With my previous thread I feel like the berries were super helpful! I am now wondering if you knew you were pregnant after doing the deed we shall say;). Was there a maternal instinct inside you that let you know before taking a test? For example my friend said right after she and her husband tried she knew she was pregnant right away before even taking a test. Then of course she took the test and now she has a little boy.
Thank you berries for being so helpful!
Well, we weren’t trying, which I’m sure STRONGLY influences that ‘instinct.’ If you want to be pregnant, you’ll be more likely to believe that you are!
Though I did end up taking the pregnancy test (then two more…) instead of just continuing to wait out what I suspected was just an abnormally long cycle, so there had to be something going on to inspire that.
My symptoms didn’t kick in until days later, when I was about 4.5 weeks along (2.5 weeks gestation).
Re: your friend, conception doesn’t happen “right away” (though I supposed that depends on your definition of “right away”). It’s possible she was clued in and noticed a shift within a day or two, but right after BD? More likely it just felt “right” to her and she liked the idea – and as luck had it, she was right, but she wouldn’t find that out until at least two weeks after conception.
I always thought I was, but that wasn’t always the case.
Meaning, before taking the test. Not after ‘doing the deed’- how could you possibly know?! Especially if you’re ‘doing it’ multiple times during your ovulation window, how could you pick which ‘time’ is the ‘time’ to feel that after?
With my first, I knew something was off with my body, and my gut reaction was right. With my second, my husband predicted it based on my emotions and fatigue. After that there were many times where I thought I was but I wasn’t right, and there were times I was pleasantly surprised to find that I was when I wasn’t so sure.
Definitely not immediately, I don’t think that’s possible.
I did have a pretty strong feeling before testing, but that was close to two weeks later and more actual symptoms (I knew I was either pregnant or something was wrong) than any sort of hunch.
Well, considering you don’t actually get preggo right away, I don’t see how that’s possible. But feeling like you picked the right time and that this is going to be your lucky month? Sure, absolutely! I got a gut feeling I was preggo about a week later when we went out to celebrate our anniversary and I kept knocking things over. In a very fancy restaurant. It was super embarrassing and not at all like me so I wondered if something was up. Plus i had the ovary twinges people talk about… something just felt different I guess. Then when I got spotting instead of my normal, heavy AF, I tested and it was positive!
The waiting game is not fun. I just have this weird feeling I am not. [name]Granite[/name] I am suppose to get my period next week so ill really have answer. Plus it hasn’t even been a week since we tried. Tomorrow will make it a week but I just don’t feel like it worked. I feel like I just have normal symptoms I get before the time of the month. Which is almost frustrating. I figured it happens so quickly for other 23-24 year olds why wouldn’t it for me?
I appreciate the feedback and you berries sharing your stories/journeys
Because everyone’s reproductive system is different, that’s why 
Dunno how long you’ve been TTC, but from what I can tell (as I’ve never TTC) the “two week wait” can be agonizing for many. But in the end, it’s only two weeks. [name]Don[/name]'t set yourself up for “waiting” stress your whole pregnancy - there are plenty of medical milestones along the way and you’ll drive yourself crazy by over-analyzing in anticipation of what’s coming next. You’ll see/hear the heartbeat at 6-8 weeks, then worry about it stopping, the possibility of a missed miscarriage, etc. (this is what I’m trying not to stress over currently). [name]Even[/name] the wait between ultrasounds can end up being stressful, and that is MUCH much longer.
Try to relax. It’s good for the babe.
I was 23 when I got pregnant, and it took 4 months. [name]Every[/name] month I wasn’t pregnant, I totally felt pregnant and had all these crazy symptoms but when I was actually pregnant, I didn’t feel anything. I actually waited a week after my period was late to test because I kept thinking “there is no way I am pregnant, these are obviously PMS symptoms.” So, no I didn’t have a gut feeling.
Whenever I have felt like, “there is no way on earth I might be pregnant,” well, then I am! When I have felt like I definitely was, I never turned out to be! [name]Just[/name] in my experience!
Well, firstly, as others have said, you don’t get pregnant right away after having sex. It’s a week or so before the egg implants into your uterus and you aren’t “pregnant” until that happens. I think many women who are trying to conceive sometimes talk themselves into thinking they’re pregnant when they’re not. You might feel like you’re experiencing pregnancy symptoms, but, unfortunately, sometimes it’s all in your head! That’s happened to me, too. Honestly, many women don’t experience any pregnancy symptoms until after their missed period. For you, at one week past ovulation, you won’t feel anything. Your body will feel normal. Pregnancy symptoms usually don’t kick in until about six weeks. Also, just because you’re 23 (or 24) doesn’t mean it’ll happen straight away. I’ve heard the average amount of time couples try before getting pregnant with their first baby is seven months. So, anything less than that and you’re one of the lucky ones!
With my first pregnancy, my cycles had been somewhat irregular; the month before I got a bfp my period was 10 days late! I also wasn’t feeling that flash, so I think i had a virus of some kind that delayed things. BUT, because I’d been late, I left it until I was at least 1 whole week late the next month to test, since I wasn’t 100% sure on when AF would arrive.
The day before I planned to test I had a strange sensation across the front of my uterus and my brain straight away though – I bet that test will be positive in the morning. It was.
The second time around we’d been trying for a few months and a couple of times I’d sort of convinced myself that I was, when I turned out not to be. I think I was only 1, maybe 2 days late when I tested for this current pregnancy. The day before I tested I had a weird tingly boob feeling and again thought - oh I guess i’m actually pregnant this time! And a couple of days before that, I was at the shops on my own (unusually, since I usually have the toddler in tow!) just wandering around aimlessly and remember thinking, “how odd that i’m the only one thats knows i’m pregnant, you couldn’t tell from looking at me right now”, I remember thinking it, then thinking, thats an odd thing to think.
So I guess, yeah, before I tested I felt that I already “knew” that I was. But definitely not immediately after “BDing”!
[name]Scarlett[/name], didn’t you just get off birth control? It takes a while for your body to adjust to that. My sister got pregnant six months after she went off the pill, and her doctor said that was pretty normal. Besides, in your other thread you said you only had sex one time during your ovulation period, get a bit more active between the sheets or on the kitchen counter and see what happens.
I think it’s easy to rationalise things with science and all the information we have available these days but sometimes there are things that can’t be explained…I knew immediately after doing the “deed” with two of my pregnancies that i had just gotten pregnant. Dont ask me how- it was just the immediate thought which popped into my head- “oh i just got pregnant.” Logically I know that doesn’t make sense (especially as I ovulated two days after in this pregnancy’s case) - neither time were we actively trying so it wasn’t on my radar.
I have also always experienced symptoms before a positive result too, even though someone on here said that’s not possible- my sense of smell always increases dramatically.
Women’s bodies and their relationship to them are remarkable and don’t always do what they’re “supposed” to!
The trying and waiting can be excruciating, try and enjoy the journey, it will almost certainly end with a babe in your arms at some point (I don’t say this lightly having watched many friends go through difficult fertility journeys but all ending up with children) Good luck x
I definitely had a weird, general feeling that something was up with both pregnancies - no specific symptoms, but just feeling a little off somehow. But that wasn’t until around a month after conception. As others have said, I think many people think they feel something special when they first start trying to conceive, just because they’re hyper-sensitive to every twinge or bodily sensation in a way they weren’t previously, and well, sometimes they’re right, so they attribute the change to the pregnancy. But sometimes they’re wrong.
Anyway, I agree with ottilie that having frequent sex is the best way to maximize your chances of getting pregnant quickly. Charting your cycles can definitely help, but since even the stress/excitement of knowing you are trying to get pregnant can mess with ovulation, your best bet is to be having sex 3-4 times every week rather than just trying to time things around ovulation.
I knew right away before taking a test, my sense of smell was stronger, my stomach was hard, and everything I ate or drank tasted different. I had missed a pill one day, took it again for a couple days and then missed another day and bam I was pregnant.
I had that ‘gut’ feeling when I realized it was 5 wks since my LMP… and imagine I didn’t want to take a test because I didn’t want it to be positive…
… well you guessed, I eventually took the test… now almost 6 mths later… I cant wait for the day I’ll hold my baby girl in my arms… a sweet, precious surprise… and loving every moment of it…
The general argument against that is that, biologically speaking, what is happening in the immediate time following intercourse cannot be detected by the brain. You’re talking about itty bitty microscopic cells meeting inside your uterus, sometimes up to 48 hours after intercourse, going about their business for a few days and THEN implanting and setting off hormonal shift which some women are aware of on a subconscious level.
Bodies don’t always do what they’re supposed to, sure, but impregnation always follows a certain timeline that doesn’t include anything detectable by the brain for a matter of days.
As far as the “I just got pregnant” thought popping into your head… I’ve had something similar many a time. Of course, I’ve never actually BEEN pregnant until now. I think for me, it was a reaction to a particularly emotional session, and feeling very bonded with my partner (and perhaps knowing I was close to ovulating). I would imagine if one is actually trying to conceive, that would be a more meaningful and memorable feeling.
I remember my mother always saying that she “just knew right away” every time she was pregnant, and I felt so out of touch with myself for not knowing before the positive test. When I brought it up to her, she said that she didn’t get that feeling until she was already 6-8 weeks along (after I found out), but that was her definition of “right away.” I worry that women are putting undue pressure on themselves and looking for signs where they don’t exist, just so they can tout that they’re “in tune with their bodies.”
I have been off the pill for a few months now. And I was not on it for a long time like other people sometimes are. I hated the way it made me feel. And I have had normal menstrual cycles now. When I first got off the pill my period timing was totally whacky but now its regular again. Lol I know its hard since he is always so tired! I literally could walk away for a second, come back and he is passed out. Correct on the other thread we tried twice during that ovulation period which probably was not enough and I think I missed the window of opportunity by the time we decided we wanted to TTC now vs. fall/winter.
I really appreciate everyone chiming in! I want to have a little one so badly I think that is why I am stressing out and I also am very impatient. So even if we arent this time around which I feel that I am not we have the next cycle. I just hate waiting! Plus I do not want my boyfriend to get discouraged and not want to try. He already thinks something may be wrong with him like a low sperm count or something odd. I think he is more stressed than I am. I am trying to relax and lucky enough my business is helping me keep my mind off of this whole situation. But hearing everyone’s personal experiences truly does help.
[name]Just[/name] remember to enjoy the process. I have known multiple couples who tried for quite a while and were always stressed about what may be wrong and then as soon as they stopped actively trying but still not using bc they got pregnant right away because they didn’t have the negative effects that stress causes.