If I ever had a girl I have always wanted to call her [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u]. I’ve loved it since I was a teenager…
Now I’m pregnant with a girl and she will be [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] but now I’m questioning whether I should give her a middle name to honour someone in my family as I have with my boys or stick with the name I’ve always loved??
I personally think it would be great to give her a family name. Firstly to keep in line with her brothers and secondly because [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] and [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] are both very unisex which is not a huge problem but could lead to some confusions about her sex on forms etc. [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_f]Maria[/name_f] would have less issues then [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u]. However if you love [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] you use it and forget me.
I think [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] has a great flow and clearly has a lot of personal meaning for you. No ill will towards your family, but I think there’s nothing wrong with honoring yourself in a way either. If you’ve loved the name for that long, it’s almost a part of you now. You deserve to use your love.
Two middle names may be the way to go if you think an honor is important.
That’s the thing, no name in particular… but I gave my first son my husbands name as a middle name, and my second son my fathers middle name as a middle name… my mum has already suggested putting her name in but I don’t really want to, I don’t love her name or my grandmothers or husbands mothers names… I guess I’m just feeling guilty…?
I’ve never thought of them as too masculine? [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] is very feminine. I’ve never heard of a male [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] before and [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] to me is feminine… she would be shortened to [name_u]Lexie[/name_u]
The thing is, that there’s a tendency on a wider level to give family honour names to boys and not to girls, as if the boys are more important to the continued heritage. Which is just a bit… depressing in terms of equality.
So in general, in an abstract sense, if you’ve given your boys honour names I think it’s important to do the same for a daughter so she feels equal. But it’s also important that you like the names! Are there any grandparent names or even great-grandparent names you like? Or your own middle name?
[name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] was actually originally a boys names and is still used as such periodically (not enough to be in the top 1000 but still enough to be noted) and [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] is #144 for girls but is also #396 for boys. They aren’t necessarily super masculine but they are pretty unisex which is not bad but we aren’t quite in a day and age where I can definitively say there would be no mixups on forms and such. If that potential doesn’t bother you then use [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u]. If it would bother you would you consider [name_f]Mckenna[/name_f] or [name_f]Mckayla[/name_f]?
Honestly, no. I don’t like my mums or husbands mums names or grandmothers names… my middle name is [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] and I hate it. I wouldn’t even know which persons name to pick. Thankfully I have 20 more weeks to decide but argh what a dilemma!
Yeah I get that, but I’ve never met anyone male with those names. I don’t think there would be mix ups on forms because forms ask for your gender, they don’t assume gender. I know it’s a girls name But I think [name_f]McKenna[/name_f] sounds more masculine, don’t like mackayla. Hmph!
I’m open to suggestions, but I don’t like names like rose or grace… you know, the typical middle name people just chuck in cos it sounds pretty and it’s the latest fad.
I think that if you love [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] use it. If you had family names you loved as well then fair enough, but it sounds as though you’d be searching for a family name to use just for the sake of it.
If it helps, you could perhaps say you’re honouring yourself by using a name that you love
Honestly I’d just use a name you love, I feel like family names lose their importance once you just tack one on there to kind of “check a box” or use one. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you have anything of importance that you or your mom/grandma share? Such as a hobby or special place, maybe the street name of the home your mom grew up in or something of the sort. Family names // honor names should hold a special place in your heart, I’d much rather know my parents picked a name they both loved then a name they begrudgingly chose just to make it “fair”. If you love your sons names your daughter deserves a name you equally love (hopefully that didn’t come off negative, I just mean you shouldn’t feel bad for choosing two names you love that don’t honor).
You also would be able to tell your daughter that you knew her name way before she was even born, which to me is just as special as using a family name.
I would go with an honor name, or variation of one that you like. [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] is a strong, sophisticated name, and I think [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] dumbs it down a bit because it was so trendy in 1990’s and seems to be going out of fashion.
Personally I really like the combo [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u]. It’s a name you have loved for a long time, and I see no reason to fall in love with a new name if you aren’t already set on changing it.
My favourite type of girl names are unisex, but leaning towards feminine, and I think this is a great choice.
I really like [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] but I’m all for naming her after a beloved family member. My name is [name_f]Alexus[/name_f] [name_f]Jolene[/name_f].
My vote goes to sticking with [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u]. You’ve loved it for many years and still love it today, which to me means that it remains The Name. I think your daughter will enjoy and appreciate the story of how you loved the name [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] for so long. If you don’t love your mother, mother in law, or grandmothers’ names, then I wouldn’t use them unless you can find an alternative that you love as much as [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] that still honors them. Overall, though, I’d stick with [name_u]Alexis[/name_u] [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u]. It is a fantastic name, and there are plenty of ways to honor family members that don’t involve using their names; you are under no obligation to do so.