My poor son has been without a name for 11 days!!! After all this time the only names my husb has even a slight liking for are: [name_u]Sam[/name_u], [name_m]Ben[/name_m], or [name_u]Max[/name_u]. All this time and these are the only names we come close to agreeing on! He is a really gentle, quiet, sweet baby. I think [name_u]Max[/name_u] is too spunky for him. Any input or suggestions are welcome. If you can help me get closer to deciding on a name my family and friends will thank you too!
[name_m]Ben[/name_m] is my favorite from your list! So handsome and sweet. [name_m]Benji[/name_m] would be an adorable nickname 
If you feel like [name_u]Max[/name_u] does not quite fit him, I would encourage you to consider taking it off the list. [name_m]Ben[/name_m] and [name_u]Sam[/name_u] are great options.
I do have a few suggestions of softer boy names, so maybe one will catch your eye. Good luck & congratulations!
[name_m]Wesley[/name_m]
[name_m]Soren[/name_m]
[name_u]Robin[/name_u]
[name_m]Julian[/name_m]
[name_u]Jude[/name_u]
[name_m]Jasper[/name_m]
[name_m]Oliver[/name_m]
[name_u]Elliot[/name_u]
[name_m]Will[/name_m]
[name_m]Leo[/name_m]
[name_u]Sawyer[/name_u]
[name_u]Ellis[/name_u]
[name_u]Mason[/name_u]
[name_m]Nathan[/name_m]
[name_m]Eli[/name_m] (or [name_m]Elijah[/name_m], [name_u]Elias[/name_u])
[name_u]Reid[/name_u]
[name_u]Jay[/name_u]
[name_u]Alex[/name_u] - I think this softens [name_u]Max[/name_u] slightly. Maybe a better fit?
[name_u]Sam[/name_u] is soft and sweet. I do prefer [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] or [name_m]Sampson[/name_m] though.
I like [name_u]Sam[/name_u] and [name_u]Max[/name_u], very sweet names! I agree about [name_m]Samson[/name_m], something very charming about it.
A few more ideas ~
Isaiah
[name_m]Asher[/name_m]
[name_m]Silas[/name_m]
[name_m]Miles[/name_m]
[name_m]Graham[/name_m]
[name_u]Rory[/name_u]
[name_m]Ross[/name_m]
[name_u]Beau[/name_u]
[name_u]Joey[/name_u]
[name_u]Reese[/name_u]
[name_u]Dylan[/name_u]
[name_m]Cole[/name_m]
[name_u]Charley[/name_u]
[name_m]Harry[/name_m]
[name_u]Grey[/name_u]
[name_m]Jonas[/name_m]
[name_m]Seamus[/name_m]
[name_u]Finn[/name_u] (or [name_u]Flynn[/name_u])
[name_u]Finley[/name_u]
[name_u]Rowan[/name_u]
[name_m]Joshua[/name_m]
[name_m]Daniel[/name_m]
[name_m]Gabriel[/name_m]
[name_m]Anders[/name_m]
[name_m]Lucas[/name_m]
I love [name_u]Sam[/name_u] and [name_m]Ben[/name_m]. But especially [name_m]Ben[/name_m] ([name_m]Benjamin[/name_m]). Anyway you can do both?
[name_m]Samuel[/name_m] [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m]
[name_m]Ben[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m]
[name_m]Ben[/name_m] [name_m]Samson[/name_m]
[name_u]Sam[/name_u] [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m]
[name_m]Samson[/name_m] [name_m]Ben[/name_m]
[name_m]Benjamin[/name_m] [name_u]Max[/name_u]
The name [name_m]Magnus[/name_m] came to mind. It means ‘the greatest’ and it reminds me of [name_u]Max[/name_u] in a way.
I think [name_u]Sam[/name_u] suits a sweet and quiet boy perfectly.
The only boys I’ve met called [name_u]Max[/name_u] were very quiet and cute, so I think it would be a good choice, but if not, how about:
[name_m]Felix[/name_m]
[name_u]Jude[/name_u]
[name_u]Rory[/name_u]
[name_u]Beau[/name_u]
[name_m]Thomas[/name_m]
[name_u]Elias[/name_u]
[name_m]Stefan[/name_m]
[name_m]Julian[/name_m]
[name_m]Matthew[/name_m]
[name_m]Isaac[/name_m]
[name_m]Grayson[/name_m]
[name_m]Lucas[/name_m]
I think both [name_u]Sam[/name_u] and [name_m]Ben[/name_m] both sound peaceful as you described your son.
Another name that came to mind that I have not seen mentioned is [name_u]Evan[/name_u].
Adding in:
[name_u]Evan[/name_u]
Johah
[name_m]Hayes[/name_m]
[name_u]Lane[/name_u]