 5 days before ovulation through the actual day-of, but really, just try for every few days throughout the middle of your cycle and you’re quite likely to get the timing right.
If you find all the guestimating is stressing you out more and want to get super precise about it, an ovulation predictor kit (I like the wondfo test strips you get on amazon) will zero in on exactly when you’re ovulating. Still aim for every couple days, but then you know for sure when that window has passed.
@scarlett - Having sex more than once during your fertile window definitely increases your chances of conceiving. The best days are two days before ovulation, the day before ovulation, the day of ovulation and the day after ovulation if you can manage four days in a row! Ideally, you should have sex every second or third day throughout the month, but more frequently during your fertile window (you can have sex every day of the month if you want - this won’t affect your partner’s sperm count unless it’s low to begin with). If you download an app (I use Period Tracker) it highlights your most fertile days each month and allows you to keep track of when your periods are, when you’re ovulating, etc. Once you ovulate, the egg only lasts 12-24 hours. So, having sex more than 24 hours after ovulation probably won’t result in conception. Given that you’re only 23, you’ll probably conceive fairly quickly if you (and your partner) don’t have any fertility issues. However, it’s different for everyone. As your doctor will tell you, anything less than a year is considered normal. You should probably try OPKs (ovulation predictor kits) at least once just to be sure you’re ovulating when you think you are. If you’re a few days out, that could screw up your chances of conceiving.
@ottilie - You can’t get pregnant if you’re not ovulating. The reason people say there’s no really safe time is because many women aren’t completely sure when they ovulate every month. If you’re not TTC, you’re probably not concentrating on how your body works and when ovulation occurs so you could have sex during ovulation and get pregnant because you didn’t realise you were ovulating. Also, sperm can live up to seven days in a woman’s body, so if you have sex during that time prior to ovulation, you could still get pregnant. I’ve just realised I know way too much about this stuff! This is what TTC for four months does to you!
Haha, I feel the exact same way. I understand conflicting job schedules, injuries, etc. but I’ve always had the theory that if you have sex everyday, you’re covered! Sex for the purpose of procreation should be no different than normal, fun sex. Maybe even more fun!
[name]Ottilie[/name], did you get married? 
I was wondering the same thing, did I miss the big announcement? I’ll be gutted if I did, I haven’t checked in on the wedding thread in ages so I’m not up to date!
Anyway, I agree with the majority. [name]Baby[/name] dance as often as you can and if nothing happens in 6 months, start seeking advice then. It took us quite a few tries to get pregnant on [name]Daisy[/name].
I don’t think it would hurt to know your cycle - try to figure out when your ovulating, buy some home kits, start taking prenatals now etc. so that if in 6 months you do have to go down that road, you’ll have all your information ready which will speed up the investigation process.
Best of luck to you x
Thank you guys so much!!! I know I really have to make more time for it. Its terrible, it is always hard for me to want to engage in sex as it is. I am not sure why I am like that. it was not like that in the beginning of our relationship but I guess routine and the “honey moon” stage kind of being over may have something to do with it? But we gave it a whirl last night so we shall see what happens. I am more relaxed and realizing if it doesn’t happen this cycle I can try the next time and I will calculate right after I get my period.
Is it true you can conceive right after you get your period or that is a myth?
[name]How[/name] old are you, [name]Scarlett[/name], if you don’t mind me asking? I conceived [name]Mila[/name] by accident when I was 22… On the mini pill. She was born when I was 23. Now I’m 26 and this is our first month TTC number 2. My husband and I have sex most days so we haven’t done much differently this month, although I did make sure we dtd during the days I thought I was fertile… Bit confused about which days those actually were though, lol.
The one I’m currently pregnant with was an accident. With my boys, it took three months of trying to get pregnant with the eldest and the younger one we weren’t even properly trying, just using a “if it happens it happens” approach and at some point pretty early on, it happened.
Yeah, I did. [name]Just[/name] simple and easy at the registry office. We’re going to have a big party/hand fasting thing after this baby is born, this was just for us and certain things regarding the children are easier (less paperwork) when we’re married. I didn’t want to get married while pregnant, and my husband (so weird to say that!) didn’t want to wait another year…
Not to hijack the thread, but congratulations, [name]Ottilie[/name]! 
[name]Scarlett[/name], to answer your question as to whether you can get pregnant right after your period or not - well, it depends on when you ovulate. Some people ovulate as early as day 8 of your cycle (cycle day 1 is the first day of flow), so that person could get pregnant right after their period. But if you don’t ovulate until day 14 or day 22 or later, then no, you wouldn’t get pregnant right after your period.
@scarlett - It’s highly unlikely to get pregnant on your period. However, as [name]Andie[/name] said, some women ovulate close to their period, so they could get pregnant right after. If you’re not pregnant this month, track your cycle next month. The most likely time of ovulation is fourteen days before your period (or thereabouts).
My 2cents
#1 took about two goes after coming off the pill (was on it for about 15years). Sadly this pregnancy ended in a miscarriage and a D&C.
#2 I waited for 2 periods after miscarriage and then fell pregnant with my daughter.
#3 when my daughter just turned 1 we decided to try again. And in fact, I was actually already pregnant with my son and didn’t know I was till a week after we decided to go for it again! So that one was easy!
TTC #4 been actively trying for about 3 months. But this last month is the first time I have actually tracked my ovulation by peeing on a stick. I’m fortunate I have a regular cycle and the stick test was pretty much spot on as to when I expected to ovulate. So there was just a lot more “action” over the 4-5 day ovulation window
Having said all that, just because you have sex during your ovulation window doesn’t make it a guarantee that you will get pregnant but if your aren’t ovulating then you will NOT get pregnant. The sperm and the egg have to go hand in hand. But all the talk about ovulating 14 days before your period is due is classed as the “norm”. Some women don’t ovulate every month, some women don’t have a regular cycle, some women ovulate early or late. So if you are trying to fall pregnant and are determined to try and do it in your window, then track it. If you are keen just to give it a try any time then have sex every 2nd day for a few months and see what happens. [name]Trust[/name] me, in my case, after having 2 kids I have to be much more organised in timing this one!!
With [name]Matilda[/name] we stopped preventing it and let nature do what it was going to do.
With [name]Eloise[/name] we tried twice and were successful. With [name]Walter[/name] and the twins, I got pregnant while breast feeding so we weren’t actively trying.
With this pregnancy we tried for about 6 months before we got success.
This one might be the last. But I love being pregnant so may e not.
I guess it is just different for everyone I just feel like it is so hard trying to pin point when your egg is being released. So trying every other day during that time is probably our best bet. I get my period next week so we will really see but I have this weird feeling it did not work this time around.
Did you berries know after you tried or not really?? My friend said after they tried she knew she was prego with her son then took a test a few weeks later and came out positive.