We’re dealing with this, too. I’ll first say that I don’t think there is a right or a wrong here. Parents who encourage [name_f]Santa[/name_f] aren’t liars and parents who don’t encourage [name_f]Santa[/name_f] aren’t uppity. Not saying you insinuated either but this topic gets surprisingly tense!
I grew up with [name_f]Santa[/name_f], until I realized around the age of 6 or so that [name_f]Santa[/name_f] and my mom had the same handwriting. Lol. I have younger siblings and a slew of younger cousins, so I was sworn to secrecy. I did feel a bit put off and it created tension between my parents and I as I got older. Part of it was just me being a bratty teenager but yeah… You see, my mom is religious and, while that didn’t stop her from doing the [name_f]Santa[/name_f] thing (literally everyone we knew did it), it did make me question how I was supposed to know what things I was taught were real and what was fake. It’s complicated.
I try not to carry baggage into my parenting. I don’t want to deny him participation in a fun holiday tradition because of something that doesn’t involve him. Still…we decided not to do the [name_f]Santa[/name_f] thing in the traditional “creepy old man watches you and so you better behave” deal. We think we’ll teach him the origins of [name_f]Santa[/name_f] and make it a game. Like the secret [name_f]Santa[/name_f] thing adults sometimes do. Maybe DH and I will take him out to “be santa” at our local humane society or for a friend or something.
There’s so much magic in [name_u]Christmas[/name_u], [name_f]Santa[/name_f] or no. The lights. The music. The glittering snow. The excitement. Yes, even the presents! I’ve known the truth for over 20 years now and this holiday still means the world to me…even more now that I have a little family to share it with.