Is this name out of bounds?

Boy Names
1

I love the name [name_m]Jasper[/name_m], always have. And I think it goes quite well with the rest of our kids names.

However, a girl I know had a stillborn and named him [name_m]Jasper[/name_m]. We aren’t close friends, we met on a mummy’s group, but I still wonder is it too close a connection?

2

Nope, I think you’re fine. I understand your worries though and I would be hesitant myself if the lady was a close friend/family, but I honestly think it’ll be fine for you to use.

3

I agree with the PP. If it was someone you were close to, I would shy away from it, but since it’s just an acquaintance, it’s really up to you to decide whether or not to go forward and use it.

4

I think it’s fine. If you were close it might be different.

5

I agree with everyone else. If you were close friends it would probably not be a good choice, but in this case I don’t think it’s an issue. [name_m]Jasper[/name_m] is also not an uncommon name these days so I think it’s a bit different than if it was a rare name.

6

I agree with the others here. If it was a close friend or family member, it would be super insensitive. But if this isn’t someone you’ll be close to for a long time, I think you’re fine.

I do think it would be a good idea to not talk too openly about it around her though.

7

Does anyone think I should broach the subject with her beforehand? Not ask permission per se, but just give her a heads up?

8

I was going to suggest that you might want to let her know ahead of time. Though, I would say that depends on your relationship with her.

Only you can know if your relationship would make that appropriate or not. But it might be nice, so she is not blind-sided when she sees you announce the birth/name.

Of course the downside could be that (even though you are not asking her permission) she says she doesn’t want you to use it. Then, you either respect her wishes and choose a different name or you seem really insensitive for using it anyway and ruin whatever relationship you have with her.

You could avoid this by telling her after he is born & you’ve named him, but before you make any broad announcement, though if you aren’t close it might be weird to tell this woman before other closer friends/family.

9

Thanks fore replying. We’re not close friends at all. We joined a mummy and baby group together and are in a WhatsApp and Facebook group together, but that’s it. I only see her maybe once a year and we don’t live in the same town.

I think I might possibly say it to her beforehand if we do decide to use it. I don’t think she’s the type of person who would say “[name_m]Don[/name_m]'t use it”, but if she did, I would respect it.