Looking for some input on how to balance both sides of the family when it comes to honor names.
My husband’s family has a tradition of passing down the name [name_u]James[/name_u] to the firstborn son of the previous generation’s firstborn son. My husband is already a [name_u]James[/name_u] himself, and I’m a [name_u]Jamie[/name_u], so we agreed to compromise by putting it in the middle spot. He also lost his father to cancer shortly after we started dating and would like to honor him by incorporating his name, [name_u]Douglas[/name_u], as well.
My husband’s family doesn’t repeat names (i.e., Sr./[name_m]Jr[/name_m]., IV, etc.) so we can’t use the combo [name_u]Douglas[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u] (his father’s full name) on a potential son - for that reason, we agreed to make both [name_u]James[/name_u] and [name_u]Douglas[/name_u] middle names (ex: ________ [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_u]Douglas[/name_u])
MY father has mentioned that he’d like to share his name, [name_u]Michael[/name_u], with a grandson, but I’ve known so many Mikes/Michaels throughout my life, I can’t possibly imagine using it as a first name, and I’m not sold on alternatives like [name_u]Micah[/name_u].
Also - if we managed to find a way to touch on everyone’s wishes, I think I’d feel really bad about leaving out my wonderful stepfather, [name_m]Victor[/name_m]. He doesn’t have a middle name, but his last name is [name_m]Santiago[/name_m] - maybe we could claim [name_u]James[/name_u] for him, too?
[name_m]How[/name_m] have other parents handled this fine line? [name_f]Do[/name_f] we stick with our original plan and pick an unrelated name we love to go with mns [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_u]Douglas[/name_u]? Or find a different combo to make everyone happy (maybe [name_u]Douglas[/name_u] [name_u]Michael[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u]?)
I’m not sure I like the idea of “saving” [name_u]Michael[/name_u] and [name_m]Victor[/name_m] for a second son we can’t guarantee would even happen, but four names plus a last name seems like A LOT for one kid!
Any opinions/advice is appreciated!