How'd you get your BFP?

Parentberries
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I love hearing other people’s stories, and scarletsway’s post made me want to hear more BFP stories!!! And I’m really really hoping some of the lovely ladies on the TTC board can share theirs when they get them too :slight_smile:

SO - i’ll start I guess!

Hubby & I got married in Feb 2009 and have been ready for a baby for a long time, but there was always something that came up that delayed trying. That was until late last year when we decided ‘screw it’, and even though there was a whole lot of stuff we could have let get in the way we decided that we didn’t want to wait any more! I’d been on the pill for 12 years so we were realistic in thinking ‘this isn’t going to happen straight away’, and decided not to put any pressure on ourselves. We weren’t trying to conceive, but we weren’t NOT trying either - no pressure that way.

I came off the pill end of [name]September[/name] and it was so exciting! Time went on and come [name]October[/name], no period! I took a test and it was negative, so i figured ‘ok - my body is just taking some time to rebalance naturally having been on the pill so long…’. [name]November[/name], no period, took another test - negative. [name]December[/name], same thing… And again in [name]January[/name]. At this point i was beginning to think something wasn’t right with me - surely it shouldn’t take 4 cycles to get back to normal after the pill right?

[name]Early[/name] Feb came and I got a tattoo on my ankle, which got infected (doh!). I went to the doc to get antibiotics and seeing as I was there anyway I brought up my ‘no periods’ issue. We chatted for awhile and my doctor eventually decided to test for PCOS, which freaked me out but at least it would have been an answer as to why my periods weren’t coming back. So I went and got some blood tests done and waited.

A few days later i got a message on my phone from my doctor asking me to urgently make an appointment in regards to my blood tests results, and to bring my husband. Of course i started thinking something horrible had come up in my tests and she was going to tell me I had cancer or something. So I rang and made an appointment (they cleared a space for me when i told them who it was - i’d been listed as urgent which freaked me out more!), Hubby & I both left work early & rushed straight to her office. We went in prepared for the worst, and got told the best news in the world - I wasn’t sick, I was pregnant!!! I told my doctor she was a cow - lol.

Turns out my body did take awhile to ovulate after i came off the pill which is why no period in [name]October[/name], [name]November[/name] or [name]December[/name]… BUT i did ovulate in [name]January[/name] which is why no period in [name]Jan[/name]! I’d tested as I had every month but I would have only been about 2 weeks along when i tested so got a false negative. I was 6 weeks when I finally found out at the end of Feb… though looking back now i guess if I hadn’t gone to the doctor I would have found out probably the next week anyway when I skipped yet another period and took another test as that one would definitely have been positive :slight_smile:

I kinda like my story though, follows on well from the comedy of errors which is hubby & mine’s relationship (he proposed in a parking building… haha).

What’s your story?

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[name]Hi[/name] anniemarie: I love this, great thread! Your story is sweet, so glad to it was something wonderful and not something bad. For a minute I thought you were going to say you were pregnant the entire time you didn’t have a period - almost like one of those “I didn’t know I was pregnant” ladies!!! But that can be scary so I’m glad it was actually just one month really :slight_smile:

My hubby and I basically went the same route you did. I had been on the pill for about 15 years and had a feeling it would take my body awhile to get back to normal. So I went off of it - but we weren’t really trying, we were just not preventing, figuring it would take a minimum of a year. We weren’t even married yet, that’s how long we thought we had! Well, SURPRISE! It only took 8 months. So since I didn’t have any health insurance at the time, we basically had to run to the courthouse to get married so I could get covered. And that’s what we did - we got married with 9 other couples in an extremely hot, muggy courtroom in [name]Atlanta[/name] on 8/31/2011. Best decision I’ve ever made, without a doubt.

Unfortunately, as many here already know, we ended up losing that pregnancy a few weeks later. So although it was great, financially, that we had gotten married (the whole thing ended up being about $12k), it was really tough to be newly married and to have to go through such a loss. But we somehow made it. Unlike a lot of other women I hear, I was by no means ready to start trying again right away, so we actually ended up waiting a year. I just knew that emotionally it would have been terrible to try again too soon. But once we got back to trying, and I bought some OPK’s and some Mucinex, it only took us 2 cycles before we got our BFP! Hubby was at work (he’s a pilot so work is across the country) and I was spotting so I was thinking no way. But my BFF encouraged me to take a test anyway - I was being especially sensitive to smells and couldn’t stand perfume shopping with her! Well, she was right, it was positive! We freaked out, partially from surprise, partially thinking, OH SH*T, does the spotting mean we’re losing this one too?!?! But it was [name]Easter[/name] [name]Sunday[/name] so all I could do was lay down and wait.

That next day I ran to the OB who did a test and an ultrasound and everything looked good. I’m now at Week 21 and chugging along nicely… I cannot wait to hit the point of viability in a few more weeks. We know it’s a girl which is what I’ve dreamed of my entire life - so this is really the happiest I’ve ever been. Life is good! Looking forward to hearing everyone else’s BFP story too!!!

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We got married at the end of [name]April[/name] 2012 and the day after the wedding moved to [name]KY[/name] from FL (I should mention the day before the wedding I graduated college, it was a VERY busy weekend). Well, in the process of moving and being all of 21, I didn’t really worry about birth control and finding a doctor up here to go to. My DH was pretty sure he would have a hard time producing kids anyway, he had a had surgery after a dirt bike accident and with all his previous partners they had never used any form of control and never had a scare (I told him how stupid that was, together we used condoms and bc)

So I was not on bc but we were mainly using condoms, we worked different shifts anyway, so not a whole lot of time for sex. We started talking about maybe trying in [name]October[/name], I had no periods from [name]May[/name]-Oct. but mine were very off when not on bc so didn’t think about it. I ordered an ovulation kit, but once it got here we decided to wait a couple years and become more settled. So in [name]December[/name] my friend calls me in a panic thinking she might be pregnant, to reassure her I told her we would take the test together and celebrate the negatives! Well, her test was in fact negative and mine was positive! I was so shocked, I took another test and burst into tears (mainly happy) called my DH at work and my friend. We went to the clinic the next day and it was confirmed and I had an emergency ultrasound because I had pain on one side which is a sign of ectopic pregnancy, everything was fine and now due in 6 days!!!

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[name]Love[/name] these stories!

We had decided to start TTC last fall, not expecting anything to happen right away because I have pretty wonky cycles. So I was about 10 dpo and had the works…spotting, sore sore boobs, etc. I woke up one night and chugged maybe five glasses of water in the kitchen and was still so thirsty, something was just off, but I was still sure it was all in my head.

14 dpo was the end of last [name]October[/name], here comes Hurricane [name]Sandy[/name]…our neighborhood is right on [name]Long[/name] Island Sound and we missed evacuations by one street, high tide at midnight, crazy flooding…we made it through in one piece and somehow just lost our electricity (other parts of our neighborhood were underwater). So perfect morning to wake up and decide to take a test! (Before opening my happy hurricane bottle of wine later on…yeah that didn’t happen).

I had to look at my results with a flashlight on the windowsill to be sure, DH was home from work though so I got to share the news immediately, in our dark kitchen while it was still wind-gusting outside. At least I’ll never forget the date I got my BFP. :slight_smile:

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Ill share my most recent story. Dh is in the military and last year he was set to deploy. We have 2 boys already and have dreamed of a little girl since we were kids. Well at the time he was leaving little one was only three months so while we didnt use protection I knew I wasnt ready and the thought of having a daughter without him broke my heart. I wasn’t having periods because of exclusively breastfeeding so I decided to go tobthe dr after not feeling well. I had a uti but not pregnant. I was relieved and sad as well. I knew very well we might not get another chance because of his work. [name]Seven[/name] months later he came home safe. We went to visit family and friends a month after he got back and while driving around our home town after about four days of wanting the same local restaurant and their amazing fry sauce I noticed my low back was really achy. At this point I decided to get some tests I didnt say anything to him I just snuck them inside and took them while family was away. The came back positive instantly. He was out so I told him to come home right away after finally getting him to come home and managing to keep a serious face I took him to the bathroom and showed him the tests. It was awesome to see his face. I am now 16 weeks and we get to find out soon if we got our girl!

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My husband (then boyfriend) and I had been together for almost 4 years and I had been on and off so many forms of birth control. We used condoms for the first few months, then I got on the pill for about a year which threw my hormones totally out of whack, then I was off birth control for a few months and we had a “scare” and I knew I really wasn’t ready yet so I started getting the Depo Provera shot. I was on the shot for about 9 months and it was making me extremely moody, have severe acne, I gained a lot of weight, and when I was “withdrawing” from the Depo, I had a 28 day long period. Seriously. 28 days of heavy bleeding and very large clots, my friend was ready to force me to go to the hospital and then I just stopped bleeding. I was so sick and tired of birth control at that point and I was having anxiety/panic issues due to my Dad passing away, so we went back to condoms for a while.

Around [name]October[/name] of 2010, I just said screw it and told my husband I wasn’t going to bother with birth control anymore and if I got pregnant, so be it. He was alright with it, and every month we were “trying” I honestly thought I was pregnant, I was only 23 and healthy…I just assumed I would get pregnant immediately. The 4th month (around [name]Valentine[/name]'s [name]Day[/name] I remember) I was starting to think something was wrong with me because I knew I wasn’t pregnant that month either, but low and behold I tested and it was positive. I came out of the bathroom shaking with the test in my hands and sat down at the kitchen table. I looked at my husband and said “It’s positive.” And he said something like “Well, what did you expect? We’ve been having lots of unprotected sex!” And I remember getting kind of mad at him for not being overly excited with me. :rolleyes:

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I have been on the pill for several years (Alesse). Hubs and I got married in [name]Summer[/name] 2010. In [name]September[/name] 2011 I forgot to take my pill for 2 or 3 days & then had a weird, light period that lasted about 3 weeks & decided I should get off the pill if the hormones were going to do crazy things like that to my body. We were planning to TTC starting [name]January[/name] 2012. Anyway in [name]October[/name] 2011 I went off the pill & got pregnant that same month. I had that preggo feeling (kinda bloaty, ultra emotional) pretty much right away after we conceived. I took a test day or two early & got a negative but I knew I had to be pregnant- so I took another one the next day - negative - and another one finally positive! - I ended up taking 2 more of the digital ones to try and figure out how far along the little bean was. We were living in a bad neighborhood when we got pregnant, and it was a bit stressful buying our house when I was 7 months pregnant, but it was all part of the experience! And baby was born on Canada Day last year, 6 pounds (she dropped to 5.15 the following week) and at almost 13 months she is still not even 17 pounds. So our little Azula came a little earlier than we were expecting but it all worked out great.

Edited To Add: Our current pregnancy was unplanned as well. I am all for kids close in age, since I was 15 months apart from my brother growing up and we shared a great childhood. Anyway we weren’t TTC because I didn’t want to have a winter baby (I’m a bit paranoid about cold weather for newborns, plus I thought I would feel like a furnace being pregnant and all bundled up in long pants and sweaters). I wanted to hold off TTC until around May so we could have a due date sometime from February through October. My last period was Easter Weekend, I had JUST started a p/t serving job and Azula was about 9 months and still breastfeeding almost exclusively. I guess it must have been the change to my nursing schedule or something, anyway I got pregnant that cycle. I had been prescribed a low-dose birth control pill but I wasn’t taking them cause I hate the idea of putting synthetic hormones in my body. I figured since I was f/t breastfeeding I would be less likely to get pregnant, and if I did then “c’est la vie”, whatever happens, happens. This time again I had the feeling I was pregnant. Limited myself to 3 tests this time (I am not a patient woman). Both times I just marched right out of the bathroom with the stick in my hand & told my husband “I KNEW IT!”

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It is so fun to read these posts! Great idea anniemarie!

I’ll share mine…

When I met [name]Jonathan[/name] in February 2010, he and his ex-wife had only been separated for 5 months. He had three children and told me almost immediately that he did not plan to have anymore. His youngest daughter was only 8 months old at the time, and I briefly entertained the thought that I would be perfectly happy helping raise the baby and his other children, that I did not need to have any children of my own. However, by our second or third date I told him that I fully intended to have children someday and if he was sure he was done having kids, we should probably not pursue things. Well, fast forward to [name]December[/name] 2010 (he had changed his mind about having more kids), we got engaged. We were married in [name]May[/name] 2011. I always knew I wanted to finish getting my teaching degree before I started TTC, but when the time came, I decided I wanted to work a few years as a teacher before having a baby. I got a little impatient though, and we decided to have my IUD removed and start our TTC journey together in [name]December[/name] 2012. We both thought that we would get pregnant really quick. I had just always thought it would be really fast (probably due to a few pregnancy scares in my earlier twenties). My husband had experienced two quick (and surprise) pregnancies and one pregnancy that took a little while to happen, but he still thought it would happen the first or second month of trying. Well, [name]December[/name] turned to [name]January[/name], which turned to February, which turned to [name]March[/name], which turned to [name]April[/name], which turned to [name]May[/name] and that is when we finally conceived our little one. It was shortly after our second wedding anniversary and I told my husband I had one more anniversary surprise for him. He was laying in bed and I crawled in next to him and handed him the positive test. I am now 13w2d and due on 2/3/14.

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I love this thread! I’m sure I’ve posted my story before, but here goes again. I had a pretty different conception journey. DH and I got married in [name]September[/name] 2006, when we were both 29. I was ready to start trying for a family right away, but he wanted to wait. A year later, he finally agreed to start TTC. We tried unsuccessfully for the next six months, when DH was accepted into test pilot training. This put baby-making on hold for a year. We started TTC again in summer 2009, and had another unsuccessful year of TTC.

We started infertility investigations in the summer of 2010, and I had exploratory surgery for PCOS and endo in [name]January[/name] 2011 (with the result that I had classic PCOS and mild endo). I happened to start a new job right around this time, and so again we stopped TTC for a few months while I worked my probation period. In the fall of 2011 we decided to opt for IVF, as our local county funded one free cycle, and we started our cycle in February 2012. While the cycle went well, and we ended up with three viable embryos (one of which we transferred, and two of which we froze), we just got unlucky and didn’t get pregnant. In the summer of 2012 we did another IVF cycle with our two frozen embryos, and again were unsuccessful. We thought this was the end of the road for us, and started to look into adoption.

In [name]November[/name] 2012, we discovered that our county had recently changed its rules and was now offering couples three funded IVF cycles. I got back in touch with my consultant, and we started a third IVF cycle in [name]January[/name] 2013. Again, we ended up with three viable embryos, and this time we chose to transfer two and freeze one.

The eggs and semen were collected on [name]March[/name] 5, 2013, and two embryos were transferred five days later on Mothers’ [name]Day[/name] in the UK (a good omen)! We were told not to take a pregnancy test until 11 days later. I managed to hold out until day 8 or 9 and then caved and took a test in the morning before work. For the first time in 5.5 years of TTC, I saw a positive pregnancy test result. I ran into the bedroom and jumped on my sleeping husband to share the news. We had a scan a few weeks later to confirm that we had one baby on the way. I am now 36 years old and 23 weeks pregnant, and the whole pregnancy still feels completely surreal.

In terms of future children, I guess we have one potential sibling still “on ice” (would this be a twin to our current baby, as they were conceived at the same time, even if born years apart?!), and we certainly would consider adoption, as well.

It’s so strange that we will be able to tell our child his or her exact moment of conception.

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Great thread!!! I love these reading these!

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My husband and I started TTC our first after we’d been married for only a few months. I frequently thought I was pregnant but month after month went by without conceiving. After eight months I’d started temping and the signs of my temperatures pointed towards a pregnancy. So I tested a few days before my period was due and I was in fact pregnant! My son was born [name]March[/name] 2010.
We started TTC again in I think [name]September[/name] 2011 and I got pregnant that first month. I tested the day my period was due getting a negative but got a positive result after a few days. I was shocked that I got pregnant so easily the second time. My daughter was born [name]June[/name] 2012.

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Awesome stories ladies - so many different starts to the journeys that bring us to our wee bundles :slight_smile:

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Aw, I love hearing these stories! :slight_smile:

Well, my husband and I met in [name_f]September[/name_f] 2005 in college when we were 22. We graduated in 2006 and moved in together. No plans to have kids for several more years. I had been on and off birth control during this time. Some would make me gain weight. Others would make me have really bad acne. And others would make me EXTREMELY hormonal. I decided to be done with bc and we used either condoms or the pull out method. I had a very light period a week or so before [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] in 2007. My cycles can get kind of wonky so I just assumed it was a weird month. I felt strange over [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] but it didn’t occur to me at all that I could be pregnant. Well, about mid-to-end of [name_u]January[/name_u], I felt… weird. For some reason, I said I think I could be pregnant. I had no idea why I said that or anything, but we got a test and it was positive within like 5 seconds! We were a little overwhelmed and scared because we weren’t planning on having a child for a few more years (I had just gone back to school to get my masters), but once the panic wore off, we were very excited. Unfortunately, I started spotting brown discharge around week 9 but my doctor didn’t take me seriously and said as long as it wasn’t red and I wasn’t cramping badly, it was fine. Well, the spotting lasted over a week and finally they got sick of me calling and bugging them so they let me come in for an ultrasound around week 11. We had lost the baby and I got a D&C. :frowning: It was a very difficult time.

Over [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] in 2009, we got engaged. We set the date for [name_f]May[/name_f] 2011 so it was after I finished graduate school and we had planned to move to [name_f]Florida[/name_f]. Well, we started getting the itch to have a baby so we decided to start trying in [name_f]May[/name_f] 2010. We said we’d give ourselves two months ([name_f]May[/name_f] and [name_u]June[/name_u]) and if we didn’t get pregnant, then we would wait until after the wedding. Well, I got an OPK test and got pregnant that first month! I knew a week before my period was due. I was at work and was being a raging b*tch to everyone. I mean, I get moody when I start PMSing, but this was at a new level. I was out of control with just flipping out and yelling at people. I would even tell myself in my head to chill out but I couldn’t! On the day my period was due to come, I took a test and it came out positive! I completed graduate school Dec 2010. We had our daughter Feb 1, 2011, moved to [name_f]Florida[/name_f] [name_u]March[/name_u] 1, and got married [name_f]May[/name_f] 12. It was a crazy year! Now we have a beautiful, spunky 2.5 year-old girl! :slight_smile:

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This is a great thread!!!

We got married in 2004. I was 24, he was 35. We had no plans for kids right away… I’d been on bc since we’d started dating in 2002. Well, I forgot to bring my pack of bc home for [name_u]Christmas[/name_u], so we started TTC on [name_u]December[/name_u] 26, 2004 - my 25th birthday. After a year, we started to worry about things. I consulted my family doctors, we had the check ups. My husband had the usual screenings - nothing in the second year. After that, we found a fertility specialist. And so began the blood work and pills… never any real examination. In [name_f]October[/name_f] 2007, I had a “come-to-[name_m]Jesus[/name_m]” meeting with our doctor. I felt like for the tons of money he earned each year, he should be able to tell us what to do next - not ask me what the next step was. I decided on a laproscopy to see what was going on inside my body. It turned up Endometriosis. (something that the Dr. knew was in our family history.) they cleaned it out. And we went back to trying.
i was supposed to Ovulate on Nov. 10th. My husband and I were away for the weekend and had been upgraded to a nice hotel room. On the 14th I went in for an internal ultrasound to get ready for Insemination in [name_u]December[/name_u]. The nurse said that I hadn’t ovulated. I asked her if I had already had on the 10th, would she be able to see it. She said yes, and I hadn’t. So we started to mentally prepare for insemination.
In [name_u]December[/name_u], I was complaining to the girls that my left breast hurt a lot. They said, “You’re pregnant.” And I said that I can’t be, I didn’t ovulate. But that night (Dec. 4th) my sister and i were at Target, and I had to go to the bathroom, so I rushed her through, and we left with a test. We went back to her apt and i peed on the stick. Immediate Positive!!! Not even a 30 second wait. We were both so excited and shocked. So we giggled for hours, and then we wrapped up the “present” for my hubby to open when he got home from work that night. He opened it and asked why I was giving him [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_u]Kay[/name_u] makeup… I told him to open the box. And he was so excited!!! We conceived 24 days after surgery. [name_m]Weston[/name_m] arrived in [name_f]July[/name_f] of 2008.

We didn’t mean to wait so long this time, but my mom got leukemia, and we somehow lost 2+ years. I went of birth control in [name_f]April[/name_f] of 2012. My doctor made my go 6 cycles before she’d start the fertility pills. We did those for 5 more months (my doctor moved away in the middle of that.) I found a new Fertility Specialist… and we scheduled another clean out laproscopy for Nov 2012. [name_u]December[/name_u] and [name_u]January[/name_u] came and went. Breaking my heart a little each month. In February, we found out that we were pregnant finally. We lost that baby in [name_u]March[/name_u]. My fertility specialist said that we only needed to wait 1 cycle before trying again. And I felt like it was the right time. I used 4 Wando strips… and conceived that first cycle. We’re expecting Twins in [name_u]January[/name_u]!!! the twin news was so much more exciting that the pregnancy news. That came with so much fear from losing our previous pregnancy. :slight_smile:

We’ll be married 9 years this [name_f]October[/name_f]. the hubby will be 44 when these babies are born and I hope to be 34. Our little boy will be 5-1/2.

To think of all the money wasted on Pregnancy Tests while we were dating! I could have saved a small fortune!

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Sort of TMI but since you asked…

I was on the bcp for several months before we got married in [name_u]August[/name_u]. At some point, they didnt work and we got pregnancy with our oldest. :wink: Not that it was a bad thing of course, we have our beautiful son to show for it. :slight_smile: Didnt prevent with the next 3. Were preventing when we got pregnant with our son [name_m]Felix[/name_m]. And were totally preventing again when we got pregnant with Wolfie (I was not ready to physically and emotionally carry another child after our loss, and DH had just signed up for another round of graduate school). No more surprises though, even if the result is wonderful as DH got “snipped” in [name_u]June[/name_u]. Everyone who is here is supposed to be here, and I feel like our family is complete. :slight_smile: