Sooo ill be 9 weeks at my engagement party… Only our parents will know. Im always the one thats drinking… [name_u]Love[/name_u] my wine! [name_m]How[/name_m] am I meant to hide this? Please help!!! Invites are out and everything. I need a solution… Gaaaahhh
Does your partner drink? Can you get him to drink from your glass when no one’s looking?
There’s always the technique of switching grape juice for wine or a club soda with a slice of lime that looks like a cocktail. I’d be a little wary of appearing to drink though in case later on people do the math and think you were drinking pregnant (you can always explain later though!).
Otherwise, maybe a little white lie about why you’re not drinking? Stomach upset, a headache? Some antibiotics are not to be taken with alcohol…something like that if you think people are going to inquire and you’re not ready to share the news.
There’s also the option of sharing the news with those who ask, but I realize you may want to wait til further into the pregnancy to announce.
Double congrats on your engagement and the little one on the way!
Congratulations on your engagement and pregnancy.
When I was about 8 weeks pregnant with [name_m]Gabriel[/name_m] one of our best friends got married. I’m not a big drinker, but I always have one or two glasses of wine. When people asked about it, I said I was taking antibiotics so I couldn’t drink.
I am also not one to say no to a drink at social occasions, but it is actually very easy to trick people.
There’s the old antibiotics lie… I didn’t use that one because I thought it was suspicious, but that’s probably just me being paranoid. People would probably buy it no questions asked (although they might ask why you’re on antibiotics I suppose).
What I mostly did was to have a drink that looked like a drink but wasn’t. I bought some non-alcoholic beer and just drank that. It looks the same, smells and even tastes similar. People are really not that observant if they are not in sleuth mode. They expect to see you drinking and you appear to be drinking - they don’t question it. If wine is your drink of choice I recommend buying some non-alcoholic wine. I don’t recommend pretending that juice is wine because I imagine it would look and smell very different. [name_f]Non[/name_f]-alcoholic wine/beer also comes in bottles that look like the ‘real thing’ - they say ‘non-alcoholic’ on them of course but again people honestly aren’t that observant if they don’t suspect anything. Wine is probably harder than beer because you don’t drink a whole bottle at once. Also a glass of tonic with a slice of lemon - nobody will suspect it’s not a G&T. I bought those in bars a few times.
Another trick is to have a real drink in your hand and pretend to sip it occasionally, and tip some out at opportune moments. Or just hold it. I can really not stress enough that people are not observant - they see what they expect to see. In your head it will feel like your trick is so obvious they are definitely going to know. But I told people about what I had done after the event and they were surprised, they had absolutely no idea.
I once also pretended that I had drunk too much the night before and couldn’t stomach the thought of a drink that day. That probably wouldn’t go down very smoothly at your own engagement party though, haha.
Thank you for your help! I love the ideas! Theyr great! What are ur opinions on having dark brown cider bottles and filling them with sparkling apple juice then telling the bar staff which ones are mine in the fridge?? 
You could drive and then you say you can’t drink because you are driving…
The switch at the bar could work! Something to talk to the venue about it.