And if it makes you feel any better, even gender specific names sometimes confuse people. I have a son who is almost a year old named [name]Elijah[/name]. He has very very very long eyelashes, curly blond hair, and pretty blue eyes. And every time I tell someone under the age of ten that his name is [name]Elijah[/name] they say Oh he’s a girl? [name]Every[/name] time. Oh and I think [name]Jasper[/name] is a wonderful name for a girl and wouldn’t change it. 
[name]Jasper[/name]? I love it. [name]Love[/name] love love love love love love it. I MUCH prefer [name]Jasper[/name] on a girl than on a boy.
I’m not actually the biggest [name]Jasper[/name] fan at all when it comes to boys, but put it on a girl and it’s a whole new game. It’s fantastic. Plus, I love [name]Jasper[/name], [name]Alberta[/name]!
And I actually think the whole Twilight saga will make [name]Jasper[/name] more popular for both boys and girls just by sheer overexposure! It will probably remain more popular on boys but I think it will become more common and less unheard of on girls.
However, if you do decide to go by her middle name (pleeeease don’t), two of my friends went by their middle names everywhere except at home, where they were called by their first names. [name]Both[/name] are completely fine with it and even like it - it gives their families a certain special right to their names. So that is an option as well.
I think that [name]Jasper[/name] is becoming a unisex name. The other day I told my [name]MIL[/name] something about my son’s friend [name]Jasper[/name]. Her first questoin was if [name]Jasper[/name] was a boy or a girl.
I think by the time your daughter gets to school she will love her name as much as you do and be fine correcting people when they assume she is a boy. You can also use both fist and middle name on official documents with school so they both show up on lists and forms. Then she will be [name]Jasper[/name] [name]Eliana[/name] and it will be more obvious that she is a girl. I knew a guy in high school name [name]Jesse[/name] [name]Beau[/name] who hated [name]Jesse[/name] because he though it was a girl name. So he always went by [name]Beau[/name] but on the first day of class he would be called [name]Jesse[/name] [name]Beau[/name] because that is how he was listed on the official list.
Good luck. I hope you are feeling better, [name]Jasper[/name] [name]Eliana[/name] is a great name!
[name]Jasper[/name]! Ha, I was thinking something like [name]Jake[/name] or [name]John[/name], [name]Jasper[/name] is totally appropriate for a girl! I love it on both genders, actually. The only [name]Jasper[/name] I ever heard of before Twilight and nameberry was a girl. I went to middle school with her and it NEVER occurred to me (or probably any other kids) that [name]Jasper[/name] was a boys name, it was just awesome. She was a super pretty and popular girl, too, by the way.
I hope you keep [name]Jasper[/name]. Nicknames [name]Jazzy[/name] or [name]Perry[/name] (what a brilliant suggestion, whoever that was!) are fantastic. Well I love [name]Eliana[/name], too. Either way she will have a cool name. You can always call her by both, depending on the day! I think that’s what I would do, and let her make up her own mind.
[name]Just[/name] wanted to agree that other small children don’t know if names are “boy” or “girl” names. I mentioned to my kids that [name]Gabriel[/name] is a contender for a boy and my 8 year old son freaked out and begged me not to use it insisting it was a girl name - I think they’re are many Gabrielles at his school. Similarly, my 6 year old daughter thought [name]Peggy[/name] was a boy name =)
I was expecting you to say a much more ‘boyish’ name. I think [name]Jasper[/name] sounds lovely for a girl. I would keep using this name and use her middle name as a nickname. I used to call my sister by her middle name when we were younger…there was no reason for this, I just liked it.
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I can’t tell you how much I appreciate all your kind remarks. I was pretty nervous about posting as I thought I might hear what I neither wanted or needed to hear. Instead, I am overwhelmed by everyone’s support.
While I know there are people that do feel strongly against the name for a girl, or just plain don’t like the name, I think I probably blew it out of proportion. It’s a relief to hear that many of you view it the same way that I do for a girl. If I start doubting myself again, I’ll just come back and read this thread!
Keeping her name as [name]Jasper[/name] [name]Eliana[/name] does feel like the right thing to do. Like I said, she can feel like a [name]Jasper[/name] or an [name]Eliana[/name] depending on the day or the personality that she displays. I guess that it OK though as both names belong to her. We will probably call her [name]Jasper[/name] most of the time, and [name]Jasper[/name] [name]Eliana[/name] some of the time, and probably even [name]Eliana[/name] the odd time. I want her to be comfortable with both names so that she can make the choice for herself.
Thanks again guys. We are trying to conceive another child so fingers crossed, I will come knocking sometime soon, looking for advice on how to pair her name with a sibling.
You could continue to call her by both first and middle names. When she is older she will decide what she wants to be called.
[name]Just[/name] as a side note, many women throughout history have been given traditional males names as first names, so it is not a new trend. There was an article here on Nameberry about how giving a boys’ name to a girl could potentially work in her favor. But giving a girl a traditionally masculine name is not for everyone. There are very strong opinions about it. [name]Don[/name]'t let that get to you.
I would keep calling her what you’re calling her; eventually she will decide. Best of luck.
[name]Hi[/name], I think that [name]Jasper[/name] is lovely as a girls name. I much much prefer it on a girl than on a boy. It just has a whispery feeling to it and I love gemstone names on girls. So personally, its more of a girl name than boy name to me.
However, I completely understand how you are feeling about it being a unisex name. For a long time, I was playing with the idea of naming my first daughter [name]Ellis[/name]. I know its a boys name traditionally, but to me, its a girls name. Like [name]Ellie[/name] and [name]Alice[/name], but with history and meaning. We ended up going with a “strong female” name that happened to be a family name at the last minute.
Also, know that I understand the feeling of wanting to change a name or having namers regret. I had name regret on my first child (im over it and love her name now) who is now 3, and we are currently struggling with our 6 month old’s name to the point that I am in denial and dont even want to talk about the subject with my husband!
The decision is of course up to you. I think that if you do want to call your daughter by her middle name, that it is ok. Make it kind of a game to her. (I sometimes call my 3 year old by her middle name and she thinks that it is fun stuff). Or if you want to continue to call her [name]Jasper[/name], that would be completely ok too, as I really think its more fitting for a girl.
Good luck in whatever you decide, you can’t really go wrong!
I think of [name]Jasper[/name] as a Unisex name. It’s on both my lists. I think it’s cute.
I think [name]Jasper[/name] is perfect…it definitely has a feminine quality to it. Follow your heart, and let [name]Jasper[/name] decide when she’s older whether she wants to use her more feminine MN