would you add a second middle if the initials ended up spelling out ARS (like a butt)? I have heard people use the term before. We have no problem adding a second middle for our boys since all of our girl names have double middles but just wanted opinions on what you would do!
Thanks!
If you’re already thinking of using double middles, I’d say yes. Kids will find anything to tease, but why make it easier for them?
[name_f]My[/name_f] fiance said it wouldn’t be a big deal but all I can picture is the teasing factor. I feel like children are 10X meaner these days and like you said will find anything just to be able to pick on someone. Its along the lines of PMS, ASS or PIS for me. None of our boy names have double middles we just did it for our girl names but I am not against doing it for our boy names as well. I appreciate the feedback 
Honestly, I would. I definitely am familiar with arse and it does seem like a teasing factor.
Depends…most American children aren’t familiar w/the term ‘arse’, at least not until they start reading books set in [name_f]England[/name_f] (at which time they’re too mature for such teasing). If you’re in the US, I don’t see it as an issue. Besides, his initials would include his surname, so unless it starts w/‘E’ to spell ‘ARSE’, really not a problem.
I am so torn on this! A part of me thinks it will be okay but then another part thinks teasing factor and god forbid someone were to monogram his name. I know arse is spelt with an E at the end but still the look and sound can lead to problems. So torn!
If you lived in [name_m]Britain[/name_m], I would avoid the initials ARS, but I doubt it would be a problem in the States. By the way, monograms are usually first-last-middle, so the initials ARS would have a monogram of ASR.
[name_f]My[/name_f] initials are MRD, and while in my freshman year of college a professor saw my email address mrd@university.edu and did a double take. He told me had misread it as merde ([name_m]French[/name_m] for shht). He is the only person to ever see that in my initials. [name_f]My[/name_f] boyfriend, whose initials were DRT (“dirt”), and I had a laugh about it.
Very true. And I keep reading that among berries who live in out of the states see it more as a problem. Hmmm interesting. And true. I just worry! [name_f]My[/name_f] fiance was made fun of for his name which I wouldn’t even think to do so I worry about initials or certain names to avoid that. I wouldn’t even think DRT as dirt!
Well, I’ve been a lurker for over a year, but seeing as though I myself am an ARS, I felt the need to finally chime in here!
I live in the US, and my first exposure to the term was through good ol’ [name_m]Harry[/name_m] [name_m]Potter[/name_m]. I don’t think I noticed the connection to my initials until we did an art project in middle school showcasing everyone’s initials; though I was glad when the projects were finally taken off the wall, nobody ever said anything to me (nor did I overhear anything). Throughout all my schooling, I’ve never been teased, and I think I am the only one who’s ever noticed! In fact, my sister got more attention for her initials being RPS (because [name_m]Rock[/name_m], Paper, Scissors… go figure). It’s never really bothered me-- in fact, I’m more bothered that the ‘R’ stands for [name_f]Rose[/name_f] (yawn…)–, but I certainly won’t mind taking a new last name should I get married. If I travel/study/live in Europe one day with my current initials, well, who’s gonna know, anyway?
Ultimately, if you live in the US, I doubt it’ll be a problem. [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t add the second middle unless you love it more than (or as much as) just one. I think it mostly boils down to whether the child is tease-able, as has been said many times before-- if he is, he’ll be teased for something, no matter what his name is. And after a certain age, I think a minor thing like ARS would easily, almost enjoyably, be laughed off: “Yup, ARS! That’s me!”.
I reckon it’s fine without a second middle - I had a friend in primary school when I was about 8 whose initials spelt ASS - it was just a bit funny to us, and I don’t think she was ever teased for it.
Oh do it! Double middles are great and those aren’t ideal initials
The term ‘arse’ is used a lot here in the UK, so I would personally add a second middle that you love. I don’t know how much the word is used in the US (not a lot, it seems, going by previous comments…) but I would eliminate the potential teasing factor.
I’m from [name_m]New[/name_m] [name_m]York[/name_m] if that offers a little perspective and I’ve never heard anyone actually say the word arse here. It’s not a word any of the younger kids I know would use/know and it doesn’t seem popular with anyone my age(high school/college) either.
I did read [name_m]Harry[/name_m] potter growing up though, so I was familiar with it. But I don’t think it’ll pose much of a problem. So if you’re raising your kids in NY, I don’t think it’ll be a big deal.
That said, I don’t like the idea of all the girls having double middles and the boys not. I feel like there’s gotta be balance. So I would add a second middle. But that’s my own personal preference.