is it a bit vain to name child after yourself?

so, i’m [name_f]Stephanie[/name_f] [name_f]Marie[/name_f]. i kind of like the idea of [name_u]Story[/name_u] [name_f]Mae[/name_f], well firstly bc i love it, but bc it’s similiar to my name with the St-‘ie’ sound + Ma-/variant of [name_f]Marie[/name_f]. i know men have Jrs & IIIs all the time, so fair game, but it feels a bit weird i think? to be like ‘oh yes, just like mee’ lol. thoughts?

When I read the title, I first thought it would be a little strange for me to name my daughter [name_f]Grace[/name_f] if my name is [name_f]Grace[/name_f]…
However, after reading your post, [name_f]Stephanie[/name_f] [name_f]Marie[/name_f] and [name_u]Story[/name_u] [name_f]Mae[/name_f] sound like completely different names to me and I hardly would have noticed the connection in the real world.

So I guess, it would be a subtle way to name your child after yourself using a name you love. [name_m]Plenty[/name_m] of mothers give their daughters their middle/first name as a middle, but to me it just appears to be the same initials :slight_smile:

oh yes, definitely subtle. i’d never use [name_f]Stephanie[/name_f] or [name_f]Marie[/name_f]. but the idea behind it i mean. thanks for your thoughts :slight_smile:

By the time you carry a baby for nine months and nurse it, then care for the child for 18 years, you’re entitled to put your stamp on him/her. Guys do it all the time. Passing on your initials is an understated way to accomplish that.

Exactly how I feel.

My name is [name_f]Stephanie[/name_f] [name_u]Jean[/name_u]. My mom’s name is [name_f]Loretta[/name_f] [name_u]Jean[/name_u]. We have the same middle name and I like it. I wouldn’t be opposed to giving my daughter the same middle name but I would not give her the same first name as me, or my mom! :slight_smile:

Men do it all the time so i don’t think its that weird. [name_u]Story[/name_u] [name_f]Mae[/name_f] is so different from [name_f]Stephanie[/name_f] [name_f]Marie[/name_f] I could hardly consider her as named after you. If its what you like, go for it

No, not at all. If you wanted to name her [name_f]Stephanie[/name_f] [name_f]Marie[/name_f] it wouldn’t be weird either. People do it all the time (men more so, obviously), but it’s nothing “weird”. Plus the subtle similarities are subtle enough to show you want a connection, but not the same name.

I don’t think so at all. My middle name is [name_f]Kristine[/name_f] so my son’s name is [name_m]Christian[/name_m]. I think [name_u]Story[/name_u] [name_f]May[/name_f] is a subtle enough connection.

No. [name_u]Story[/name_u] [name_f]Mae[/name_f] is sweet.

No, it isn’t. I’ve never understood the hangup over parents naming children after themselves. I’m sure there are people who name their children after themselves for the purpose of vanity, but nine times out of ten (at least in my experience) that just isn’t the case.

That said, [name_u]Story[/name_u] [name_f]Mae[/name_f] and [name_f]Stephanie[/name_f] [name_f]Marie[/name_f] aren’t that similar to me. I wouldn’t assume that you’d name her after you.

Yeah it’s vain if the name is exactly after yourself but since it’s just the same initials it’s fine :slight_smile:

Personally I don’t like naming children after the parents for either gender, but I know I’m probably in the minority. I couldn’t stand ‘Novaberry [name_m]Junior[/name_m]’, or ‘Novaberry II’. Children should be allowed their own identities, and there are so many great names out there.

I’m a bit more understanding of name variants or middle names to honour grandparents, great grandparents, or dearly departed friends/relatives (my grandmother is called [name_f]Margaret[/name_f], and I would seriously consider using the name [name_f]Megan[/name_f] for example). But I think honouring yourself in such a way is, at best, lazy. At worst, egotistical. The only exception to this is possibly if a parent has died prior to the child being named.

All just personal opinion though!

First and foremost, I find [name_u]Story[/name_u] [name_f]Mae[/name_f] beautiful and sweet. Now to answer your question…

The only problem I see with people naming children after themselves is the confusion it causes when two people of the same name live in the same house. My father refused to name a son after himself because he didn’t want people having to ask for Big [name_m]Dan[/name_m] or [name_m]Little[/name_m] [name_m]Dan[/name_m]. My ex-husband had all sorts of trouble with credit issues because he had the exact same name as his Dad and they shared and address for a while when my ex was in his 20s.

Obviously, using a name that has ties to yours but is not identical will cause none of those problems. The only challenge that I would see you having is making sure that a second and subsequent daughters names equally special.

I hold the sentiment of naming a child in honor or in memory of a loved one in high regard. But naming after ones’ self?.. eh.

I guess it’s the intention behind it:
If it’s because you want to say “she’s MY daughter” or “she’s a little version of ME,” then I think it’s tacky.
If it’s because you want to share a bond with her, “we have a DEEP MOTHER DAUGHTER CONNECTION” then it’s a little better.

That being said, your name and your proposed daughter’s name are different enough that I don’t think anyone would ever harp on it.

Well, using the same initials as your name isn’t the same as calling a child [name_m]Junior[/name_m], is it? The names are completely different so if you like [name_u]Story[/name_u] [name_f]Mae[/name_f], then go for it!

No I dont think its weird at all . [name_u]Story[/name_u] [name_f]Mae[/name_f] is different enough from [name_f]Stephanie[/name_f] [name_f]Marie[/name_f] . As pp mention men do it all the time . I am also in a similar sitiuation like yours . I plan to name my daughter [name_f]Isabella[/name_f] when my name is [name_f]Bellerose[/name_f] . i think you have nothing to concern .

i love hearing all the different viewpoints! thanks for chiming in everyone! :slight_smile:

I don’t like naming children after yourself, man or woman. It does come off as vain.
[name_f]Lotus[/name_f] is tied to my name and anyone who knows anything about Hinduism or Buddhism would instantly see the connection. [name_u]Shea[/name_u], [name_u]Ashley[/name_u], [name_f]Noor[/name_f], and [name_f]Pallas[/name_f] are also connected to my name. I’m not naming my kids after myself just using my name as a starting point to find names for them. Using similar sounds/initials/origins/meanings/etc is not that same as naming your child ‘Me [name_m]Jr[/name_m].’

Used to be done all the time, at least in my region. I know plenty of mothers/grandmothers with the same first or middle. A family name is a family name, so I see nothing wrong in sharing. I have the same middle as my cousin, and her sister shares a middle with another cousin and that cousin’s daughter. Clearly we don’t worry about over sharing. :slight_smile:

In general, no. I don’t think it’s vain at all. Especially in an example such as this, where the parent/child names are similar but not the same.

The only time I ever thought that naming after parents was weird: the parents named the first two children, a boy and a girl, the same exact first/middle combinations as themselves. And then went on to have a boatload more children and didn’t seem to name those children after anyone at all. That one came across as vain.