My husband is stuck on three names: [name]Candace[/name], [name]Grace[/name], and [name]Claire[/name].
I do not like [name]Candace[/name] at all. [name]Claire[/name] is already used as another daughters middle name.
[name]Grace[/name] is simple, sweet, classic and goes well with sibset but I find it a little too normal and prefer it as middle name. We’re having our third child…he named #1 ([name]Jack[/name] [name]William[/name]) , I named #2 ([name]Eila[/name] [name]Claire[/name]) so now we have to compromise. [name]Baby[/name] is due is 3 days!
Should I give in and just name her [name]Grace[/name] (since I do like it) or continue to fight it out? Anyone experience the same situation? My list is below if it makes a difference.
I don’t feel like we as the women should have to give in to the men. Especially if you are using his last name. Not a fan of using the same name for 2 kids ([name]Claire[/name]). [name]Candace[/name] feels really dated to me, and the 2 that I know in real life hate their names and go by a nn. [name]Grace[/name] is a bit boring. Your choices are so much better! I think [name]Cora[/name], [name]Carys[/name] or [name]Mira[/name] would make great options! The others are a bit too similar sounding to your other daughter’s name.
So I say stand your ground. Offer up [name]Grace[/name] as the middle if you both like it. [name]Cora[/name] [name]Grace[/name] or [name]Mira[/name] [name]Grace[/name]. [name]Lovely[/name]!
I [name]LOVE[/name] my sons middle name and wish I would use it for another kid but I just dont think its ok… I think each kids deserves their own name and identity!
[name]Grace[/name] is nice but I dont think you should give in!!! You are giving birth not him! You get the final say!!!
I think you and your DH should use something like Nymbler: plug in your favorites and come up with something new- something you both like. If you don’t mind, then it could be possible to use both yours and your DH’s favs for two middle names.
(I don’t have much experience with this, but I think this could work great.)
[name]How[/name] about a double barrel name, like [name]Mira[/name] [name]Grace[/name] or [name]Emilia[/name] [name]Grace[/name] as the first name, then both of you win!
I agree: [name]Grace[/name] is boring and overused, but is a really lovely middle name. You shouldn’t repeat a name already given another child, even in the middle, so the pretty [name]Claire[/name] is out. And [name]Candace[/name] is really dated.
The names on your list aren’t exactly “out there”–especially if you’re already got an [name]Eila[/name] (but [name]Elena[/name], [name]Elaine[/name], and [name]Elise[/name] are rather too close to [name]Eila[/name]).
However, rather than just assert the material prerogtive (I birth her, I name her), perhaps fish around a little to see if you can figure out why he’s rejecting [name]Cora[/name] but liking [name]Candace[/name]. That will help you maybe work toward some compromise options.
[name]Grace[/name] is a lovely name, but don’t give in if you think you can find something that you both love! I would use [name]Grace[/name] as a middle name. I agree not to use [name]Claire[/name] again.
I assume Hubby doesn’t like any of the names from your list? Not [name]Carys[/name]? It sounds like he likes short, hard vowel names and you also like short names, but some soft sounding (I’m seeing a lot of Es)
Good luck!
I’m with this completely! (Then again, I’m a fan of the double name in general.) [name]Emilia[/name] [name]Grace[/name] was what I was thinking too. Call her [name]Emmy[/name] [name]Grace[/name]!
Im going to check out the nymbler suggestion and see if we can agree on something. The only one I would consider is [name]Grace[/name]…I just don’t want to be stuck with something forever that I’m not in love with. (But the same can be said from his side as well.)
I don’t go for the whole “I don’t have to compromise on names because I’m the one giving birth.”
If you like [name]Grace[/name] and he loves [name]Grace[/name] and he doesn’t like any of the names on your list, I would give it some serious thought. [name]Grace[/name] is lovely. Have you asked him why he’s so stuck on it? That might endear you to the name more or give you a direction to find a compromise name. Also possible you may have to scrap your lists and start fresh to find something that makes you both happy. In my opinion, having a name that both parents are happy with is far more important than whose name “wins.”
@jillianelizabeth
You’re correct…he doesn’t like any from my list. I added [name]Cora[/name] and [name]Carys[/name] thinking he would like them because of the “c” sound and that they are short but he still didn’t like them. I also [name]LOVE[/name] "e " names for girls for some reason so even though they are close to [name]Eila[/name], I would still use them if he agreed.
I think if he doesn’t like any of your names you need to keep looking. (That said, I have a deep fondness for [name]Grace[/name] as a first name. I only find it boring as a middle name. [name]Gracie[/name] is an adorable nn, too)
[name]Don[/name]'t give in!! [name]Claire[/name] is a great name but odd since it’s a sister’s middle name too. I think [name]Cora[/name] is the perfect name for your 3rd, [name]LOVE[/name] IT.
Well, I feel for you. I was in a similar situation. I love the name we ended up with, but it wasn’t my first choice by a mile. It was literally the only name I offered that he agreed to.
I love the name [name]Grace[/name]. I don’t find it boring at all. BUT, I think both parents have to love the name. I personally love [name]Elise[/name] from your list. If he doesn’t love it, you should keep looking at other names. It isn’t fair for him to get all the say, though. Let us know if Nymbler gives you any success.