we are naming our lo due in [name_u]November[/name_u] [name_u]Kora[/name_u]. I’m debating on whether [name_u]James[/name_u] is just too “boyish” I like the spelling of Jayms to make it more feminine. Thoughts?
[name_u]Love[/name_u] it but I would use the regular spelling
I dislike it. I just don’t agree with the boy-names-on-girls trend. Would you give a boy the middle name [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f]? Probably not. I guess it’s not as strange since [name_u]James[/name_u] is a surname which puts it somewhat in line with unisex names that could make good middle names. But overall, I’m not a fan. Changing the spelling does nothing to make it more feminine, only more confusing.
I don’t understand why James on girls is becoming so popular. As previously stated, that’s like giving a boy the name Elizabeth! And I agree with @larkub that changing the spelling does not make it more feminine. No, sorry, James is completely masculine to me. What about Jane? Or Jade?
I am sure there must be exceptions to this, but I have only read accounts of women being resentful, sad, and feeling gypped for being given a traditional boys’ name. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though you are talking about a middle name, here, it will still be an integral part of your daughter’s name. It will be deeply personal to her and will contribute to her sense of identity. It may be weird for her to get both a girls’ and boys’ name. I vote NO for giving her the middle name [name_u]James[/name_u]. Jayms feels less masculine, but it may cause some spelling mix-ups and headaches. So a NO vote for that too. Best wishes!
[name_u]November[/name_u] [name_u]Kora[/name_u] is lovely. [name_m]Just[/name_m] keep it to two names, I think. Another no vote for [name_u]James[/name_u] and a big no vote for Jayms, I’m afraid. If you really want to honour a [name_u]James[/name_u], maybe go with a feminine name that sounds similar - Jamelle, [name_f]Jane[/name_f], [name_f]Jemima[/name_f], [name_u]Jamie[/name_u].
I would NOT use [name_u]James[/name_u] on a girl. Jayms is even worse and is not at all more feminine than [name_u]James[/name_u].
Although I definitely prefer it on a boy and as a first name, I still think it’s okay if you want to use it as a mn for your daughter. If you like it, go for it!
I wouldn’t be certain that Jayms is meant to be “[name_u]James[/name_u],” so I don’t think that spelling helps anything. But I don’t seem any issue of [name_u]James[/name_u] as a middle for a girl, particularly if it has family significance. I understand why people are against traditionally male first names on girls (though I don’t agree with the vehemence), but [name_u]James[/name_u] is a very common first name and surname, so it seems fine.
Incidentally, my younger sister believed her middle name was [name_u]James[/name_u] for a quite a while when she was a child (based on something our brother said) and we still use that occasionally as a nickname because it’s cute with her first name.
I rather like [name_u]James[/name_u] as a middle name on a girl, actually! I like the traditional spelling, too.
In Spanish-speaking cultures, [name_m]Jose[/name_m] and [name_f]Maria[/name_f] are used on both genders as middle names. I know men named [name_m]Jose[/name_m] [name_f]Maria[/name_f] and women named [name_f]Maria[/name_f] [name_m]Jose[/name_m]. Some food for thought.
I don’t mind [name_u]James[/name_u] for a middle name, but for the love of god please just use [name_u]James[/name_u]. Or even [name_m]Jaymes[/name_m] if you insist on shoehorning a Y into an otherwise perfectly lovely name. Jayms looks like a typo.
I have always found [name_u]James[/name_u] to be a really girly boy’s name. I actually love it as a middle for a girl, even though I am generally not a fan of gender bending names. Definitely would not spell it Jayms. Stick with [name_u]James[/name_u].
Unless it is to honour a [name_u]James[/name_u], I wouldn’t choose it for a girl. I don’t think Jayms is any better as [name_u]Jay[/name_u] is a very masculine nickname to me so Jayms will automatically feel masculine (I also think that misspellings always reflect bad on the parents).
I hope you’re trolling. Dislike [name_u]James[/name_u] for a girl, detest Jayms.
It’s funny how on nameberry you can name a kid [name_m]Wolf[/name_m], [name_m]Atlas[/name_m], [name_m]Fox[/name_m], [name_u]River[/name_u], [name_u]Indigo[/name_u], [name_m]Stone[/name_m], [name_f]Sparrow[/name_f] etc. but god forbid you put an actual name on the opposite gender… I say go for it 
but I’d spell it [name_u]James[/name_u]. [name_u]Kora[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u] is really gorgeous.
(PS- I don’t have anything against these names, just pointing out a funny dichotomy- no need to be offended! )
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I think [name_u]Kora[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u] sounds good! I like using unisex names and I would totally give a boy a feminine name if I liked it, like [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], or [name_f]Katherine[/name_f] as a middle (Not [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f], it’s too common to me).