Do any of you have names that you are very protective/possessive of, or that are very important to you? Perhaps to the point that you get a little upset when other people use them, or when they start to become popular?
I’m very possessive of my own name (Violet), as well as, Salem, Oliver, August, and Amelia.
I realize that this is kind of weird and delusional, I was just wondering if I was the only one?
You’re definitely not alone! I’d like the names I use to be unusual and preferably outside of the top 1000 where I live. So if any name I’ve settled on starts to rise in popularity, I get very possessive. The biggest one is by far [name_m]Caspian[/name_m], which out of the names I actually plan on using, is the most popular and only going up. I think the fact he’s still my favourite means I really do love him, but popularity makes me a little uncomfortable at times.
Also in general, being so far from kids and not knowing if that’s even what the future holds, I sometimes get a little down when my favourites are used irl. Like, I wouldn’t be able to use them all anyway, but it reminds me that I might not be able to name a child at all, but that’s a whole other story haha.
I get being possessive over your own name too. I love how unusual mine is, and in school I used to check that no one else shared my name lol.
Probably our top names: [name_f]Ada[/name_f] and [name_m]Ivan[/name_m]. [name_m]Ivan[/name_m] hasn’t really been used around us in quite some time, but I get nervous about [name_f]Ada[/name_f]. It doesn’t help that names like [name_f]Adalynn[/name_f] are very popular around here, so each use makes me feel like [name_f]Ada[/name_f] is less and less special and so I do get kind of possessive of it…lol. I hope our friends never use it and I would likely feel very disappointed if someone used it before we did…even if we never get to use the name.
You’re definitely not alone. In fact, I actually thought of making similar thread before. ._. I think I am most possessive of the name [name_f]Seraphina[/name_f], which is my top choice for a girl for years. While I am glad when people appreciate and love the name I love too, I freak out internally when I realise there are many who love it. I am afraid it’ll be very popular, because well, it ticks literally all boxes and is the perfect name for me. I am also weirdly annoyed when I see [name_f]Aurelia[/name_f] (one of the names I most likely use irl) is used by many. I know it’s not that unusual, but I am afraid it’ll be very popular. What else? [name_f]Isabelle[/name_f], [name_f]Valentina[/name_f], [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f]. I am kinda possessive of my top 5, pretty much. Oh and [name_f]Luna[/name_f], I think.
And when they are used, I’ll also be disappointed if the name bearers don’t reflect the kind of people I imagine people with these names to be. Not talking about appearance here, but more like the quality or characteristics of a person. [name_f]Luna[/name_f] to me is sweet and quirky, [name_f]Valentina[/name_f] and [name_f]Seraphina[/name_f] are brave and fiery. I have trouble imagining them otherwise. That’s sort of possessive too, in a way, I guess.
I’m pretty possessive and protective over every single name in my signature but the main ones are…
[name_u]Jesse[/name_u] - This is my favourite name and I’m so bored of people telling me it’s not masculine enough to be a boys name. So it’s okay to give your daughter a name that literally means “son of” but it’s not okay to name your son a more soft biblical boy name. It irritates me so much! [name_u]Jesse[/name_u] is a boys name, [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] is a girls name!
[name_u]Jay[/name_u] - People always tell me that it’s too short to be a name and that I should use [name_u]Jayden[/name_u] or [name_u]Jaylen[/name_u] with [name_u]Jay[/name_u] as a nickname even though [name_u]Jay[/name_u] was around before the horrible trend of [name_u]Jayden[/name_u] and [name_u]Jaylen[/name_u]!!! I’m quite protective over [name_u]Jay[/name_u].
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] - I am so fed up of people telling me that they’re sick of [name_f]Sophia[/name_f]. Why do you have to put it so nastily? I only know one [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] and shes 19! I get that some people hear it a lot but you could just say that! I’ve also been told that [name_f]Sofia[/name_f] ages better than [name_f]Sophia[/name_f]. It’s the same freaking name!
Sorry for ranting. I could probably go on for ever.
Rather than names I am possessive of my combinations or there are names I do not talk about since they are extra GP and I don’t want to get bullied for liking them, like Buzor and Ardow
Hm, I don’t get super possessive over my names. I guess the only one that feels like it’s mine is Calista / Callista. She’s been in my top five for a very long time (years) and is uncommon. I see a lot of people on this forum liking her but that’s okay! I don’t see, however, a lot of people saying that it’s their #1 name and they are going to use it. I think there’s a big difference there!
I will say I’m a bit more possessive over my combos. Esp. if it’s uncommon and still on my list. If it’s an old combo of mine and no longer a favorite then by all means!
The names in my signature I am very possessive of, but in particular -
↠ [name_f]Margaret[/name_f] - This was my paternal nan’s name, and she did recently this year so I’ve claimed it as mine so that I can use it for my first daughter. People have told me it’s too old but I love it and I also love the name [name_f]Daisy[/name_f].
↠ [name_f]Rose[/name_f] - People call this a filler name but I love it, it is my middle name and was my maternal grandmother’s middle name too. I think it’s so beautiful.
↠ [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] - This is my great aunt’s name, and I absolutely love it. She’s such a funny, beautiful person and when it started getting more popular I got very upset.
↠ [name_m]Albert[/name_m] - People seem to hate this but I have no idea why. I love it so much.
I’m protective over some names, possessiveover some too… for example [name_f]Clarissa[/name_f] and [name_f]Pamela[/name_f]. They are both names I love for different reasons, and I guess I’m possessive over them in a sense that even if someone in the immediate family used them before me I would still use them myself- they are my names and there will just have to be two [name_f]Clarissa[/name_f]'s or girls with the mn [name_f]Pamela[/name_f] in the family because I’m not giving them up!!
Also the boys name [name_u]Jesse[/name_u]- i was so upset when it was announced that it had broken the UK top 100!!! But I’ve come to terms with knowing I’ll probably never get to use it as [name_u]Jesse[/name_u] is the name of OH’s best friend, so i guess I can loosen my clutches and let other people use it…
I’m very possessive over my own name ([name_f]Georgia[/name_f]) but it’s becoming increasingly popular. I’m also very possessive over my top girl and boy name: [name_f]Lola[/name_f] and [name_m]Caden[/name_m].
I felt the same way! I loved that [name_u]Jesse[/name_u] wasn’t (and isn’t overly) popular over here. Then when I saw that it only just broke the top 100, I was sad. I think because I don’t know any, it’s still pretty unheard of.
Haha! Yes! I know exactly what you mean.
I’ve been very protective over [name_f]Fiona[/name_f] for a long time. It’s been my favorite name since I was in elementary school, and I’ve even wondered if I had that name in a previous life or something (super weird I know, but that’s how connected I feel to it). It actually kind of hurts when people say they don’t like it. It’s the only name that makes me feel like that. I’ve even wondered if it would be weird to name a daughter [name_f]Fiona[/name_f], since it feels so “me,” if that makes sense.
I don’t feel AS possessive over any other names, but I will say I feel quite protective over [name_f]Aurelia[/name_f] and [name_f]Athena[/name_f] as well. I find them both to be stunningly beautiful, and they resonate with me in their own unique ways. It’s kind of sad and surprising for me when people don’t like them.
All that said, it doesn’t bother me at all when people use these names, it actually makes me happy. The only name whose popularity I’m really annoyed about is [name_f]Aria[/name_f], which is another long time favorite of mine, that has gotten just way too popular lately (especially because of Game of Thrones). But honestly who knows, maybe I’ll end up using it one day anyway!
I don’t seem to feel this way about any boy names though. Go figure.
The only name I’m super protective of is [name_f]Maeve[/name_f]. I’ve loved her for over 5 years and I don’t know what I’d do if someone used her before I could. I also would be very upset if someone used her after me. My other favorites come and go but she’s been solid for so long.
Although I sometimes feel like all names are my own… 
I am very protective of the boy’s name [name_u]Jesse[/name_u]. It has always been my favorite boy’s name and will definitely use it one day. The meaning is the most wonderful as it means Gift from God. [name_u]Jesse[/name_u] is also a very biblical connection for me as the [name_u]Jesse[/name_u] Tree is one of my favorite stories as a child. [name_u]Jesse[/name_u] is definitely a Boy’s name for centuries.
The biggest name I am possessive of is [name_f]Anne[/name_f]/[name_f]Ann[/name_f]/[name_f]Anna[/name_f]/[name_f]Annalee[/name_f]/[name_f]Anais[/name_f]/[name_f]Anya[/name_f]/[name_f]Annaliese[/name_f]…etc… I [name_u]Love[/name_u], [name_u]Love[/name_u], [name_u]Love[/name_u] all [name_f]Ann[/name_f] names because [name_f]Anne[/name_f] quite does belong to me! I knew a girl once named [name_f]Ann[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] and she went by [name_f]Louise[/name_f] instead of her first name [name_f]Ann[/name_f]. She had it legally changed to [name_f]Louise[/name_f] after she turned 18. It was like a knife in my heart when she told me that she didn’t like my name and I should change it like she did. I told her never! I love my name, [name_f]Anne[/name_f] and it has such a special meaning in my family and in my heart. <3 My Grandmother’s name was Anna nn Annie (like me) and I was named after her. It always made me feel so special.
I also protect and defend the name Francine. I Love, Love, Love it! We have a little baby Francine in our family now and she is the most beautiful thing in the entire world! Namesake of Francis / Frances which are both amazing, and after the Pope claimed the name Francis, I think that clinched the decision for our little Francine. I hope to use Francine as a mn for one of my children one day in her honor. She is the light in our world right now !!!
Lastly, I feel like I own the name Adelaide. There is something about this name that fills me with joy. It sounds so regal and lovely. I also love the nn’s Addie, Adel, Ladie/Lady. So cute! I hope it doesn’t become too popular before I get a chance to use it!
The only name I’ve ever been upset about is [name_f]Avah[/name_f]. It was my great grandmother’s middle name and have always loved it before the name [name_f]Ava[/name_f] shot up in popularity. It was super disappointing to me but I can always use it as a middle name!
I really only get upset if I hear of a kid with one of my favorite names being a brat. I always think, “You’re not worthy of that name!” Lol
All of my favourites: [name_m]Theodore[/name_m], [name_m]Oliver[/name_m], [name_m]Arthur[/name_m], [name_m]Hugo[/name_m], [name_f]Phoebe[/name_f], [name_u]Eloise[/name_u], [name_f]Penelope[/name_f], [name_f]Lydia[/name_f], & [name_f]Flora[/name_f]. Also the middles I have paired with them: [name_m]Frederick[/name_m], [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m], [name_u]Elliot[/name_u], [name_m]Augustus[/name_m], [name_f]Adeline[/name_f], [name_f]Cordelia[/name_f], [name_f]Jane[/name_f], [name_f]Josephine[/name_f], & [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f].
You’re definitely not alone! I feel the same way about [name_u]Kit[/name_u], [name_u]James[/name_u], [name_m]Hart[/name_m], [name_m]Oscar[/name_m], [name_f]Frances[/name_f], [name_f]Gwendolen[/name_f], [name_f]Lola[/name_f], [name_f]Magda[/name_f], [name_f]Constance[/name_f] and [name_f]Esme[/name_f]. I don’t like it when people on here act as if they owned some name or combo, but I have to admit that I am kinda protective of some of my favorites - it feels weird when other people consider or use them.
I feel that way to an extent. I love my son [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_m]Louis[/name_m], because I love the family connections (his 2 grandfathers middle names are [name_u]James[/name_u] and [name_m]Louis[/name_m]) but I hate when they say I used a common name just because. I reply No, I used a common name because I love my father. and [name_f]Rose[/name_f]! I hate when people say it is a throw away in the middle. If I had a daughter she would have been [name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. My Great Aunt’s name is [name_f]Rose[/name_f], my Grandma’s favorite flower is [name_f]Rose[/name_f], and my [name_f]Nana[/name_f] always said if she’d had a 4th daughter she would have named her [name_f]Rose[/name_f].
I’m possessive of [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] which is why it annoys me so much that it’s getting popular. OP, I must be delusional too 