Hey all, just seeking opinion.
We are thinking to give first name of our baby who passed away as a middle one to our rainbow baby which is coming soon. We are not very sure about that, as it can be either legacy or burden… Thanks for your opinions, Ta
I’m no expert but I’ve heard of parents doing that before. I think whether it’s a legacy or a burden depends on how you handle it.
Was this a baby that was born, or a baby in utero?
I don’t think I’d do it, and I’ve had plenty of losses. I’d be concerned of the burden. Perhaps a name that connotes an emotion you’re feeling about this new little one (obviously in light of the previous baby) would place the emphasis on the new baby, while still recognizing the other one’s place in your lives in connection to the rainbow.
Does this make any sense?
In any regard, best wishes with your little rainbow, and wishing you continued healing as well.
I agree with @flamingo, i’d worry about the burden aspect. Perhaps choosing a name with a similar meaning, or something to convey how you feel about the new arrival, rather than using that name directly.
I agree with the two previous posters. I’ve never experienced the loss of a baby, but personally I wouldn’t do it. You named the baby you lost, and this name is now connected to him/her. I wouldn’t then give the same name to another baby, even if it’s a middle name.
I’m seriously late, but to anyone who reads this forum later down the line, I want you to know that [name_m]Jason[/name_m] is a very appropriate name for a rainbow baby boy, as it means “healer”. [name_f]Rainbow[/name_f] babies can help fix the heartbreak from losing a baby, so your rainbow baby can be a healer for your broken heart.
I think it all depends on how you approach it.
You can also:
Use the same initial
Use a name with the same meaning
Use a variant of the name as a middle (if your angel baby’s name was [name_f]Mae[/name_f] for instance, your rainbow could have a middle of [name_f]Maisie[/name_f] or [name_f]Maeve[/name_f].)