I’d be fine with [name_f]Abcde[/name_f] if they have a little sister named Lmnop… like [name_f]Ella[/name_f] and [name_f]Penelope[/name_f] all in one name!
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i grew up with a xavier zah-vee-air except non-rhotic accent so you have to imagine it like zah-vee-uh (somewhere in between that and zah-vee-ay) because it’s a very different vibe if you pronounce the r. he went by xavi (zah-vee) !! didn’t realise the first syllable could be like ay until i heard it on an american tv show like a decade later.
Since I don’t get to get strong aesthetic impressions from names, and I don’t really feel a need to make name lists at this time (aside from figuring out what the future being I am pregnant with will be called,) I wish I had more energy to make and engage in forum spaces about naming practices themselves. I like names and find them interesting, but what I like even more is the reasons and ways names are given and used in different places, cultures, etc.
Those conversations are longer ones for me, though, and it’s so much faster for me to be in spaces focused on what one likes and why. I want to make the time, but I haven’t, so I guess really this is a rant about me lol.
Also this leads into why I find it harder to say “oh this person looks like a [name].” The name tells you about the namer, and therefore often the parent(s) or family. A person’s looks can give some impression - it would certainly be surprising if my name were Japanese or Xhosa or Guaraní or something given my race, ethnicity, and where I grew up - but again if I did have a name that seemed that unexpected it would tell you something about my parents.
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When I comes to [name_m]Xavier[/name_m], the X is pronounced when I say it but because X is already an odd letter that can be pronounced differently it probably gets pronounced differently by other people (some say it with a Z or S sound, other times it’s pronounced eks, sometimes it’s an H sound, etc etc). I’ve known a lot of Xavier’s I guess it was just crazy popular the year I was born but it was either pronounced eks-AY-vyer, ZAY-vyer, or HAH-vee-ehr (like Javier)
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That’s a great way of putting it!
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Whenever I am looking for emojis for the NOTD thread or something like that, they are never the exact colour I want and it’s so annoying! Today I was looking for one to show the raspberry pinkness of [name_f]Julia[/name_f] and I had to settle for 
when it should have been:
Not a big deal but kind of a nagging botherment!
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I can’t tell you whether a name will be automatically nicknamed because it’s a person thing for me, not a name thing. some people are just more nickname-able than others. some of them fit some nicknames but not others. I know a little girl name [name_f]Penelope[/name_f], and for her, penny is completely avoidable because she is just not a penny. but I call her P all the time because it fits her so well.
do I know if your [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] will automatically be called vivi? no, I don’t know her. is she a vivi? or a [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f]? some of the kids I teach get nicknames because it fits them, others don’t because a nickname doesn’t fit their personality. and it has everything to do with the kid, not the name.
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small name change rant (posted this here because the lounge name rants currently has another discussion going on)
I love the name I’m thinking of changing my mn to but I’m scared to bring the name change up to my parents and I don’t know if it’s a good thing to change my name when i’m 15, I just don’t wanna end up regretting it
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all of the Xavier’s I know pronounce it this way!
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Im just gonna wait until I’m eighteen
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I’d kinda like to do it now because it would be cool to have the name already changed when I’m in a new school (next year) but I see how it would be easier to wait until 18
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Would you need to change it legally? [name_f]My[/name_f] advice is just kinda try it out for awhile first (for example, I go by my middle, which in school was rarely listed on attendance sheets, but if I just told the teacher it was super easy and fine) and see if it suits you!! That way if it doesn’t work out for whatever reason, it’s much easier to undo
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It’s so frustrating being a name nerd when you don’t know the last name that your hypothetical future children would have. Name flow matters; a lot of names I like don’t go with my last name! But as a single gay man, I don’t know if my children will even have my last name. If a future partner has a cooler last name than me, they can have his name. [name_u]Or[/name_u] maybe hyphenate our names but mine is already so long? And then in what order do we hyphenate them? But then I also do like the idea of my last name being carried on. Eurgh!
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it’s the reason I’m gonna be a SMBC there have only been girls in my family and if I don’t carry on my last name, then it’s not going to be carried on. and I also have a few combos that would really only work with my last name.
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Smbc?
single mother by choice
Oh, well I hope thats not the only reason! You can pass your name on even if you aren’t a SMBC
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also the idea of parenting with someone freaks me out
Is my taste in boy names suddenly becoming classic? in the past week I’ve added [name_u]Daniel[/name_u], [name_u]Jack[/name_u] & [name_m]Matthew[/name_m] to my list. What’s happening 
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I mean, [name_u]Daniel[/name_u] is a nice name…
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