Would it bother you /deter you if you liked a potential girls name but it had the same potential nicknames as your own and knew she’d end up getting the same nickname?
I think it depends. Would you use that nickname at home? If so, that would deter me because it would probably be confusing to have 2 people in the house being called the same name. But, if it’s a nickname you won’t use, but expect she might get called by friends, that wouldn’t deter me as much. It also depends on how much you love the name – is it your number one choice? [name_u]Or[/name_u] do you have other options you’d be equally (or more) happy with.
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Ι personally wouldn’t do it, because I’m a big nickname person. But if it was the only name that felt right and I wasn’t that into nicknames then maybe
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It would bother me a little.
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Yes. I hate sharing my name at school. I’d despise possibly sharing my name at home.
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Depends. I believe you can absolutely enforce not using nicknames (my mother and I have accomplished it with my name), so I wouldn’t let it deter me personally. I also think it depends how similar the names are. If it’s something like [name_f]Matilda[/name_f] and [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] both having the potential of being nicknamed [name_f]Millie[/name_f] I think it’s fine, but if it’s more like [name_f]Katherine[/name_f] and [name_f]Katelyn[/name_f] I’d probably say the first names are too similar anyways.
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Personal experience: my dad and I share the same nickname. We are both [name_f]Lu[/name_f] and [name_f]Lulu[/name_f]. It can be confusing but normally it’s pretty obvious who they are talking to. I like it; because it is also my grandma’s nickname (dad’s mama) it became a family tradition, one which I would love to pass it on.
Your situation: you use the nickname in question? [name_u]Or[/name_u] is just a possibility? If you don’t use the nickname I see no problem. If you use the nickname and don’t want the kid to also use it, enforce another nickname. And if the kid ever starts using the same nn, see it as a honor 
It may help to brainstorm the situation as a [name_m]Junior[/name_m] equivalent.
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If you know she will end up being called the same thing then I wouldn’t choose that name. But if its a more remote possibility then I wouldn’t worry. I bet she would try hard not to have the same name as her mom 
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Yes.
Ditto @hellobanjo.
Yeah it depends on how similar the names are to begin with and if you use the nickname or want her to use it?
I agree nicknames can be squashed although its a lot of work depending. For example my best friend [name_f]Jennifer[/name_f] never wanted to go by [name_f]Jen[/name_f] or [name_f]Jenny[/name_f] and spent her childhood just correcting people but it worked. No one called her anything except [name_f]Jennifer[/name_f]. But in adulthood she gave up and let’s people call her [name_f]Jen[/name_f] now. She just got defeated on correcting people. So it really depends on what the name and nickname are. I dont have enough information to assess this.
It would a little
I agree with this. If the name has another nickname possibility, or the shared nickname isn’t an obvious one it’s fine. People won’t automatically shorten [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] to [name_f]Millie[/name_f], but that’s highly possible with [name_f]Katelyn[/name_f] nn [name_f]Kate[/name_f].
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I have a similar problem… [name_f]My[/name_f] bf and I have been TTC, meanwhile my father has had a baby named Louana(12mo) and a favourite name of mine has always been [name_f]Luella[/name_f], now i’m afraid I can’t use it 
Depends! Like i think it is totally possible to choose nicknames.
Like my name is [name_f]Madeline[/name_f] and I go almost exclusively by [name_f]Maddy[/name_f]. One of my favorite names is [name_f]Magdalena[/name_f], an obvious nickname for that is [name_f]Maggie[/name_f]. I wouldn’t have a [name_f]Maggie[/name_f] and a [name_f]Maddy[/name_f] at home I think that would be really confusing. But I don’t get rid of [name_f]Magdalena[/name_f], I would just use like [name_m]Daley[/name_m] or [name_f]Lena[/name_f].
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