My Pet Peeve - small rant

I really don’t mind, yeah it’s nice to see if my reply was helpful, but I don’t mind either way.
I don’t respond to every suggestion I get, and I know people get busy with their lives. Hell, I forget about my topics a fair bit of the time.

That being said, if I have very few replies to a topic, or it’s a subject I’m kinda stressed/eager for suggestions on, then I do reply back with something.

I agree with what you’ve said completely!

  • [name]Athena[/name]

crunchymama I agree with you and I hope that you still keep posting 'cos I will miss seeing your posts, we need our regulars with all their expertise to keep on keeping on.

rollo

I agree with sunshine kid.

When I have a thread, I usually try to reply to each individual who comments unless it’s a busy thread.

Everyone has their own way of managing their threads, although I like to hear what the OPs think of the suggestions given as it helps everyone make more accurate suggestions. When you have an OP who wants names ASAP, you start off shooting in the dark until you or another poster strikes the sorts of names they like, and if they don’t reply, we won’t know what names they like. So replying is really more for help if anything.

amberdaydream you are absolutely right! We are shooting in the dark till the OP responds and once they give us some feedback we are able to channel our suggestions down the right path which is helpful to both the OP and ourselves.

rollo

Interesting thread! I’m enjoying hearing everyone’s thoughts. Personally it doesn’t bother me terribly if the op doesn’t respond, but I do get curious as to if they ever settled on a name. Personally I try to respond, but when you get a lot of feedback, which I love, it takes a lot of time to reply individually to each comment. And I usually don’t have that much time. If I’ve been getting suggestions, I usually try to say which ones we like and which ones just really aren’t our style, so it at least narrows it down a bit. I really would love to be able to respond to each person, but it takes so muh time, and when you’re using a smart phone it’s sometimes hard to look back and see what each person said. At the least, I usually try to thank everyone for their feedback.

I guess it doesn’t bother me too much, but I do really appreciate when the OP replies, even if they don’t like my suggestions, it’s fun learning what they like and what they pick. Its just polite and I agree with the pp who said that they like the “manners” berries (most at least) have despite it being the internet.

I’m also more likely to put thought into a reply if I see the OP is actively reading and replying to a thread. :slight_smile:

This! The more someone interacts with their post, the more thoughtful my reply is going to be. That seems intuitive enough, right?

I agree- when I ask for opinions I will reply and say thanks.
Maybe my mum raised me right?

But yes, when I put alot of thought into a reply and check later and the person never comments- I wonder if they even saw my ideas.

It does kind of irritate me. It feels like a waste of time if the OP doesn’t at least acknowledge he or she has read the suggestions. It actually makes me think the person is a fake with a made up story.

It bothers me a bit when i’ve really put time into multiple suggestions that i genuinely think are worthy… then i hear nothing back…

that’s the interweb for ya, though.

It doesn’t bother me on a personal level, but I do like when people reply to their threads to tell us what suggestions they like and don’t like so I can suggest some names. It just makes it easier to know their naming style and what they like.

I remembered this thread and wanted to bring it back. Maybe it’s because I quit smoking and I am easily annoyed, but it seems to be happening a lot lately. The OP doesn’t have to personally respond to every single person, but sometimes there is not even a general “thank you.”

I also wanted to give props to otillie to is so kind with her feedback to people :slight_smile:

I sort of assume the “naming emergency” threads are fake.

I’m new to the whole forum dynamic (I used to hang out in the Y!A name section before the reporting got crazy) so I never knew it was a faux pas not to write back. I haven’t been just because I always assumed the posters would never check back, and now I feel bad! haha I’ll start.

Ooh, someone dug this thread up again? Pot, stirred. I agree with the OP: reply to your thread. It’s good manners.

Another pet peeve: “writers” cluttering up the mainstream forums with multiple posts, all of them soliciting naming advice for the same blatant [name]Mary[/name] Sues. [name]Oy[/name].

I agree with this exactly! And especially when the original post doesn’t include any of the other names the OP likes, it’s hard to get a feel for their style without feedback. For me personally, if I had started a thread about a serious naming emergency, I’d be watching that baby like a hawk! I’d probably respond to every single comment within seconds of its appearance! As it stands, I actually worry that I reply too often and that people get tired of seeing me comment so many times on my own threads :slight_smile:

If I ask for opinions I will check but I never have the emergency threads. I have also noticed some people just posting a few times to get help with naming a baby then disappear and then theres me who’s on here daily and during school.

I know what you mean! Its nice to see feedback or if your suggestions are on the right track.