[name_m]Hi[/name_m] Berries!
So, if you haven’t seen / figured out by now, my absolute all time favourite name is [name_f]Lottie[/name_f]. It’s come to the point where, as silly as this may sound, I cannot physically see myself having a daughter and naming her something other than [name_f]Lottie[/name_f].
However, recently, the gorgeous [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] has come into my little world of names. I really do think that [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] is just the perfect name. She has an elegant, gorgeous feel while still being soft and playful and her nicknames are just stunning - loving [name_m]Pip[/name_m], [name_f]Pippa[/name_f], Lomie Lomie, Lomie, [name_f]Loma[/name_f], Pally, [name_f]Polly[/name_f] + [name_f]Plum[/name_f]. I also think that [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] suits all of my sibsets that I have created, whereas [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] only really suits a handful.
Sorry for venting, but I feel like [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] might be my new [name_f]Lottie[/name_f], which feels ever so sad to think about. I know that I am years off actually having kids, but I would love to hear your guys’ stories about this, and if you ever went back to that original name.
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I remember my friend told me her mum had chosen the name Is.abe.lle Fl.orenc.e at 14, and that is exactly what my friend was called. I remember thinking, that will be [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] [name_f]Mae[/name_f] (the middle has since changed) but I just knew that that would be my daughter. Also, about 2 years ago I feel in love with [name_f]Maisie[/name_f] and was obsessed with sisters [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] and [name_f]Maisie[/name_f] (well it was three girls, lottie, maisie and indie😂). Then maybe 6 months ago, I kind of let [name_f]Maisie[/name_f] go, and started playing around with more names and then I became even more in love with [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] and my other names, and now I love and appreciate [name_f]Maisie[/name_f] so much more! Sorry again for ranting!
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I’ve been feeling this recently and was just thinking about this today! [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] and [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] are lovely choices btw.
I once had a brief stint with a different #1 girl’s name, but I quickly reverted, and haven’t looked back since. But right now I’m seriously considering switching my first and second favourite boys names.
[name_f]My[/name_f] dilemma
[name_m]Caspian[/name_m] has been my #1 for over a decade now, but I do have reservations about it. On the other hand, my second favourite, [name_m]Lysander[/name_m], is absolutely perfect in every way. I’ve tried imagining different scenarios and how I’d feel, but I just keep coming to the conclusion that I love them both and can’t decide. As much as I love [name_m]Caspian[/name_m], there are downsides, and whilst I don’t think I’d regret using it, I’d be sad if I never got to use [name_m]Lysander[/name_m]. Then again, I don’t know if I could let go of [name_m]Caspian[/name_m] completely, but not using it first would of course run the risk of never using it. It’s all so confusing!
I doubt that helps much, but I totally get where you’re coming from. It’s hard, even if it’s hypothetical for the time being. I’m sure letting go of names is something that comes with experience and naming actual children, but I’m also a ways off that (if at all).
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Letting go of a top name is difficult - [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] and [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] are both beautiful 
I know it probably doesn’t help, but keep [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] on your list - there might be other things (pets, plants, characters) to name maybe not the same but one day, you might have a [name_f]Lottie[/name_f]
I agree with @Greyblue about keeping [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] on your list. [name_m]Just[/name_m] because she’s lost her shine right now doesn’t mean she won’t come back to you, in one form or another. In my experience, keeping my former top names on the list made them feel like options that I had considered and decided against, rather than something I was throwing away, if that makes sense? It felt like they were still in the running somewhere down the line, just not right now.
The silver lining in my personal cloud was that years after I went through the heartbreak of falling out of love with my top combo of [name_f]Lydia[/name_f] [name_f]Catherine[/name_f], my husband’s cousin used it for his little girl (and we live around the corner from them so we see them all the time). Whilst it’s a shame that I’ll probably never be able to use it now, I am so happy to have have a little [name_f]Lydia[/name_f] [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] in my life in some way. Maybe some day you’ll have a [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] in your life in some way too 
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I’ve gone through this in having to give up my top boy name because DH vetoed it. It helps in this instance because I love him more than any name/knew when we got married that we’d each have equal veto power in things like this. I think what has helped is finding names we do agree on and other rarely used historical gems!
If you’re years from having kids, I wouldn’t worry about it. You don’t have to “let go” of any name completely. I’m also years from having kids, and I’ve changed what my favorite name for a girl is several times. I didn’t stop liking those other names and would still be happy to use any one of them.
Ultimately, the decision of which of my favorite names my kids get will come down to things like my partner/spouse’s own name preferences, and what just feels right for that particular child.
If you wanted to use both, I think [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] is a nice sounding combo 
[name_f]Paloma[/name_f] is absolutely gorgeous. [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] is adorable and lovely in my opinion. The way I see it at least, you should still keep [name_f]Lottie[/name_f]. [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] or [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] is a nice paring in my opinion. You will still be able to call her [name_f]Lottie[/name_f], just with close friends and family!
[name_m]Ah[/name_m], I know this feeling all too well. It’s almost easier whenever there is an actual reason to kick a name to the wayside (bad association, used by family member, etc.) It’s when you just start to lose hold of the love you once had – that’s difficult. No rhyme or reason, just not as perfect as you once thought.
Anyway, in your case: keep them both! [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] & [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] would make such darling sisters.
You could absolutely use [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] as a nickname for [name_f]Paloma[/name_f], especially if you use a middle name with a strong T sound.
eg [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] [name_f]Ottilie[/name_f] [name_f]Lottie[/name_f]
I wouldn’t worry too much about it (I assume you aren’t imminently naming a daughter?) as, if that possibility is a while away, anything could happen between now and then.
thanks guys! i love all of the paloma with the nickname lottie ideas. yes, years from having kids so i know that i don’t have to let them go completely and i have also been loving ottilie ‘lottie’ - which i think goes better with paloma! hopefully those of you with this dilemma can figure it out!
Also you might like [name_f]Carlotta[/name_f] nn [name_f]Lottie[/name_f]
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Both these names are beautiful! I second suggestions of [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] [name_f]Paloma[/name_f], and agree that you should keep [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] on your list just in case!
I also think that [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] could be a stretchy nickname for [name_f]Paloma[/name_f]! (Especially if the middle had a T in it!)
Ahhh gosh both [name_f]Paloma[/name_f] + [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] are gorgeous! If it was me I would keep [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] on your list or alternatively figure out a name that would work with the [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] nickname. I think @Wittyusername103 suggestion of [name_f]Carlotta[/name_f] is lovely.
I’ve experienced this and it’s tough. I had to let go off [name_f]Rose[/name_f]! I truly love [name_f]Rose[/name_f] she’s romantic, timeless, elegant and has tons of personal significance for me. [name_f]Rose[/name_f] is a name that makes me smile. However when I named my daughter I couldn’t use [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. I had a ‘friend’ she was really good to me but then things turned bad between us and we are no longer friends who asked me what I planned to name my daughter I went into tons of depth as to why I planned to use [name_f]Rose[/name_f] and she jumped onto this idea. She ended up going with Peyt0n-Rose known always as Peyt0n-Rose in my head our girls were doing to grow up together so it felt strange me using [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. Lilia’s dad also had hang ups surrounding his late mum and his brother using [name_f]Rose[/name_f] for his daughter’s middle name so he wasn’t entirely comfortable using [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. Finally there were cultural expectations off me honouring my lovely mum by using a name that begun with an L and ends in an A (following Ashkenazi customs) and mum really loved the idea of using an Eastern European name. As you can see this really ruled out me using [name_f]Rose[/name_f] and meant I had to say goodbye to [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] is definitely the name my daughter was meant to have. She honours my mother who is a massive part of my life and my child‘s life along with this doesn’t have any hang ups. I still love [name_f]Rose[/name_f] and if I was to have another daughter her name would be [name_f]Rose[/name_f] but the likelihood is I’m not going to have anymore children so I’ve had to let go off my beloved [name_f]Rose[/name_f]
Still if I have a fur baby she’ll be [name_f]Rose[/name_f] and I’m definitely going to have a four legged friend at some point 
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