Our sweet Jelly [name_m]Bean[/name_m] was born this morning, at 4:14am on 4/14! She weighed in at 6 pounds 4 ounces and is twenty-two inches long. She is absolutely perfect, looks just like her Daddy.
This evening my parents brought the boys by to meet their sister, who still doesn’t have a name. They were referring to her as [name_u]Piper[/name_u], as that is what we have called her up to this point.
Now, after meeting her, my husband says that [name_u]Piper[/name_u] just doesn’t fit. I feel like he is having a temper tantrum because it’s not the name he wanted. He’s INSISTING on [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], which I love… But we have it picked out for twin B’s middle name, who is due in [name_u]June[/name_u].
Naming girls was stressful enough, and now he is changing his mind.
Our boys are already referring to her by the name that my husband previously agreed to. What am I suppose to do?
I want to name her [name_u]Piper[/name_u] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f]. It fits her. She has a head full of red curls, just like we pictured her when deciding her name. I don’t know why he feels so strongly that [name_u]Piper[/name_u] shouldn’t be her name, but he won’t settle on it.
Should I give up this name, that I thought we both loved?
And, if I give in what are we suppose to name her? We never discussed a second choice because we both loved [name_u]Piper[/name_u] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] SO much.
As a Mama this is stressing me out. Not good for our Jelly [name_m]Bean[/name_m], and not good for me either!
As someone interested in adoption, may I ask about your choice to give your biological children only 2 names each and your adoptive babies 3 names each? Are these from their birth parents?
Considering brothers [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_u]Rhys[/name_u] and [name_m]Kaidan[/name_m] [name_m]Levi[/name_m] [name_u]Blake[/name_u], I would pick between [name_u]Piper[/name_u] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] and [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_f]Molly[/name_f] for this girl and use the other name for little sister. I think [name_u]Piper[/name_u] and [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] both fit and blend the boys names together into a nice sibling set.
First, Congrats on your little girl! I love the 4:14 on 4/14! Would it be possible to name her [name_u]Piper[/name_u] [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] or [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_u]Piper[/name_u]? It’s hard, if your boys are already calling her [name_u]Piper[/name_u], to expect them to forget the name and switch to [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u].
Use [name_u]Piper[/name_u] as a nickname, you don’t all have to call her the same name. Push for it if you can, you know your husband, but otherwise I think using it as a nn while he chooses a formal name is a workable solution.
I’m thinking about using both name. [name_u]Piper[/name_u] [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f]? But of course you’ll need to choose a new middle for twin B.
Personally I think it’s important to have a name both parents love. So if that’s [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], then I’d go with it. Your boys will adjust - my DD1 (just younger than your DS2) easily understood that her sister was [name_m]Bean[/name_m] while in the belly and a different name when she came out.
Personally I think [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_u]Piper[/name_u] would be a good compromise - or [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_f]Adele[/name_f] or [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f].
You then have two months to settle a name for your DD2 - whether it’s [name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_u]Piper[/name_u], [name_u]Piper[/name_u] [name_f]Molly[/name_f] or something else.
[name_f]Welcome[/name_f] to the world little girl!
Sounds like your husband is being childish, not standing behind his word. Ask him why he led you on all of these months. That said, a reasonable compromise would be to use [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] as baby’s middle name.
I don’t agree with this at all… People change their minds. It’s life. Maybe he was okay with the name until he saw his daughter and realized he couldn’t call her that. There is absolutely nothing childish about that!
Since you both love the name, just use [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] and come up with something different for the twins you’re adopting in [name_u]June[/name_u] or whatever. [name_m]Both[/name_m] [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] and [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_u]Piper[/name_u] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] are lovely.
I love [name_u]Piper[/name_u] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f], so cute for a little red head. A good compromise might be to name the girl twin [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_f]Molly[/name_f], that way your husband still gets the name he loves. Good luck!
[name_m]Both[/name_m] parents have to love the name. He doesn’t like [name_u]Piper[/name_u], end of story. If you don’t want this child named [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], then how about [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] [name_u]Piper[/name_u]?
Or name her [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], and start a new name search for baby number two.
If you both really [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], I think it isn’t such a big deal to use it now because it was just supposed to be [name_f]Molly[/name_f]'s middle name. The first name is the one you’ll use more, so you have plenty of time to think of a new middle for [name_f]Molly[/name_f].
I would use [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_u]Piper[/name_u] or [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] for this baby (or [name_u]Piper[/name_u] [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] if your DH comes around on using it), then switch whichever name you don’t use to [name_f]Molly[/name_f]'s middle, because [name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_u]Piper[/name_u], [name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], and [name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] all work really well, and that way you still get to use all of the names you love.
As stated before, kids will adjust. If your husband doesn’t feel comfortable calling your daughter [name_u]Piper[/name_u], then it can’t really be forced. Children also grow and change. I was born with straight brownish-red hair, and grey and blue eyes. I look absolutely nothing like that anymore! It’s got to be hard changing the name when you feel it fits, but if he was already a bit apprehensive before [name_u]Baby[/name_u] was born, and now that she’s born you can’t both agree, then I would go with [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u].
As someone else suggested, you could always just call her [name_u]Piper[/name_u] as a family nickname until she grows out of it. If [name_u]Piper[/name_u] means that much to you, then really let him know that. Perhaps you could try convincing him again that this is the name. Compromise can be a good thing, but just remember that you wouldn’t want to use a name you feel doesn’t fit your child as little as he does.
I completely believe that both parents need to love your child’s name. Why would you even want to have your husband forced into a situation where he’s uncomfortable with the name choice? It should be a decision made together, and if either of you are unhappy, then a compromise needs to be met.
Congratulations on your new baby! Maybe [name_u]Piper[/name_u] seems to masculine in comparison to [name_f]Molly[/name_f]? Would swapping the first and middle names around, making her [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] [name_u]Piper[/name_u], work better for him?
I think [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u]'s a better choice than piper anyway.
That aside, if DH doesn’t want to use it, don’t use it. You have time to find a new middle for [name_f]Molly[/name_f], and you have said you both love [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u].
If the only reason he doesn’t want to use [name_u]Piper[/name_u] is because she doesn’t look like a [name_u]Piper[/name_u], then maybe your twin girl might look like a [name_u]Piper[/name_u] and you could use it for her.
I don’t personally believe in naming babies based on what they look like when they’re born though - partly because they change so much (and a lot of the ‘look’ can be to do with whether they were under/over due) but also because I think what a name “looks” like is only a matter of opinion anyway. I don’t think [name_u]Piper[/name_u] looks red-headed to me, the only Pipers I have known (one in real life and one in a book) were petite with dark hair, so that’s my view of [name_u]Piper[/name_u]!
I do tend to agree you can’t make the other parent like a name though - which is a shame, because there’s some names I would love to use but can’t ever get hubby to like them (and him vice versa).
[name_f]Hope[/name_f] you can work something out that suits both of you
[name_f]Remember[/name_f], you have plenty of time to decide - you don’t need to rush: you can explain to family and friends that the name you picked out isn’t the right one now you’ve met your baby, and to be patient while you get to know her. Maybe as you live with her and watch her for the next few weeks, a name will click that you would not have otherwise thought of.
One thought I had, maybe a bit crazy, but maybe not, is to call her [name_f]April[/name_f], nickname [name_u]Piper[/name_u]. Seeing as she was born in [name_f]April[/name_f]. (Because I love [name_f]April[/name_f], but the problem is the lack of a nick-name - maybe [name_u]Piper[/name_u] would work.) Or maybe [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_f]April[/name_f].
