So we finally decided on [name_m]Liam[/name_m] for a first name. I really struggled with it because of the popularity, but because I just really don’t like boy names that well, I never stumbled across anything I liked as well. Husband and I talked about using my maiden name for the middle name because this is he end of the line for my family. But as we draw closer to having the baby, he seems to be trying to get out of it. Basically saying, how about we do 2 middle names but only announce the one (the one being the one that isn’t my maiden name). I told him that if he hates it that much, we may as well just pick another name, because I am not giving my kid 2 middle names on a birth certificate and only using one in real life. It’s just silly. So here we are, completely back to the drawing board on middle names and I’m due any day.
Both my grandpa’s names started with an R, so bonus points for that, since it would have a family connection of sorts.
If you love [name_m]Liam[/name_m], then I say go for it. [name_f]IMO[/name_f] it isn’t worth liking a name less just to be less popular.
My two cents on the maiden name issue, and I must fully disclose this kind of thing really gets under my skin…
If your husband was agreeable to using your maiden name in the middle, I would try to hold him to it if that is what you really want. If it isn’t a big deal to you, then I’d let it go. If the baby has his family’s last name (and you too), I think you have every right to expect the opportunity to incorporate your family into the name as well. Keeping the family line going with names is something anyone can desire.
[name_m]Liam[/name_m] [name_m]Rafferty[/name_m] or [name_m]Liam[/name_m] [name_u]Reid[/name_u] are fantastic suggestions!
My favourite has always been [name_m]Liam[/name_m] [name_m]Archer[/name_m].
Thanks, Revlon. It still rubs me the wrong way. Part of it is that when we had our first, he came into the marriage with a name and stipulations already picked out due to family tradition. So I really had no say in our first son’s first name and I had an initial to work with for the middle name. I love my son’s middle name. I like his first name too and it really suits him, so I am not really complaining, but the point is, I complied even though it wouldn’t necessarily have been the way I would have gone. I really thought we’d have a girl and I [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] my girl name, but since this is our last, that appears to not be in the cards for me. So I’ve been suffering (as silly as it may seem) from the fact that I don’t get to have my little girl’s name. A lot of people have suggested we use male variants of that, but it feels wrong to me. So using my maiden name seemed a way for me to do something to make this son’s name very family connected, without using my initials (which is what my other son’s name is to his dad). I get my husband’s dilemma with it. My maiden name is not a first name, so he says it sounds hyphenated, like he has a different last name from us. But I guess, the thing is, most people don’t go around using their middle names all the time. Some use just their middle. Some just their first. But most don’t go by [name_m]Jim[/name_m] [name_m]Bob[/name_m], etc. So does it really matter that if you say it all together, it sounds sort of like a hyphenated name? I just don’t know. But I don’t want my husband to hate our son’s name. I still may press it, but in the mean time, if he is adamant, then I need to have some sort of back up.
We have tossed around the idea of [name_u]Jude[/name_u]. I had an aunt named [name_f]Judy[/name_f] that passed away recently, and I thought it would be a way to honor her. But I am not sure I like the flow of [name_m]Liam[/name_m] [name_u]Jude[/name_u].
[name_m]Liam[/name_m] [name_u]Jude[/name_u] is fantastic! There is also [name_m]Liam[/name_m] [name_m]Judah[/name_m] if you like the flow of that better.
Thanks, [name_f]Erin[/name_f]! The more I say it in my head, the more [name_m]Liam[/name_m] [name_u]Jude[/name_u] is growing on me. I really like both names. I’m not sure I love [name_m]Judah[/name_m], though the flow does seem a bit better.
