I had my last baby (#8) in [name_u]March[/name_u] and I’m feeling a bit sad. I’m not sad about not having another baby (I’ve had my share), but more like I"m sad about names I won’t get to use and a little sad that so many people close to me don’t like so many of my kids’ names. I love my kids’ names so it doesn’t really matter, but . . . I don’t know, I can’t explain it. Most likely I’m just very postpartum. This most recent baby is [name_f]Annabel[/name_f] [name_f]Sofia[/name_f], and I’ve already gotten the, “it is a cow name” a few times. It doesn’t help that her big sister (16 months old) is [name_f]Clover[/name_f] and has gotten the “it’s a bunny name” a few times.
So there is that.
And then there are the names I would have loved to use but won’t now–[name_m]Abel[/name_m] and [name_m]Lafe[/name_m] and [name_f]Georgia[/name_f] Prim.
Has anyone else had a sense of naming loss or whatever the heck it is that I’m feeling?
Aw, your names are gorgeous. I’m sorry you’ve been hearing that.
I get sad I won’t be able to use all my favourites too - I haven’t even started having kids yet and I’m already devastated I’ll probably never get to use [name_f]Opal[/name_f], one of my favourites for a middle name. It just doesn’t work with the top first names we agree on except one, and that spells something with the initials I won’t put my daughter through. I’m so sad though.
I can definitely see myself feeling like this when I’m done having kids. So I can’t empathise just yet, but I can sympathise!
Like you, I just love so many names, and unless I have 20 kids or something I won’t ever be able to use all my favourites Plus some of them can’t really be used in the same sibset (too similar, too different, too themed, etc.)
If you still love all 8 of your kids’ names, you’ve done a really, really great job. Ignore the haters. And try to take heart in the fact that, with 8 children, you’ve got to use way more of your favourites than most!
Best of luck to you with the newest arrival! [name_f]Annabel[/name_f] [name_f]Sofia[/name_f] is a gorgeous name. [name_f]Annabelle[/name_f]/[name_f]Annabel[/name_f] is pretty popular over here in the UK so I would say that the British people as a whole approves of your choice and disagrees with anyone who’s telling you it’s a “cow name”
I love the British! Of all my children’s names, the one I have gotten the most nasty comments about is my 5 year old daughter’s name, [name_f]Harriet[/name_f]. I love the name [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] and thought it was a pretty neutral choice. Ha! Not so!
I love your daughter’s name, by the way. [name_f]Juno[/name_f] [name_f]Matilda[/name_f] is gorgeous.
I think your kids’ names are really pretty. Maybe it’s simply a regional thing - my mom (Canadian-Jamaican, which are both British commonwealth countries) has suggested [name_f]Annabel[/name_f] to me a few times. I especially like your spelling of it. The [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] middle name is super retro and glamourous, and even without the movie star association it has a nice sound when said out loud. It really is a great name pairing.
I find nature names very attractive, so [name_f]Clover[/name_f] sounds lovely to my ear. Very gentle and soft when it’s said out loud. I’ve always lived in big cities and I like the vision of green that comes to mind with that name.
So, I’m here to tell you that when your kids move to [name_m]New[/name_m] [name_m]York[/name_m] City or [name_u]London[/name_u] they’ll get the name appreciation that they deserve.
I adore [name_f]Clover[/name_f], and [name_f]Annabel[/name_f] - a cows name? I would’ve never guessed (my word people are rude).
I understand the sadness of not being able to dream up names; it’s a wonderful thing to be able to do. I have a hard time choosing a name because I don’t want to stop thinking about it.
Comments like this are honestly so condescending and rude to large families.
[name_f]Annabel[/name_f] [name_f]Sofia[/name_f] is a lovely name! Ignore the haters. I can’t even imagine why someone would think it’s appropriate to tell you that they think [name_f]Annabel[/name_f] is a cow’s name. Tell them to buzz off.
But if you read the original post, it’s nothing to do with having more children or about how she can cope with 8 children. It’s a bit unfair to comment saying that she won’t have time/energy/money for an animal or another child with 8 children, considering you don’t know her or her situation?
Back to the OP:
Honestly, I’m a few years from having kids, but even now when I just kind of, make up sibling sets in my head, I start thinking like “Oh, I didn’t use [name_f]Annabelle[/name_f]!!” “If I use [name_f]Florence[/name_f] here, I can’t use [name_f]Grace[/name_f] here” etc. I know it’s not quite the same, but I’d say that it’s pretty normal for anyone who likes names to feel that way.
I am so sorry about the comments you’ve been getting! [name_f]Annabel[/name_f] is more like an elegant, medieval lady’s name than a cow’s name (maybe people should stop giving animals human names if they don’t like it). Oh, yes, [name_f]Annabel[/name_f] [name_f]Sofia[/name_f] is simply charming! I would really love to know what all your other kid’s full names are, now
Plus some of them can’t really be used in the same sibset (too similar, too different, too themed, etc.)
