I’m really getting stressed over choosing a girls name with my OH We don’t have much common ground and the few names we have in common I really just don’t love. I can’t see my child bearing any of the names. I don’t feel any enthusiasm about sharing name options with friends or family. Common story I know, “me and hubby can’t agree on anything!” sort of deal. My gender reveal appt is next week so maybe I should be more patient… and maybe I wont have to worry about girls names at all. But I’d really just like to have options <3
To get a feel for our different tastes…
If I were to name the baby myself, I’d use either: Mabel nn “Maisie”, Clementine “Little Lem” or “Emmy”, Saoirse (SARE-sha, its Irish <3), Linnea, Juliet, or Evie. And I imagine I’d use the middle name Caroline or Rye.
If HE were to name the baby himself, he’d probably use: Emma / Emily, Riley, Harley, Whitney, Aria, Nicole, or Haven. He’d use middle name Jade after his grandmother.
Now I’m great with using the middle name Jade, I don’t love it but I adore his grandmother and I’d love to honor her. Its not a must for him, but its honestly something I’m interested in as well. We also agree on potentially using the middle name Rye to honor our good friend. He doesn’t like my list because it feels very old fashioned. I dislike his list because it feels far to modern and trendy. We do have some compromise, he said he’d use Carolyn instead of Caroline (which to me I dislike how dated it feels, but its an option). Here’s another curveball, baby’s surname will be Ejdowski (eh-DOW-skee). Its really hard finding names that don’t clash in one way or another!
Can you berries think up a middle ground? Something that feels almost familiar, but isn’t at the top of the popularity charts? It would be SO greatly appreciated!!
Oh, I’d put [name]Juliet[/name] with [name]Jade[/name]. [name]Juliet[/name] [name]Jade[/name] Ejdowski sounds lovely. Or [name]Emersyn[/name] [name]Rye[/name]. - you get the “[name]Emmy[/name]” and he gets the “emily” sound, sort of…
My OH doesn’t like [name]Juliet[/name] He said he’d compromise with it as a middle name, but he pretty much dislikes ALL the options I posted that I like <3
I really like Emerson Rye though!! I’ll bring it up to him tonight… its really cute and we both get “Emmy” He does like Emmy a lot, whether it be Emma or Emily <3
Hmm, luckily for both of you, vintage names are rising up the charts, so things that will feel modern or current to him have a decent shot of also being a bit old-fashioned. My first thought was [name]Violet[/name], but [name]Violet[/name] [name]Jade[/name] is a bit colorful, isn’t it… Maybe [name]Violet[/name] [name]Rye[/name]? Also what about:
[name]Eva[/name] [name]Jade[/name] (you get [name]Evie[/name], he gets a little dollop of [name]Ava[/name]; I like the alliteration)
[name]Eleanor[/name]/[name]Elinor[/name] [name]Jade[/name] (old-fashioned, but [name]Ellie[/name] vibes like [name]Emma[/name] or [name]Emily[/name]; ditto about alliteration)
[name]Emmeline[/name] [name]Jade[/name] (he gets [name]Emma[/name], you get something old-fashioned with [name]Emmy[/name]; ditto with alliteration)
[name]Natalia[/name] [name]Jade[/name] or [name]Nicola[/name] [name]Jade[/name] (softens the more “modern” [name]Natalie[/name] and [name]Nicole[/name]; could have [name]Talia[/name] or vintage [name]Nola[/name] as nicknames)
[name]Theresa[/name] [name]Jade[/name] (nicknames could go more modern like [name]Reese[/name], or more vintage like [name]Tess[/name])
[name]Willow[/name] [name]Jade[/name]
[name]Ariel[/name]/[name]Arielle[/name] [name]Jade[/name] (beautiful with your LN; has the soft gracefulness of [name]Juliet[/name] [esp. [name]Arielle[/name]] but sounds of [name]Aria[/name])
[name]Ivy[/name] [name]Jade[/name]
[name]Miranda[/name] [name]Jade[/name] (Shakespearean with pretty old-fashioned [name]Mira[/name] or [name]Annie[/name], but has had a more modern life)
[name]Adeline[/name] [name]Jade[/name] or [name]Adelyn[/name] [name]Jade[/name]
[name]Lucy[/name] [name]Jade[/name] or [name]Lucia[/name] [name]Jade[/name] ([name]Lucy[/name] is bright and spunky, but with heaps of vintage cred)
[name]Zara[/name] [name]Jade[/name] (modern Z meets old-fashioned name)
[name]Juno[/name] [name]Jade[/name]
Boy this sounds familiar-my husband and I went through the exact same thing. I like classic names, he liked more modern/trendy ones. We finally settled on [name]Julia[/name] which is classic and familiar, not at the top of the charts but modern enough to suit him. Here are some suggestions that I feel might fall into that category and that go with [name]Jade[/name].
[name]Whitney[/name] and [name]Nicole[/name] are not modern at all imo -they’re 1980s. I like your list way better than his! Let’s see if we can “modernize” it or make it a little more mainstream:
[name]Mabel[/name]: I agree, this does sound very vintage and old-fashioned (not a bad thing). [name]How[/name] about: [name]Amabel[/name] or [name]Anabel[/name] or [name]Annabelle[/name]
[name]Clementine[/name]: as pps mentioned, [name]Emmeline[/name] or [name]Emerson[/name] would still give you “[name]Emmy[/name]”, but I’m not a fan of giving a daughter a name ending in “-son”, so I prefer [name]Emmeline[/name].
[name]Saoirse[/name]: This name will cause pronunciation and spelling issues for the child all her life unless you live in [name]Ireland[/name]. how about: [name]Sadie[/name], [name]Sarah[/name], [name]Zara[/name]
[name]Linnea[/name]: hmmm not sure about this one… it gives me a nature vibe, so maybe [name]Violet[/name], [name]Rose[/name], [name]Lark[/name], [name]Wren[/name], [name]Phoebe[/name] (another type of bird)
[name]Juliet[/name]: [name]Juliana[/name], [name]Julia[/name], [name]Chloe[/name] ([name]Chloe[/name] means “green shoot” and [name]Juliet[/name] means “youthful” so they go together in my brain )
[name]Evie[/name]: [name]Eva[/name] seems to be rising in the charts, following [name]Ava[/name]'s heels. nn [name]Evie[/name] from [name]Eva[/name] is quite natural. other options: [name]Evangeline[/name]
[name]Caroline[/name]: [name]Coraline[/name], [name]Cora[/name], [name]Corinne[/name],
Thanks ellenelle! [name]Violet[/name] [name]Jade[/name] would be a tad colorful hehe. I like the idea of [name]Violet[/name] [name]Rye[/name], but kinda rhymes a bit <3 Eva Jade would work nicely, its definitely a good option where I could get my Evie and just maybe it’ll feel Ava-ish to him - which he actually has mentioned liking Ava. Eleanor Jade is also lovely! And actually, he mentioned liking Ellie! But he didn’t like my suggestion of Eloise nick name Ellie. Maybe Eleanor <3 I have asked about Emmeline, but it was a definite no. I guess he doesn’t like -line endings for any name I kind of like Willow Jade, but not sure if it feels to trendy. I love nature names though, its definitely an option for me! Mike might like Arielle, I should ask! I like Ari as a nick name or even Elle/ Ellie, soft and sweet. And it does have a similar feel as Juliet and Aria, maybe it’ll get a yes! I like Lucy but my aunt used it on her dog that I see very often, so doesn’t feel like an option anymore. And I like Juno! Or June, or Juniper… but the last two got veto’d <3
and thanks jennwarwick! I wonder if he’d like Julia instead of Juliet. He didn’t like the Romeo and Juliet association and felt like it was teasing potential Fiona is beautiful! Caroline is a top contender for me but a no for him, though he’d use Carolyn. Isabelle is way too popular, or Isabella is and they’re so close. And Maya is beautiful though also popular <3
So far, I’m digging Eleanor and Arielle, thanks so much!! Its nice having some suggestions to bother him with when he gets home Fingers crossed!
Opps, didn’t see your post while I was replying lilysong! Sorry!
I entirely agree, [name]Whitney[/name] and [name]Nicole[/name] are names of people my age, not fresh for our soon to be. Tehehe why thanks! I like my list better too
I’m definitely thinking of asking [name]Emerson[/name] of him, I’m not huge on unisex and all but its an odd one out that I can really see myself maybe using. I’m not sure if he’d like [name]Annabel[/name] or [name]Amabel[/name], but never hurts to ask <3 He said no to Emmeline already, I tried that one hehe. I like Violet and Phoebe very much and have asked him on them. He likes Phoebe a lot but wont use it in real life. Violet’s a middle name option <3 Evangelines a little too long to go with surname Ejdowski <3 But Eva’s definitely a thought I’ll ask him on!
Well [name]Saoirse[/name] isn’t old fashioned. Think of the young actress [name]Saoirse[/name] [name]Ronan[/name]. Though she pronounces it “Seer-sha”. Plus, a lot more old fashioned names are coming back into fashion now anyway.
Other suggestions…
[name]Laura[/name]
[name]Julianna[/name]
[name]Celia[/name] (another Shakespearean name)
[name]Matilda[/name]
[name]Margaret[/name] ([name]Maggie[/name] would be a cute nickname option)
[name]Angela[/name]
[name]Rebecca[/name]
[name]Sylvia[/name]
[name]Ingrid[/name]
[name]Audrey[/name] (I dont know if a #41 ranking is too popular for you or not)
I am a fan of [name]Saoirse[/name] [name]Ronan[/name], though its not where I got the name from. I’ve loved [name]Saoirse[/name] since I was 16 <3 I’ve seen SEER-sha places, but I also read an article that says she pronounces it sir-sha rhyming with inertia. I’ve seen it all three ways, so I’m not sure which is “right”. Or if there is a right! lol
My OH does like Laura and he likes Aubrey (though not Audrey). I’m trying to avoid the top 100, so I don’t think I’d use it. But it is nice. We know a Celina who’s called Celie, so a little too close for Celia… but I wonder if he’d like Sylvia? I like Sylvia a lot! He already said no to Margaret, very much distain to it unfortunately </3
Thanks for your reply! I can try on Sylvia, but I have a feeling he’ll call it too old lady
Good luck in your name choice, whatever you choose!
My two cents…another name option…instead of [name]Saoirse[/name] (though I think it sounds very pretty…especially pronouced as ‘sare-sha’)…how about [name]Sasha[/name]?
[name]Sasha[/name]'s alright! We have a neighbor named [name]Sasha[/name] so I’m not sure yet. But it is a nice, more mainstream thought. [name]Saoirse[/name] probably would be a hard name to grow up with <3
southernbeauty, I like these:
[name]Lorelei[/name] [name]Jade[/name]
[name]Maya[/name] [name]Jade[/name]
[name]Phoebe[/name] [name]Jade[/name]
[name]Charlotte[/name] [name]Jade[/name]
[name]Lydia[/name] [name]Jade[/name]
I am thinking I’ll also bring up [name]Lydia[/name] to my OH! <3 He said no to Charlotte, which is sad because its a family name for me. But maybe he’ll like Lydia <3
[name]Fiona[/name] [name]Caroline[/name] would be beautiful. He wouldn’t go for [name]Fiona[/name]? He liked [name]Phoebe[/name]…
I also love [name]Sylvie[/name].
Maybe he’d like [name]Amelia[/name], [name]Emilia[/name], [name]Amelie[/name] as a twist on [name]Emma[/name]/[name]Emily[/name]?
Or [name]Eliana[/name] nn [name]Elia[/name]/[name]Ellie[/name]?
Or maybe you’d like Harlowe as a twist on [name]Harley[/name]?
[name]Lila[/name]? [name]Margot[/name]? This is a tricky one! Good luck!
I know these husbands can be so difficult sometimes! My husband only suggested [name]Ashley[/name] and [name]Scarlett[/name] (which sounded rhymey with our last name). I don’t think I have anything new, but I love these suggestions:
We don’t have much common ground and the few names we have in common I really just don’t love. I can’t see my child bearing any of the names. I don’t feel any enthusiasm about sharing name options with friends or family. Common story I know, “me and hubby can’t agree on anything!” sort of deal. My gender reveal appt is next week so maybe I should be more patient… and maybe I wont have to worry about girls names at all. But I’d really just like to have options <3
He does like Emmy a lot, whether it be Emma or Emily <3
Fingers crossed!