This is not new to me as I have had 8 babies, but I thought I was on a better path this time…I am struggling with post partum issues and often the catalyst for those feelings is the name choice. For the timing of the BC filing I had to make a decision quickly. It pretty much sent me into a meltdown. I know some of you berries are younger and/or have not experienced this. Please be understanding.
We had a girl on Wed night. She is obviously sweet and beautiful! My goal is always a name that has a good meaning, is well thought out, and reflects honor to the new person. I thought I was really good with the choices we had gotten down to. I seemed fine with a few of the combos, even saying it didn’t bother me that some didn’t “fit” our pattern. After much back and forth and for one reason or another the first name was picked: [name_m]Lael[/name_m]. We couldn’t decide on a middle, so we figured it would be nice to let the rest of the children vote and be a part of it. They could chose between: [name_f]Naomi[/name_f], [name_f]Miriam[/name_f], Tiverah, [name_u]Damaris[/name_u], and at the last minute I pulled one from our original list that I felt was a really good option, [name_f]Rebekah[/name_f]. They were all in the car (I stayed home) and driving to file the BC and had a vote.
The final name is [name_m]Lael[/name_m] [name_f]Naomi[/name_f].
I am stressed now that it doesn’t seem to flow well, that we didn’t keep our pattern of a name with -ah/-iah somewhere (and she’s the only one and of course it will matter in 25 years!). Also, kept focusing on how first and middle names sounded together and didn’t think about how our last name was with it-there is a double ll and now it seems like too much. AND, I think [name_m]Lael[/name_m] is decidedly feminine, but worry that others are going to think we have another boy or named her a gender neutral compared to the other “obvious” girl names. See FREAKING out! I know I can change the BC without too much grief within the first year, but I don’t think hubby would let me even in a few days (he says we have to move on), and I can’t even think anymore of an alternative to change too…
Honestly, I think [name_m]Lael[/name_m] [name_f]Naomi[/name_f] goes with your other children’s names well. It has moderate to heavy vowel sounds and has that light and airy and I think quite refreshing vibe.
I also think it flows well.
I would not worry about flow wih the surname. For the most part, the whole name is only on the BC and [name_m]Lael[/name_m] (surname) will not be said aloud that often. Most would address her by her lovely first name and or first and middle.
Also, all of your kids are named beautifully and you have gorgeous taste in names. I looked back at the threads/links.
If I were you, I would let the hormones settle. I can’t even imagine the emotional turmoil women go thru after giving birth and while pregnant And naming a Real person.
i get pms and hormone issues bigtime and I am unable to have children, but, I can sort of understand the emotional roller coaster.
The meaning of the names are spiritual and pretty.
In my opinion, sibling names do not HAVE to match perfectly. Also, just being a name enthusiast, over-thinking can create even more issues if you are prone to being indecisive like I am.
I usually give it time with names, combos, and after giving my self a name-hiatus, things work themselves out.
I think [name_m]Lael[/name_m] [name_f]Naomi[/name_f] will appreciate her name. Between the spiritual depth, love, and thought poured into naming her, and the obvious dedication you have in regards to giving your kids meaningful names, that in itself will give her a stronger sense of self.
You may find that she is little [name_m]Lael[/name_m] and her name fits her personality, spiritual path, and inner beauty.
Thank you sooo much ashleyjuliette. It is very easy to forget the knowledge in my head because of the hormones and having someone else not involved point it out helped me feel a lot better. I appreciate your reminder to let things settle. Going to take a nap (always the answer…and chocolate…).
I love [name_m]Lael[/name_m] [name_f]Naomi[/name_f]. What a gorgeous combination! I only know one [name_m]Lael[/name_m] and she’s a woman. It has a very feminine sound to me too. I wouldn’t worry about the double L sounds. I personally like alliterative names. I also think it’s really special that the other kids got to pick her middle name.
All that said, give a good couple weeks. If she doesn’t feel like a little [name_m]Lael[/name_m] [name_f]Naomi[/name_f], change it.
I really love it I’ve never heard of the name before and upon reading it immediately added it to my list despite the fact that it’s coloured as male on this site it appears to me to be a feminine name (perhaps like a female version of [name_u]Lyle[/name_u] in my mind?) and it flows wonderfully with [name_f]Naomi[/name_f], another strong female name
You’ve done a brilliant job of naming your children and have done so again - try not to doubt yourself, it’s wonderful and [name_m]Lael[/name_m] is very lucky to have a mother as concerned for her well-being as you are xx
[name_m]Don[/name_m]'t doubt yourself! It’s a good name and, for me, it flows really well. I actually think it’s really cute your children picked her second name!
I love the name [name_m]Lael[/name_m]! In fact, my [name_m]French[/name_m] cousin recently named her daughter [name_m]Mael[/name_m], changing it from the usual [name_f]Maelle[/name_f] that’s popular in [name_m]Quebec[/name_m] right now. I know a [name_u]Yael[/name_u] and [name_u]Jael[/name_u], they are female. I’d never think that [name_m]Lael[/name_m] was a boy. It doesn’t “scream” girl like [name_f]Arianna[/name_f] or something, but neither do [name_f]Charis[/name_f] and [name_f]Selah[/name_f]. They are all quietly feminine and lovely, polished names. [name_m]Lael[/name_m] fits with them.
[name_m]Lael[/name_m] [name_f]Naomi[/name_f] is extraordinarily pretty! Guess what I noticed after carefully going through your names? [name_m]Elijah[/name_m] [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] doesn’t have the “ia” in his name either. So she is like a “match” for him.
I don’t think her name not matching the pattern of her siblings’ names is that important. I debated this a bit as well, as everyone in our family has “a” middle names, except for our daughter born in [name_u]March[/name_u]. We ended up going with a non-a name that had significance to my husband. I decided that having a name with meaning was more important than a name that fits in with the rest of the family. I think it’s nice that in [name_m]Lael[/name_m]'s case, her siblings had a say in her name; I named my youngest brother and we both think it’s a neat connection (incidentally, he is the only sibling in my family to not have an “a” middle name either).
As for feeling regret…well. It took a month to name our [name_u]March[/name_u] baby. We actually settled on a name and ended up changing it at the last minute to something we had never really considered. Picking a name was a huge source of stress for me both during the process and after. [name_m]Even[/name_m] almost two months later I like her name but feel strange using it. It does feel more natural each week that goes by, and it helps to hear positive responses to it.
I think its a lovely name which goes well with her siblings’ names. I’ve never heard of [name_m]Lael[/name_m] but the way it looks and sounds especially with [name_f]Naomi[/name_f] is just magical. [name_u]Truly[/name_u] a goegeous name.
Give it a couple of weeks. If you’re still feeling some regret, then think about changing it.
Congratulations, by the way and best wishes to you and your whole family xx
I went through this with our 9 month old. [name_m]Even[/name_m] down to letting my older kids Choose the middle name. Then I was so upset that she didn’t “fit in” because she is the only one whose middle doesn’t start with an M. I’m sorry you’re dealing with it too. It sucks. I really love my daughters name now, but at first I really thought I’d made a huge mistake. And I also wouldn’t dare try to change it because my husband acted like it was an outrageous idea. If you really want to change it, do it now when it’s not such a big deal. But I think it’s probably mostly just hormones. I think [name_m]Lael[/name_m] [name_f]Naomi[/name_f] is adorable, and goes well with your other children’s names.
I’ve never heard of the name before and upon reading it immediately added it to my list