Not advisable. I think if she grows up being teased for having the name [name_u]Gay[/name_u] - even if it only happens once or twice - and she does end up being gay, she’ll have already internalized that it’s something she’ll get made fun of for. If my name were [name_u]Gay[/name_u], and I were a gay kid or teen, I’d feel hesitant to come out because I’d be dreading the stupid name comments. NOT saying a kid named [name_u]Gay[/name_u] would be doomed to a life in the closet if she were gay, but it might add an extra worry she doesn’t need.
But is it “suicide”? Of course not. I’m sorry someone said that, that is terrible.
I know a few women in their 80’s/90’s that go by “[name_u]Gay[/name_u]”- but it’s a nickname for [name_f]Grace[/name_f] or [name_f]Gail[/name_f] or something of the like. That being said, at the time they were young the name “[name_u]Gay[/name_u]” didn’t have the connotations it does today. If you really love this name- I’d choose a longer first name, and use [name_u]Gay[/name_u] as an at home nickname only. I think it could cause a lot of teasing at school or out in the real world.
If you have to, use it in a double middle as the second name, and as [name_f]Gaye[/name_f]. There is no doubt the a child would get laughed at and bullied for it. I’m sorry.
I’m sorry but I don’t think it’s a usable name. I understand your love of a GP name but sometimes they just need to stay GP. Normally I tell people “if you love it, use it” but the lifelong potential for bullying with this name just negates that this time [name_f]IMO[/name_f]. If you absolutely feel you must include it in your child’s name please consider using it in the middle position or even as a 2nd middle.