So my OH wants the baby to have his name of course. But our baby would be the third. Now bear in mind there are aabsoloutely no nickname options, and there isn’t a middle name. I feel like our baby should be able to be his own person, and I want to name him something different. But when I told oh about this it literally broke his heart, and he doesn’t want to compromise at all, he wants this baby to be the third. What do I do? I’m stuck.
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Tell him to consider it? Maybe use first and give him his own middle.
What about naming him your husband’s name, but referring to him as the middle name?
[name_m]Silas[/name_m] and [name_m]Trey[/name_m] mean ‘the third’… that could be another option or would your husband be ok with his name as the middle?
I’m the same… I wouldn’t want my son to have the same name as my husband, I’d want it to be his own. Maybe sit down and talk to him?
I think if I was in your position I would stick my ground, make my feelings clear and wait for your OH to be in a better mind set before bringing it up again. if you show that you have strong feelings too but are willing to work together for a compromise then hopefully he will too.
Good luck x
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Why is there no middle name? Is your OH saying that the baby must just have the exact same name as him, no middle included? As much as it means to him to carry on the tradition he cannot just lay down the law. There must be a compromise - I would suggest his name goes in the middle and for the first name you pick something together.
If you agree to name your child after your SO, I’d definitely insist on a middle name and call him by that. [name_f]Remember[/name_f] that this is your child too, not only your SO’s. [name_m]How[/name_m] would he feel if you insisted on a name he wasn’t onboard with?
Are you sure that there are no nickname options? My nephew goes by [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] for IV since he is a fourth. And my son has a little friend who goes by [name_u]Quinn[/name_u] since he is a fifth. If it is at all possible to post the name, maybe like T h i s so it’s not google able, I would try that before dismissing it completely. The folks on here aree really good at coming up with nicknames.
But if you are really opposed to it, just remember, they give the birth certificate to the mom to fill out. They don’t give it to the dad.
I would his name in the middle. You have to love it too.
The name is a b d o n. There are no nicknames at all I like, and they don’t have a middle name. I’d be fine using his name if I could add a middle of my choosing, but as I understand then our baby wouldn’t be the third.
It would still be the third if you give him a middle name… The child just has to have the same first and last name to be the third.
It sounds like you’ll have to compromise. Use his first name but stand your ground on using a middle name you love. Your son will still have the same first and last name as his father and grandfather, won’t he?
Yes, I didn’t know he’d still be the third if I added a middle name, as they both don’t have one. But he agreed to let me pick the middle, so crisis averted ladies! Thanks for all your help! Now to just find a middle name…
Yay! That’s great!
I am so glad that he agreed to let you pick the middle name!