[name_f]My[/name_f] partner’s grandmother died today, and so I offered using her name as the middle to honor [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f]… Knowing that he has hated [name_f]Talullah[/name_f] since BEFORE we found out I was pregnant… I offered up [name_f]Talullah[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] as a name… Now he is all for it, so I said “No, we will find a name we both love!” So he is saying now that he was just being stubborn and does like the name now and isn’t changing his mind… Well NOW I feel guilty… I’m not entirely sure why I do…
[name_f]Talullah[/name_f] is my favorite name, so I am glad that he is up for using it… But I dunno…
Am I being ridiculous?
[name_f]Phoebe[/name_f] was our compromise, and now he is dead set on the name he has complained about since the beginning…
Let him mourn the loss of his grandmother, and if he’s still happy with [name_f]Tallulah[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] next week, don’t feel guilty!
Because I feel like he is only saying yes because that is the first thing I offered up with [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f]… [name_m]Even[/name_m] though I told him [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] would be the definite middle name. I think I may be a little emotional…
It will either be [name_f]Talullah[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] (if he doesn’t change his mind before the LO is born)
Or [name_f]Talullah[/name_f] [name_f]Lydia[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] (after my side and his)
It isn’t unheard of for someone to genuinely change their mind about a name after thinking it over for awhile. I do it all the time. [name_f]Tallulah[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] is lovely
I get what you’re saying. It seems like you’ve been honest though, offered to find a name you both love, and he’s perfectly happy with changing his mind. If he DOES start waffling though, I guess just be understanding about it and keep [name_f]Phoebe[/name_f] on the table and in your mind as a possibility.
I’d say for now enjoy the idea that you might have a [name_f]Tallulah[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] but keep in mind that he might change his mind in two weeks or two months or whatever.
Though I got to tell you, we are nowhere near having a child, but since my cousins just did and I mentioned how their choices made so much sense (one very traditional the other religious based) my mom asked what I would like. She HATED - and I mean she outright laughed at - most my favorites, esp for girls. 5 months later she comes back to me and said that she actually imagine having a granddaughter named Endora or [name_f]Lorelei[/name_f] (this is odd to her because we are [name_m]German[/name_m] and it’s the equivalent of naming your daughter “Siren”), and even Illyria. So don’t feel too bad if he decided he likes it. Some people just need time to get used to a name before they can fall in love with it.
If [name_f]Tallulah[/name_f] is your absolute favourite name…then go for it. You might be feeling bad because of the recent death in the family, so if you need…maybe just stop thinking/talking about baby names for awhile. Then when you’re done mourning, bring it up again. You might not feel all that guilt anymore.
[name_f]Tallulah[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] is a pretty name.
Beggars can’t be choosers? Haha, sorry but if [name_f]Tallulah[/name_f]'s your top name and [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f]'s something he loves and honours his family, I really don’t see how you can just be ‘I guess it will do’ over it. It combines names you both want, honours family and you get your way in the first name department. Most people aren’t that lucky with their name choices.
I knnoooww, just me being selfish I guess! Making name combos and sibsets for most of my life, I never really thought that I would have to share xD
We start boy names now, we are PRETTY sure it’s a girl, but my sister thinks we should have a boy name picked out just incase.
Should we have backup names? Like… If when she gets her, and [name_f]Talullah[/name_f] doesn’t fit her I mean…
Here is my honest opinion from reading this (and your previous) post(s). If I remember correctly, you have some time until baby is born. I would take a break from trying to decide a name. Especially during an emotional time like this, it may be helpful if you both just to relax and not worry about it for a while! [name_m]Even[/name_m] if he doesn’t change his mind, you’re still getting your #1 name choice. Maybe it isn’t your ideal combo, but naming is usually a joint process and not everyone is going to get what they want.
[name_f]My[/name_f] parents thought for sure they were having a boy named [name_m]Charles[/name_m] ([name_u]Charlie[/name_u]) after me…I have a 15 year old sister named [name_f]Mikayla[/name_f] You can’t be sure without an ultrasound (although my sister and I were both too big for the technician to tell…). I would definitely choose a boys name as well. Perhaps keep [name_f]Tallulah[/name_f] & [name_f]Phoebe[/name_f] as your top two?
You can’t be sure without an ultrasound (although my sister and I were both too big for the technician to tell…). I would definitely choose a boys name as well. Perhaps keep [name_f]Tallulah[/name_f] & [name_f]Phoebe[/name_f] as your top two?