I don’t mind [name_f]Noella[/name_f] but I love the name [name_u]Noa[/name_u] so if that were me I would use that nickname! Very spunky and sweet at the same time
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I love [name_f]Noella[/name_f], especially if it has some meaning towards how/when you delivered her.
There must have been a reason you both put [name_f]Noella[/name_f] on your short list?
I would put all those negative thoughts or comments aside, and really consider how you feel about the name.
It seems like your husband is really into [name_f]Noella[/name_f] and doesn’t want to change it…
I agree with pp, that you could opt for a different nn. [name_u]Noa[/name_u], [name_f]Ella[/name_f], [name_f]Nellie[/name_f]… but keep [name_f]Noella[/name_f] as the FN.
Good luck!
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I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. Is it only because your family doesn’t like it? If so, forget them! They got to name their own children. [name_f]Noella[/name_f] is actually stunning, uncommon, precious. It has meaning. It’s easy to spell, and pronounce. Noey is adorable. I literally have not one negative thing to say about the name, and that is RARE hahaha as I’m very opinionated. I love it for real
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I’m so sorry your family had this reaction! It goes against all the rules around naming babies in my books (you don’t get to pass an opinion if you’re not the parents, especially after the child is named).
Noella is a wonderful name with so many cute nicknames, I wouldn’t change the spelling because you lose some of those potentials. I love [name_f]Noelle[/name_f], Noey, [name_u]Noa[/name_u], [name_f]Ella[/name_f] and [name_f]Nell[/name_f].
I hope the positive reactions here help you to feel more confident and comfortable with your choice!
All the best 
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I think the name itself is beautiful but I completely understand your hurt feelings/betrayal of your husband taking naming matters into his own hands when you were vulnerable. That in itself could be putting the bad taste in your mouth for the name.
Hopefully he did what he did out of excitement and not to just get his way… if that’s the case- then maybe you could try to find the beauty in it especially since it was on your list! The story behind it is lovely and the nn options are amazing!
As for family not loving it… eh- you can’t please everyone! They’ll come around if you love it.
Good luck!
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I’ve never had a kid, so of course I don’t know what you’re going through, but it seems completely normal. There are a ton of funny stories of people who accidentally named their kids something terrible without realizing it, or people who just plain didn’t like the name they chose. [name_f]My[/name_f] great-aunt’s name got changed when she was two. Her mom just didn’t feel like the name fit her, so they chose a similar but different name for her.
Anyways, if you want to change it, make sure your partner is on board and go through with it! But, I also suggest waiting a little bit and see if your husband is right about it growing on you.
Noelle is my favorite that you listed but [name_f]Ella[/name_f] is cute as well.
How much do you like her nickname? Maybe change her name to Noey, or Noie? I know a girl named Noie and she is the sweetest thing.
And as for [name_f]Noelle[/name_f], do you like it significantly more than [name_f]Noella[/name_f]? If so, it could be a great compromise. If you only like it somewhat more, is it really worth the change?
It’s important that your husband knows that your name regret isn’t just temporary, and even if it was temporary, it’s still important to you and that matters. I tend to think that moving the name in question to the middle slot and choosing a different first name is a good compromise. That way Dad can still call her [name_f]Noella[/name_f] if he wants to, and you can use a name that you love.
Even though I firmly believe both parents should be happy with the name, I am of the old-fashioned mindset that in the very very end, Mom gets the last word. only because, usually Mom is the one up with baby day and night, experiencing post partum, and saying the baby’s name over and over again. And I think that name should be something you love to say.
Sorry for the long winded response. Best of luck to you. Take care of yourself the best you can! You’re doing great mama! 
Congratulations on your baby girl!
Regret can be hard because what if she finds out what her “ original” name was and liked that better? On the other side what if you keep it and she doesn’t like it at all? You can’t predict the future or who your daughter will be so just do the best you can.
[name_f]My[/name_f] daughter just turned one and I’ve just barely stopped calling her ‘baby’ and started using her actual name because I’ve been struggling this whole time. Some days I think it’s beautiful and sometimes I wish we’d picked something else and many tears have been shed. I struggled so much because everyone loved it so much and I’d just half smile. People also couldn’t seem to say or spell it just right which made it worse. It would’ve been different if it was a name I loved and nobody liked, it would’ve been easier to ignore. I’ve come to terms with it, and I don’t want that to sound bad I just mean it feels like there’s so much pressure to find THE name. But at the end of the day you’ll love her just as much no matter her name is and love her name because it’s hers!
[name_f]Hope[/name_f] this help 
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Not the biggest fan of [name_f]Noella[/name_f], but why don’t you choose a nn like [name_f]Noelle[/name_f], [name_f]Nellie[/name_f], [name_f]Ella[/name_f], or [name_f]Nel[/name_f]… those are all sweet! Or maybe you can use her middle name in some way? I don’t love the other names you suggested. I am really sorry your family said hurtful remarks, that is really awful and super appropriate. So not their place. I’m only saying my opinion bc you’re asking for it 
She could grow into [name_f]Noella[/name_f] but you have to feel confident with it or her nn. Otherwise do a name change before she knows the difference.
It doesn’t sound crazy at all - there’s so much going on here that it’s no wonder you’re feeling stressed. Your husband picking out a name from the short list without consulting you, even if it was most likely done out of excitement, is understandably hurtful. (Maybe there was a miscommunication there? Like your husband had gotten an impression that this was what you agreed to, somehow?) On top of that, you have the pressure of your husband’s side family loving the name & your family members making harsh remarks. It all sounds really overwhelming.
When talking it all through with your husband, it might be worth it to go back to your original short list together and “reset”, i.e. pick a name together this time. Maybe it’ll end up still being [name_f]Noella[/name_f] or maybe not, but either way you get to have that moment together! If you do change the name, keeping [name_f]Noella[/name_f] as a middle name sounds like a lovely way to remember the snow on your daughter’s birthday.
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Noella is such a pretty name! You can still use [name_f]Ella[/name_f] as a nickname. I had name regret w a few of my kids. W 2 it went away they grew into the name w another I ended up changing his name but me and DH agreed on it.
What’s ur babies name? I agree 100% with what u say in the end u will love her no matter what
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I’m sorry you a feeling this way - that’s really hard. Honestly, I think [name_f]Noella[/name_f] is just stunning! I prefer it to the other options you mentioned. I think using [name_f]Nella[/name_f] as a nickname would work wonderfully, then both you and your husband get to call her something you love.
I wouldn’t worry to much about your family’s reaction (or his for that matter). You’ll never please everyone. How you and your hubby feel about the name is the most important. I hope you both find a name that you can love and enjoy hearing for years to come. Good luck!
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I think you could easily shorten it to [name_f]Ella[/name_f]/Nella as a nickname if you prefer, but - do YOU like [name_f]Noella[/name_f]? The opinions of family shouldn’t be something that makes you dislike or regret your child’s name - they’ll learn to get over it. This is a decision you and your husband need to make, based on your own feelings - so I’d try and take a step back and think if you really truly do dislike the name, or if you just dislike how others reacted.
FWIW - I know a [name_f]Noella[/name_f], and everyone’s always complimented her name, it’s a beautiful pick
Thank you for sharing your story. Beautiful. I appreciate your insight and suggestion!
Yes, hearing the comments of my family definitely intensified the name regret. This was the first grandchild for both sides. A big deal- to say the least. I’m thick skinned. I can take any type of feedback, hard words, etc. For some reason this really hurt me! [name_f]My[/name_f] own mother, who dearly loves my babe, told me she disapproved.
We will see! I’m going to see how I feel by the end of this month. I have committed to try to use her name as much as I can, if it doesn’t stick I will most likely change it.
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It was definitely excitement! He couldn’t stop telling me how perfect she was and how he is the luckiest guy. It was sweet to watch him with her and hear him ask the nurses so many questions regarding care.
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Emilia [name_u]Rae[/name_u]!
I think I just had to get over my own insecurities about it being mispronounced or her being called [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] instead. I also had to get over that it meant rival and somehow that would make her fight with her brother 
It really has grown on me and I call her [name_f]Millie[/name_f] or [name_f]Emmy[/name_f]
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One more thing I though about is that it’s important for the dad to love his daughters name. My husband told me it was something special he felt like he got to give her. So I think it’s really sweet your husband was excited and loved it so much!
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