[name_m]Just[/name_m] curious if any berries want to share the pros/cons of long names. My husband shared his favorite girl name with me last night which I also like. It’s 3 syllables 9 letters and I’m used to shorter names being in our top spot (our sons name is 1 syllable). He and I both have short names, so no experience with long names and would like to hear the ins and outs we may not know of 
I love it but I’m a bit hesitant to use it if the time ever comes.
My name is [name_f]Caroline[/name_f], 3 syllables and 8 letters, and I don’t even really consider it a long name!
I genuinely don’t think it makes that much of a difference unless it’s an intensely frilly name e.g. [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] is long and feminine, but I don’t feel like it’s too long, whereas [name_f]Evangelica[/name_f] feels way longer and frillier (though actually I do quite like it).
My name is seven letters long and three syllables. To be honest I don’t think there are really any downsides. People do sometimes struggle to spell and say it, but that’s more to do with the actual name than its length. I’ve recently just told everyone to call me by a nickname to rectify that anyway, which is probably an upside to having a longer name; it can usually be shortened if necessary. I don’t think written length is much of an issue most of the time, and three syllbales isn’t that long at all.
I think it might more depend on the name itself and how familiar it is, given that there are plenty of names on the longer side that being well known, are unlikely to cause issue.
My name is whopping 5 syllables, and the biggest downside is that people tend to shorten it without asking, which can be so annoying. I would love to go by my full name but it’s used so rarely that I don’t even associate myself with it.
Also, native English speakers usually mispronounce it, but it has little to do with its length.
The only con that I can think of for a very long name is when the child learns to write his/her name. The longer the name, the more difficult it is for them. 9 letters isn’t that big of a deal tho I don’t think. What I’d consider really long is names like [name_u]Philadelphia[/name_u] or Maximilienne. When they get to be 11 or 12 or 13 letters long.
Other then that I love long names! I have a three syllable name and I love it. There is a point where they can feel a little over the top, but I don’t think that point is 8 letters/3 syllables.
Thank you for the feedback! The name we might use is definitely unfamiliar but has some familiar nicknames if we or the child decides to shorten it. I just love short names so it’s foreign territory to be so drawn to a long one.
The name in question is Estellise. Pronounced similar to [name_f]Estelle[/name_f] with the ending sounding like “ees”. So Ehs-teh-lees. (I’m awful at explaining this) I know it won’t be a favorite of anyone else online or offline but I really like it and was shocked to hear that it’s my husband’s favorite. So I figured I should learn the ins and outs of long names and start thinking of those combos 
Estellise is super pretty! Like you said, it has nickname possibilities, so I do not think it is too long. Only three syllables, and shares sounds with the more popular [name_u]Eloise[/name_u]. Beautiful
I know girls named [name_f]Bernadette[/name_f], [name_f]Eliana[/name_f], Graciel@, [name_f]Michaela[/name_f], [name_f]Marguerite[/name_f], [name_f]Isabella[/name_f], [name_f]Gabriella[/name_f] … I think long names are lovely and totally wearable.
[name_m]Just[/name_m] wanted to pop back in and say Estellise is absolutely gorgeous! I love it!
It’s so refreshing to hear something positive about the name! It usually gets poo-poo’d since it’s not a formal name with history (but has a connection to my husband and I as well as the nickname of [name_f]Essie[/name_f] which is his grand mothers name who he adores).
I actually like [name_u]Eloise[/name_u] as well! I’m big on A and E girl names for some reason. It’s getting my husband to agree that’s tricky.
The only “con” I can think of, would be ordering something at a coffee shop… when they want to write down your name on the cup for your order, and they’d constantly ask, “Um, how do you spell that?” Lol… Sometimes it’s useful to have a nn.
I think the pros outweigh the cons. To me, names used to have substance. They meant something. People were announced at parties. It was their background and their future. There are beautiful short names yes. But to me a name that demands someone’s attention for longer than a syllable is better, because people deserve that much as human beings. [name_f]Galilee[/name_f] is not easy to say, but people can’t just move on with their lives after first meeting her without remembering her name and her sweet little face connected to it and her magnanimous personality she has at just 2 months old. Yes there will be times where she struggles to say her name, and writing it might take a little longer than normal, but a name chosen painstakingly that had substance is a great gift in my opinion.
Definitely want a nickname with the dreaded coffee shop ventures. They have spelled my short name wrong and my husband’s ultra common name wrong 
Estellise is great! Also I’ve never encountered it before but I got the pronunciation right the first time I read it and I think it’s fairly easy to understand. I don’t think it being long is a downside at all.
My only con is a “teacher” thing. If you choose a longer name make sure your child has some personalized items in their room so they see their name all the time. [name_f]Do[/name_f] some early work with them on writing and spelling their name before they hit kindergarten. No use giving the [name_f]Ava[/name_f]'s and [name_m]Eli[/name_m]'s too much of an advantage.
Pros:
- 3 syllables usually offers a lot of nickname options - for Estellise I can think of [name_u]Lisa[/name_u], [name_f]Stella[/name_f], [name_f]Lizzy[/name_f], [name_f]Este[/name_f], [name_f]Essie[/name_f] … She would have a lot of flexibility if she ever wants to go by a shorter version of her name.
- 3 syllable names often feel distinguished, musical, and unfamiliar. I think all this is definitely true of Estellise.
- She’s less likely to meet other Estellises than other Estelles.
Cons:
- She might find herself correcting others on her name’s spelling and pronunciation for her whole life.
- It’ll probably take her longer than her peers to learn to spell and pronounce her own name … especially since pronouncing S and L trips kids up. This will probably be a problem for her classmates when she’s young, too. But that’s only an issue for the first 5 or 6 years of her life.
I think you should go for it, but it’s definitely worth thinking of nicknames that you’d be happy calling her. Almost everyone I know with a three syllable name goes by a one or two syllable nickname in their daily life. You also might want to think about a one syllable middle name, just to keep the written length of her full name short.
I think long names are beautiful! I have a very long name (9 letters, 4 syllables) and it’s quite pretty. However, it’s also rather frilly, which I am not, so I go by a nickname or sometimes my middle name.
My name is 2 syllables and 8 letters. Having a longer name has never bothered me.
My name is 4 syllables and 8 letters long, and it has never been a problem for me. Though since its that long, my parents have used a nickname for me since i was born. People like to shorten my name.
My name is [name_f]Brittany[/name_f], so it’s 8 letters but only 2 syllables so it’s not really “long.” I can’t imagine being something like [name_f]Claire[/name_f] or [name_f]Paige[/name_f] since the nicknames that can be used in regular life are non existent (I have friends with a little [name_f]Claire[/name_f] who use ‘[name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_m]Bear[/name_m]’ at home and friends with a [name_f]Paige[/name_f] who call her Paigey/Paigey-Poo). My kids have long names - [name_u]Addison[/name_u] and [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] - and I love it. I can call them so many things like [name_f]Addie[/name_f], Adds, [name_f]AG[/name_f], Sassy, Savvy, Vannah, [name_u]Vannie[/name_u], [name_f]Nana[/name_f], etc etc etc. Anyway, big fan of longer names!