I’d love to hear your thoughts on [name_m]Fabian[/name_m]! I’m a bit on the fence about the name (I’ve read elsewhere some unpleasant comments stating that he’ll always be a stereotypical romance novel character), so need to be convinced either way, as it’s one of those names that has always intrigued me.
[name_f][/name_f]What kind of vibes does this name emit? What category would you put this name in? What would your reaction be if a friend of yours chose it for their baby?
TIA Berries x
I had to laugh a little at this because one of my colleagues is named [name_m]Fabian[/name_m], and he is the furthest thing from a ‘romance novel character’ lol. He’s a construction site guy through and through–rough hands, steel caps, the works—and [name_m]Fabian[/name_m] totally fits him.
[name_f][/name_f][name_f]Imo[/name_f] it has a softness to it, but also strength, and has this vintage European thing going for it. If a friend named their baby [name_m]Fabian[/name_m], I’d be kind of impressed that they chose something that’s familiar but distinctive, a little offbeat, but grounded.
Ohh… thank you! I really needed to read this!!
[name_f][/name_f]That softness you so eloquently described, paired with the strength of the name is what I also hear so it’s refreshing to know someone also shares this opinion 
A couple of personal questions [name_f][/name_f]- whereabouts are you based? And do you know if the [name_m]Fabian[/name_m] you mentioned is of European descent?
[name_f][/name_f]I live in Australia, and not sure [name_m]Fabian[/name_m] would fit in so much in the playground?? Not knowing what the reactions to it here will be like is what makes me a bit concerned 
I live in Australia as well! And the [name_m]Fabian[/name_m] I know is very much [name_f]Aussie[/name_f], but not sure if he’s got any European ancestry 
[name_f][/name_f] I’ve never heard of a little [name_m]Fabian[/name_m] where I live, but I wouldn’t be shocked if I did, just interested.
Fabian gives me energetic and spirited vibes, a touch of flair, poetry, and artiness, but easily sporty, strong, active, and cool too. I’d be pleased to meet a little Fabian
It all depends on how the child will grow into his name. Would you love him any less if he was indeed frilly, loved nail polish or the colour pink? I really don’t think so.
[name_f][/name_f]I personally have grown into liking the name very much because my favourite cousin is named [name_m]Fabian[/name_m]. He’s the biggest computer sciene / anime / J-Pop nerd you wil probably find out there and so I associate the particular name more with these triats than with " frilliness " I think once you have a [name_m]Fabian[/name_m] it’s 100% sure you will associate the name with his traits and not a romantasy novel character
I don’t think it’s too frilly!
[name_f][/name_f]I will admit, the [name_f]English[/name_f] pronunciation (at least here in the US) does feel a little … “aristocratic lite”, almost?.. to me, probably because it’s not super common. Sort of on par with [name_m]Thaddeus[/name_m] (which I love, to clarify!) or [name_m]Rupert[/name_m]. But I wouldn’t say it’s too frilly – I think it’s totally wearable.
[name_f][/name_f]The Spanish pronunciation fah-BYAHN[name_f][/name_f] is the version I know multiple people with, and it feels totally grounded and not frilly. I will also second what @GU1[name_f][/name_f] said – the Fabians I know have been the polar opposite of frilly, and I’ve never heard anyone comment on their names.
[name_f][/name_f]I also think that people probably would have felt the same way about something like [name_m]Julian[/name_m] or [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] twenty years ago (at least here in the US) – down-to-earth in Spanish, but still feeling a little “lordly” or frilly in [name_f]English[/name_f]. But now both are top 30 names here in the US and feel totally grounded. So I think you could be ahead of the curve with [name_m]Fabian[/name_m]! I would be happy to meet a little [name_m]Fabian[/name_m] – I like that it’s traditional but unexpected, and works in many languages.
[name_f][/name_f]Lastly, I wonder if it’s the connection to [name_m]Fabio[/name_m] that makes people think of romance novels?
[name_f][/name_f]Sorry this was sort of rambly! I hope it helps.
[name_m]Ive[/name_m] known many Fabians throughout my life. So it feels like a pretty standard name to me. It doesn’t feel overly romanticized and i do like its rhythm and soft sound.
[name_m]Fabian[/name_m] is lovely! [name_f][/name_f] It reminds me of Flavian/Flavien which I’ve been loving lately. [name_f][/name_f] I have known a couple Fabian’s, mostly Latino, and so that makes it feel both romantic and down to earth for me; I wouldn’t really have any expectations of what a [name_m]Fabian[/name_m] might be like!
[name_f][/name_f]Good luck!
Thanks for your comments! It’s great to see that you have all known a [name_m]Fabian[/name_m] and the name is therefore grounded and doesn’t sound too extra (or romance novel character!) I think my doubts about the name stems from the fact that I’ve never met one!
[name_f][/name_f]Such a relief to read that you wouldn’t consider it too far out there if you heard it in the playground x
So good to hear you’re also in Australia!
[name_f][/name_f]Thank you for your responses xx
Yes! You’re spot on! I also think that [name_m]Fabio[/name_m] being a variation of the name causes it to be associated with romance vibes, unfortunately!!!
[name_f][/name_f]And your post wasn’t in any way a rambling! I really appreciate hearing your connection to the name