More Kids or Less Kids? Whats the perfect number?

We are nine girls, but a lot of my sisters have moved out by now. [name_f]My[/name_f] parents kept trying for a boy and just never got one. I am number eight. (I’m 14)

When it came to adoption, we got a little girl anyways. :slight_smile: Maybe it’s meant to be.

I always love having lots of sisters, and I always wanted a big brother, but that’s not too bad. [name_f]My[/name_f] parents make sure to spend one on one time with us, and we live on a farm, so we get plenty of alone time ourselves.

As a mom of 18 (yes that wasn’t a type-o!) I would say that it depends on your work schedules, house size, and income. For me, I am a stay at home mom and we live in a huge farm house, so it’s easy for is to support 18 kids. You wouldn’t want to have 6 kids if you live in a 2 bedroom apartment now would you? If you barely have enough income to support you, and/or your husband and current kids, then I would recommend having too many more :slight_smile:

18 children?! That’s incredible. And to think i’m having such trouble naming my first!

I come from a family of 5 and loved it! For us though having 5 children would be too much, 3 feels perfect! I always said that 3 was the wrong number, with 1 child always on the outer but seriously so far it’s been wonderful :slight_smile:

[name_f]My[/name_f] partner and I are probably going to have only 2. Enough for the siblings to not feel lonely but not too much to overwork mummies :slight_smile:

I think she means 18 paper dolls.

Mothers of 18 are either starring in their own nauseating series of reality TV shows, or caring for 18 kids. They don’t join internet forums to play baby name games and daydream about future children.

[name_f]My[/name_f] magic number is wanting 4. We have 2 currently and that’s perfect. And #3 is on the way, but I like the even number, mainly for companionship.
I myself am an only child. I found it boring and wanted a sibling to play with no matter how far apart. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband is an only child too and says he liked it that way and never wanted siblings at all. So it just depends on personality I think.

I am a very happy only child. I was lucky enough to have parents who worked at home and lived in a neighbourhood with lots of kids my age, including my best friend since the sage of 18 months who lives next door! I never felt lonely, but always had my own space and grew up quite independent - trusted my own mind and I don’t get bored on my own. I never seriously wanted siblings. Growing up all the siblings I saw fought all the time, and I would’ve hated to have that tension in my own home, although now I do see siblings who are good friends and I think that it looks nice - I do also sometimes worry about being the only one to deal with things like ageing parents, no one to share childhood memories etc. [name_f]My[/name_f] father had one older sister, but my mother had three brothers and a rough time.

Interesting trivia - every single serious boyfriend I have ever had has been an only child and my other best friend since primary school is also an only child. Clearly we attract each other!

It also depends not just on a parent’s love of kids and finances and time, but the kind of home environment they’re comfortable in!

If parents like a quiet, serene, environment, having 4 kids close together isn’t for them. But if a chaotic, busy, fast paced home is what they like, one or two kids may not create the home they want.