[name_f]My[/name_f] partner is due with our first child (a boy) in [name_u]June[/name_u] and we are thinking of names.
Our top choice name is currently [name_u]Asher[/name_u] [name_u]Finn[/name_u]. There is a good chance he will go by [name_u]Finn[/name_u]. Switching the name order isn’t an option since our last name starts with G.
We’ve been discussing whether the AF initials would be problematic or not and if we should place a second middle name in there to break up the A and F, though it seems even more complicated to have our child go by their second middle name. [name_u]Asher[/name_u] is an honor name that we feel strongly about using and [name_u]Finn[/name_u] is one of the only names we both agree on.
So opinions needed, would AF as first/middle initials be a deal breaker? [name_u]Or[/name_u] are we overthinking it?
It doesnt seem like those initials would be used without G also being used. AG, or AFG but not just AF. I don’t think its a problem
I don’t think it’s a problem at all. Initials are barely used and I don’t really think they’re very important (and I’m from the south too where it’s more common). If it was backwards and you like FA then with your last name I’d say it’s too much but AFG is definitely fine, honestly it makes me think of the alphabet song
Not an issue at all. I can’t think of a single scenario where someone would use their first two initials alone. The closest thing might be if [name_u]Finn[/name_u] chooses to formally go by A.F. Glastname, and I wouldn’t immediately make the af reference there.
AF seems fine to me, especially since you’d have your surname there too? I guess I’d only consider adding a second middle so you could use the name you’re going to use daily in the first place?
If anyone even notices, I feel like the only thing that could come of it is maybe some playful teasing, at the very most. I wouldn’t worry about it too much, especially since AF doesn’t even really have a negative meaning per se.
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I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.
I shouldn’t think it will matter too much. Unless he ends up exclusively going by [name_u]Finn[/name_u] and people assume this is his first name and [name_u]Asher[/name_u] his middle? I’m not sure.
I reckon adding another middle name would help to alleviate your stress, though?
Especially another initial which signifies something, to detract from the meanings of those other combinations of initials:
FLAG?
FANG?
[name_u]Or[/name_u], equally, something nonsensical:
FJAG
FABG
I think it’ll be fine either way x
I know five people with the initials B.S. and none of them have ever had problems with it, so I’d say you’re fine!
I have a friend whose initials (first and last) are AF, and she loves it, actually! I don’t think it’s a big deal. 
I wouldve suggest [name_u]Finn[/name_u] [name_u]Asher[/name_u] however the initial with ur surname are a huge no. [name_u]Asher[/name_u] [name_u]Finn[/name_u] is nice
[name_f]My[/name_f] mom was raised being called by her middle name and hated it so much that when she got remarried she dropped her legal first name completely…. She said it made things so complicated in life when it came to legal things as she was known to all (including bf herself) by her middle name but then things like her license would have her unused legal first name. So my first suggestion based off of her strong loathing is to do a second middle to break up the F and A. But if going by the middle is really what you want Insee no issue with A and F side by side.
I think AF initials are fine, definitely would not want to swap them around though. If you did want to use [name_u]Finn[/name_u] as the first name, you could add another middle name between A and G.