Middle name regret-please help

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@isolieth

At this point, getting rid of [name_f]Denise[/name_f] would be taking something from your SO that he seems to really, really care about. This is a time when you have to make a compromise out of love. In terms of regrets, giving your daughter a likely seldom-used middle name because it was her father’s mother’s name, who died when he was young… that’s a small regret I think you’ll be able to live with. [name_f]My[/name_f] suggestion is that you learn to love [name_f]Denise[/name_f] - if not the name itself, then the fact that it’s a connection in your daughter’s name to a woman who would have LOVED to meet your daughter. And if not that, love that you sacrificed your personal taste because it was so important to your SO.

Fortunately, middle names are PERFECT for such compromises.They’re the right place to use a name that means a lot to one of the parents, but that for whatever reason they’d never agree to use as a first - plus, they seldom get used unless you want to. I don’t even know the middle names of my coworkers, and I only know the middles of my friends because I’m into names and ask. I couldn’t even tell you the middles of most of my cousins, for instance!

Impressively well-said. I completely agree.

@emiliaj

[name_m]Just[/name_m] be aware that if you show her you dislike her name she may feel bad about herself.

I think this is a really important point!! I hope for her sake that she feels the very special honor of carrying on her grandmother’s namesake.