My OH and I are planning on TTC 2013 and we’ve falling in love with the name [name]Arya[/name] - we pronounce it ar-yah (it’s how we’d pronounce it where I’m from - not native English speaker). Problem is, every time we mention it we get a wrinkle on the nose! We just really love it!!
Everybody says its not the name. its just that they haven’t ever heard it before and names like [name]Poppy[/name], [name]Ruby[/name] and [name]Ellie[/name] sit better with them, but those names aren’t in our taste and we’d never pick a name like that anyway.
Would you disregard other peoples opinion and use the name anyway, or would you not use it because your family/friends dislike it?
Problem is… every other name we’ve mentioned they dislike as well and I just sort of feel - I’m not naming my child to please others. But should i be!?
We had mixed opinions on our eldest sons name ([name]Tristan[/name]), only positives on our second son ([name]Noah[/name]) - never had purely negative opinions before…
That’s why in our family, we don’t share names until the child is born. My grandmother muttered “oh dear, not grace” when I was born, but my mother never had any other problems.
I think, if you love it and it goes with your last name- go for it!
[name]Arya[/name] is not my style, but it’s a lovely name, I wouldn’t listen to them if you and your husband have agreed on it!
I rather like [name]Arya[/name]- it’s quirky and stands out in a soft pleasing way. I pronounced it as you wanted it pronounced first time I read it.
My suggestion, tell people you’re not sure between [name]Isabella[/name] or [name]Sophia[/name]. Then when she arrives “surprise” she’s [name]Arya[/name] and people are left speechless and it’s too late for them to offer their opinions.
We’re not telling our families for that exact reason! They’d judge and told us we’re crazy.
Choose the name you two love! People have different tastes, and not everyone is going to love the name. They’ll love your kid, and that’s what matters.
And I like [name]Arya[/name], not at all difficult to say or spell.
You live in an English speaking country, right? If so, you realize that [name]Arya[/name] is ar-ee-uh? And that ar-yah sounds like “Are ya going to eat that”?
[name]Little[/name] ar-yah will spend her life correcting people who call her ar-ee-uh (I know from personal experience as a tar-ah that is constantly call tair-ah). Why not save her the annoyance and go with ar-ee-uh?
Well it’s your kid, don’t care about what other people thinks (unless you’re thinking about naming your child something celebrity-weird, then I think an advise here and there might do you good). [name]Arya[/name] is a lovely name, it personally makes me think of the Game of Thrones character, but she’s not a bad reference so. Good luck!
Go with your gut. It’s served you well with your boys names (I think they’re both great) so you must be doing something right. And you’re lucky to have found something you both not only agree on but love.
When my time comes I don’t think I’ll be sharing ideas with my family beforehand as I know some of my faves can be seen as strange and I don’t want to be second guessing once DH and I make up our minds
I don’t think its going to be a massive problem at all - we live in a town with a very mixed population and you hear all sorts of names from all over the world without people thinking twice about it.
I don’t like Ar-ee-uh. It doesn’t sit well in my mouth and I know I’d just call her Ar-yah anyway. As would my family, my husband, her brothers and our friends, but if she wants to go by that pronunciation on her own I’ve got no issues with that at all.
I honestly think their reaction has more to do with them not being used to the name yet. If they are okay with [name]Poppy[/name] and [name]Ruby[/name], which people turned they’re nose at when they came back, they’ll be okay with [name]Arya[/name] in a couple of years - you’re just ahead of the curve
I’m right there with you! All of my names get more than just a nose-wrinkle. They get a head-rearing-back, jaw-dropping-open, you-want-to-name-them-WHAT??? face…every. single. time. And I’m not even pregnant yet! My husband and I both come from really conservative families where we are the one odd out, and so I dread the time when I am actually carrying a little one and we have to tell them the name we’ve decided on.
That being said, I know that if you let other people make a decision for you, you will ALWAYS regret it. You have to stay true to what you love It is the family’s job to support you, and if they aren’t doing their job, that is not on you, nor on your child. Go with what you [name]LOVE[/name]. [name]Every[/name] child goes through a name crisis in their life, whether they are named [name]Ashley[/name] or [name]Hepzibah[/name], and it is far easier to explain to a daughter “I chose this name because I loved it more than anything else in the world” than it is to say “I wanted something else, but settled on this because of the reactions from the family.”
I for one [name]LOVE[/name] [name]Arya[/name], and all its fantasy associations (Game of Thrones, the Inheritance saga, etc). It just has so much more substance than [name]Poppy[/name] or [name]Ruby[/name] or [name]Ellie[/name], and goes so much better with your sons’ names!
I’ve been selective about who I discuss names with. I usually say that I’ve got it narrowed down to a few options, but I want to get a good look at him first before I decide. On one hand I have less people in a position to say negative things about my choices until it’s too late and on the other it keeps the half-dozen or more pregnant women I know from stealing my faves. I prefer this to the idea of throwing out decoy names because then you could have people giving you a hard time about names you aren’t even really considering.
[name]Every[/name] single name I truly loved, someone disliked or hated, but at the end of the day it wasn’t their child, she was mine so I stuck to my guns and named my daughter what I wanted to name her. I’m glad I did, the name I gave her suits her to a T and I have no regrets, whereas if I had tried pleasing others I know I’d be having name regret now.
If you love the name [name]Arya[/name], then name your daughter that, don’t let people talk you out of it just because it isn’t their style of name.
This is funny. [name]How[/name] in the world could your family and friends possibly know that [name]Arya[/name] is not “the name” for YOUR child??
Go with your gut and give your daughter a name that you love and feel that she will love as well. My advice would be to not share any further name ideas with your family and friends. Their input doesn’t matter in the least.
I think [name]Arya[/name] is beautiful. You should be picking a name for YOU. If you like it, use it! You’re the one who will be with her the most…don’t settle for a name just because you’re family and friends like it!
After giving birth to a [name]Sadiya[/name] and a [name]Wendy[/name], me and my husband realized that, like most people say, wait until the baby is born before telling people the name. I got so many negative comments on the girls names that I was on the verge of looking for new names.
But I think that if you love a name enough, you shouldn’t be bothered by what other people say. [name]Arya[/name] is a really cute name, don’t be afraid to use it because of what people say or think.
Thank you so much for all your good answers! We aren’t telling anyone the final name before after the birth - before that we’ll just throw in some random names and say we’re considering those. We didn’t tell anyone the final name with our second son either!
Sometimes i just feel people are downright rude about others name choices - I don’t particularly like the names of my nieces and nephews, would never dream of using them, but everytime I’ve told their parents that their name choices were nice, pretty and cute. You’d think they’d show you the same courtesy! But yes, defo won’t tell anyone before baby is born!
I love [name]Arya[/name]. It’s on our very short list for this baby.
As for the pronunciation, I live in a large city in the southern US and I hear it pronounced with both 2 and 3 syllables. Pick which one you like, remind those that need it, and then don’t worry about it.
Oh yeah. My cousin advised me that when I have kids to not tell ANYONE in our family the name until the baby is born. She made the mistake of announcing the name and all of a sudden, everyone is an expert on what YOU should name YOUR child. All of our family gave her major crap, and she started thinking about it. Her and her husband got in a fight over it because they started to second guess the name. In the end, they went with their gut and named the baby the original name (Cresten [name]Grant[/name], which I actually quite like). My family is the judgement police, they can be BRUTAL. God forbid you wear something they don’t like, get a haircut they don’t like. THEY [name]WILL[/name] LET YOU KNOW haha.
