I had to hold my tounge when my friend revealed what she’s naming her twin girls this weekend, (they are due in [name]January[/name])
Zailee and [name]Hailee[/name]
I know its each to their own as far as names, and that it’s her choice and I have no right to critisise, but I just had to share these names and see what other thought! I cannot stand rhyming or overly matchy twin names, but I personally cannot think of worse names!! Silently hoping she changes her mind!
Oh well!
So is it just me that cringes at the thoguht of these names?
Oh no she didn’t! Does she know you love names? Did she ask your advice? Is there a way to gently steer her toward Nameberry by mentioning some cool (non-rhyming) twin names you’ve heard here?
Well - my name is [name]Hayley[/name] so I automatically think THATS cool
I admit to not liking the idea of rhyming twin names, but - then again - speaking as a pregnant woman who is SICK of friends and family thinking they have some God given right to criticize my name choices - I think if she loves them, she should use them.
Hopefully they’ll come up with nns or have middle names to use if they don’t like them when they’re older
Yikes. That is a bit much. Is Zailee even a name? Whats it going to be like when they’re older? Hopefully she’ll choose not so matchy-matchy middle names.
Oh man. I mean, matching/rhyming twin names, whatever. I can live and let live. What concerns me here is that [name]Hailee[/name], even if spelled rather atypically (but that name has a million spellings anyway) is a familiar and popular name and Zailee is so much bolder. This is really potentially setting the girls up to be jealous of each other since the names are so close and yet each one has what the other doesn’t, i.e. a popular name and a rare name. I really hope she can come to think of that and consider that ramification.
[name]Hailee[/name] and [name]Zoe[/name] (or best yet [name]Hayley[/name] and [name]Zoe[/name] or even [name]Hayley[/name] and [name]Zoey[/name]) is my quick hope. I think even [name]Chloe[/name] and [name]Zoe[/name] would be an improvement on this.
There is a difference between “not my style, but I can recognize that this is a perfectly acceptable choice” and something that you actually think is a bad name, in the sense that it might not work out well for its bearer. I think you’re only justified to offer your honest opinion in the latter.
I’d say give it a few weeks (you’ve got at least 3 months to go) until her ardor for the names has cooled and she’s done a bit more reflecting, then bring up your concerns gently. [name]Zoe[/name], as jesba suggeted above, would be a great compromise.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with her name choices besides the fact that they’re nms and I don’t like these at all or the rhyming factor, unfortunately personal taste isn’t a valid reason to protest someone’s name choices no matter how many valid excuses we look for.
I do think it’s best that you vented on nameberry instead of to your friend though and I commend you for it.
Frankly, I think this is quite a burden for these kids to carry, and their teachers will be tearing their hair out to have two students with the same birth date and only one letter difference in the name.
That said, they are the parents, and it’s their call. They are dealing with the midnight feedings and diaper changes, and if they are taking on the responsibility of these children, they also have the rights. If the kids hate it, they may take matters into their own hands and go by middle names or nicknames.
Seriously? It’s utterly ridiculous and I think you’re perfectly within your right to tell her just how daft it is. [name]Hayley[/name] is fine as a name but she really needs to come up with a better name for the other little girl. ‘Zailee’ is just a random assortment of letters.
Yikes. If she is open to suggestions, [name]Zadie[/name] is another option. Maybe you could pretend you thought she said [name]Hailee[/name] and [name]Zadie[/name]? Haha.
Hehe! I’m glad she isn’t my friend. (I’m sure she is a lovely person but what would you say!!!) I don’t think she would want to be my friend after what I would say to her (my talent for telling the truth even when its not appropriate) Well done for holding your tongue!!! As for the names-I think you know what I’m thinking.
I wince at [name]Hayley[/name] being spelt [name]Hailee[/name]. It’s a great name obviously,am a bit bias! But that spelling is bad.
Zailee is…made up?
I second pp’s suggestions of putting [name]Hayley[/name] and [name]Zoe[/name]/[name]Sadie[/name] to her.
I think you should gently bring it up to her how much her girls might suffer with such similar names, that might make her think a bit more. They’re already twins, throw them a bone and let them have something different from each other I get how she’s probably excited to come up with a cute twin set (who wouldn’t be?) but this is too far. Of course, she is the mother and it is her choice, but maybe knowing how her choice will affect her babies will make her rethink the possibilities. All you can do is offer your opinion, in a non-threatening way.
I think maybe you should lightly suggest some other names. For example if she wants something that’s a little matchy. She might like [name]Estelle[/name] and [name]Callista[/name] and she could use nicknames like [name]Stella[/name] and [name]Callie[/name]/[name]Calla[/name]. I don’t know something like that. [name]Hayley[/name] is a good name but Zailee? Yikes.
See, this wouldn’t have been so bad if she had gone with Zélie ([name]Zelie[/name]) and [name]Halle[/name] or something. Rhyming and how they are spelt? Terrible.
Oh man…I mean [name]Hailey[/name] and [name]Kailey[/name] would be bad, but at least they would both have legitimate names. But [name]Hailie[/name] and [name]Zailie[/name] is kind of like “we liked [name]Hailie[/name] and wanted a name that rhymes, so we made [name]Zailie[/name] up”.
You could say something like “have you heard about this great website? there are lots of names, maybe you’ll find the perfect middle names there”. And then hope for the best.
Zailee… facepalm That said, kudos to you for not ripping her name choice apart. My fiance is a twin, and I can tell you that he HATES that he and his brother share a name (His middle is his brother’s first name, and vice versa)… He says that they shared a womb, a birthday, AND a name… They don’t even have a single baby picture where the other brother isn’t in it. It’s too much. [name]Even[/name] though they are twins they should have their own identity.
