I am pregnant with identical twin boys, and they will be our first children. We finalized names for them a few weeks ago. It was a difficult task, since my husband’s family has a tradition of giving two middle names.
The names that we have decided on are [name_m]Miles[/name_m] [name_m]Henry[/name_m] [name_m]Graham[/name_m] and [name_m]Gabriel[/name_m] [name_m]Calvin[/name_m] [name_m]Pierce[/name_m]. Following tradition, the first middle names are honoring family, and the second middles are just names that we liked that fit with the other names.
[name_m]Miles[/name_m] was an easy choice for us, and we had it picked even before we knew that they were boys. It turned out that we had both always loved the name, so we decided to stick with it. [name_m]Gabriel[/name_m] was a bit more difficult, since I was at first convinced that it didn’t match well enough with [name_m]Miles[/name_m]. We got past that, and we now love it just as much as [name_m]Miles[/name_m].
Skipping ahead to the second middle names, the choices were a bit harder but we managed. With the honor names that we had chosen, we knew that one syllable names sounded best. Eventually it got to the point where I loved [name_m]Graham[/name_m] and wasn’t budging and he loved [name_m]Pierce[/name_m] and wasn’t budging. It worked out perfectly, since we had two children to name!
Okay, back to the honor names, which is what is giving us trouble. [name_m]Henry[/name_m] was easy. It is my father-in-law’s first name and it fits wonderfully with [name_m]Miles[/name_m]. [name_m]Calvin[/name_m] is, conveniently, the name of two people who are close to us: my husband’s brother and my sister’s husband. We thought it was a neat way to honor two very special people at once, and we both love the name.
Here’s the problem: we recently found out that my sister and her husband ([name_m]Calvin[/name_m]) are going through a divorce. Pretty soon all of our ties with him will be gone. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though we are very close, we won’t see him much because there won’t be a reason to. And [name_m]Calvin[/name_m] will not be family anymore.
We have fallen in love with [name_m]Calvin[/name_m] as a middle name and still love that it honors my husband’s brother. But would it cause hurt feelings since I have a HUGE family that are all suddenly anti-[name_m]Calvin[/name_m]? None of them really know my husband’s brother, so I am worried it might be awkward. I still would love to use [name_m]Calvin[/name_m], though. Please help!
Thanks in advance!