[name_m]Hi[/name_m] all. I am in my first trimester and always feeling quite ill. My SO is understanding but I still feel bad that our sex life has severely diminished (basically down to nothing) since finding out I’m pregnant. I am always falling asleep, feeling as though I may puke, and just feeling bloated and gross. I don’t know if this is normal or something I should talk to my OBGYN about? I am a first time mum and really don’t want to withhold from my poor SO for another 30 or so weeks! Any advice?
From my experience, the best advice I can give is to expect some relief in the second trimester! The first trimester is difficult when you experience morning sickness and fatigue but the second trimester is when you get your groove back. You feel more like yourself, your energy (and your sex drive) return. Of course, this is my experience. If you get no relief in the next few weeks then it’s worth mentioning to your OB. Good luck mama!
Hello god bless :), i totally feel ya lol. During my first trimester i felt sick as a dog :oops: luckily my SO was super understanding. communication is the most important part. Talk to your partner about how your feeling and do whats comfortable
xoxo- rayne
Generally speaking, you can expect to regain a sex drive in your second trimester. For me personally I not only had my sex drive returned but ended up with an increased sex drive. I say just don’t worry about it and see what happens in a few weeks.
And hang in there Mama, those first weeks of nausea and feeling awful are tough, but if you are ten weeks you can typically (of course everyone is different surly) expect to feel better about week 12.
I had no drive whatsoever my entire pregnancy. Absolutely no interest. Actually, it still hasn’t returned (I’m still breastfeeding and this can diminish sex drive). Not to say nothing happens, but things haven’t been “normal” for two years now. I feel bad for DH but he’s very understanding.
The first trimester is all about survival. When you start to turn the corner into mid- to later pregnancy, you might feel a lot more like your usual self. Like others have said, that’s really the time to go for it. Postpartum can also bring you back into survival mode for awhile.
Yeah, you will probably feel better as you get into the second trimester but the way you are feeling right now is very normal. If you do feel better later, be sure to enjoy it before your bump starts getting in the way. So awkward. Very much possible, but awkward (I don’t like most of the bump-friendly positions, but that’s just me). In general I don’t think pregnancy and a great sex life go very well together for most couples. Although there are always exceptions and things do change over the pregnancy - first trimester is the worst I think but unless you are very unlucky you won’t feel like this all the way through.
Please don’t feel bad. Almost all of the suffering that goes with creating a baby falls to the pregnant woman. Partners of pregnant women who have to take care of their own needs for a while are not hard done by. If your SO is understanding, take them at their word!
This made me LOL! Agree 100%
[name_f]Every[/name_f] pregnancy is different for everyone, but I had 0 sex drive during my pregnancy. We did it maybe like once a month and none at all once I reached the last month, and then we had to wait 6 weeks, lets just say it felt amazing after over 2 months of no sex, lol! The only reason I did have sex was for my husband otherwise I could have gone without, but I did feel bad about it and normally when we got going, I would get in the mood, it’s the getting in the mood part that was hard. Luckily he was super understanding.
I feel you.
I’m 8w pregnant for the first time and although my sex drive is still as high a before there’s always some sort of pregnancy sypmtom in the way of it! whether it’s nausea or sleepyness. And the thing is… I feel really sexy (my face is glowing, my boobs are bigger and tighter) and the times we can do it the orgasms are SO good. Having to say no to sex is completely frustrating and I find myself doing it more and more.
I suppose we’ll have to wait for the 2nd trimester as the other girls say 