I still cant let [name_u]Gay/name_u go… I love this name…
[name_f]Do[/name_f] you think its at all possible to use? Or is it just like people say, a suicidal name?
I would use it in a double barrel name, if any. I really can not let it go.
Nobody here should be equating a name to suicide. That’s disrespectful.
It’s more become just another, shorter word for homosexual. Honestly, to me it’s just strange, like naming your kid Straight.
I’m sure others have been over this with you. But, there are, sadly, homophobic people out there. Homophobes range from the standard “lol ew ur name is [name_u]Gay[/name_u]” and then there is the more dangerous kind of homophobe, I refer of course to the kind of person who actually attacks gay people. Either person may see [name_u]Gay[/name_u]'s name as a reason enough to confront her, because homophobes just don’t think rationally; they think with hatred.
If you must, save it for the middle name spot and spell it [name_f]Gaye[/name_f].
Not on here but on Yahoo Answers, a person said that a kid with the name [name_u]Gay[/name_u] will commit suicide. And on another site Im on, they said that Im basically committing suicide for my daughter if I name her that. All these nasty comments…
I don’t find it usable at all, sorry.
Makes me so angry when people trivialise suicide. Ugh. Avoid Yahoo Answers.
I agree. And I usually do. But I was bored and was getting no answers from here. So I went there.
I don’t find it usable at all. It sounds like a joke name–like the name someone would use to prank call. What about [name_f]Gayle[/name_f]? That still might lead to some teasing, but it’s less direct at least.
Have you considered [name_m]Gaelan[/name_m]? I have only ever met females with this name (although I know it is often used for males) and [name_f]Gaye[/name_f] is a nickname one of them uses.
Going with what the above poster had said - I have heard the name [name_m]Gaelan[/name_m] used on a man before & I think it suits him.
However calling you daughter [name_u]Gay[/name_u] is just horrible, actually cruel in my opinion. [name_f]Remember[/name_f] - think if your child not of yourself - you may love the name for whatever reasons, however your little girl would be subjected to teasing and of course you wouldn’t that for her when it could have been so easily avoided by choosing a different name!
I think it’s really better off for you (and your future daughter!) if you are able to let it go. I mean, I have GP names I really didn’t want to let go of, either (I loved the sound of [name_f]Gypsy[/name_f], for example, but I absolutely would not even consider giving it to a daughter!), but I still knew I wouldn’t use it, just because I knew it wasn’t in my hypothetical future child’s best interest (also why I’m not 100% sure I’ll ever use [name_u]Bailey[/name_u] or [name_u]Addison[/name_u] for a guy, either, even though I adore them. If I got the chance, I would use [name_u]Avery[/name_u], as it’s a family name, and not quite as gone to the girls, but I’m still torn on [name_u]Addison[/name_u] and [name_u]Bailey[/name_u], although that’s a different can of worms!). Maybe something like [name_f]Fiona[/name_f] [name_f]Gabrielle[/name_f]? You could use [name_f]Fifi[/name_f] [name_f]Gaye[/name_f] as a nn or something at home if you really had to, but I honestly feel like it’s a really, really bad idea. As [name_f]Amber[/name_f] said, the response from homophobes would really, really concern me. I wouldn’t want to pick a name (even if I REALLY loved it) that could bring any negativity onto the shoulders of my child, and the negative feelings toward homosexuality are some of the most virile and hostile around right now. It’s sad, but true.
Or what about [name_f]Gaia[/name_f], even? I could see [name_u]Gay/name_u being used as a nn at home, but [name_f]Gaia[/name_f]'s still beautiful in real life. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though it’s said [name_m]GUY[/name_m]-ah, not [name_u]GAY[/name_u]-ah…
ETA: I think the problem with [name_u]Gay[/name_u], honestly, is that it’s not just associated with something that will lead to teasing (not just at one age-group, but I can see it happening throughout one’s life), but honest-to-goodness hatred. It’s sad, and one would hope people could have the decency NOT to project that onto your child, but I honestly don’t have that much hope in humanity right now. Should those feelings change? Absolutely. But would you really want to leave it up to your daughter to make that change? I wouldn’t. What if she’s not strong enough to bear up under that? What if she doesn’t get the best-case scenario that you’re hoping for, but the absolute worst? I just don’t think it’s worth that risk.
Maybe [name_f]Gayle[/name_f]? If anything, go with [name_f]Gaye[/name_f]. Besides, it really means happy!
[name_f]Gaye[/name_f] nn [name_f]Gigi[/name_f]
I’d do [name_f]Gail[/name_f] or [name_f]Gaynor[/name_f] for a girl and [name_u]Gael[/name_u] for a boy.
I second the [name_f]Gail[/name_f] or [name_u]Gael[/name_u] suggestion, though I oppose the [name_f]Gaynor[/name_f] suggestion because it seems worse in my opinion. Sorry, the name/word [name_u]Gay[/name_u] has really taken a turn to mean something else in today’s society; and homophobia is really strong right now.
I think it’s an odd name. What about [name_f]Gail[/name_f] or [name_f]Faye[/name_f]?
I’d avoid it. Your child’s safety is more important than your attachment to a name.
You can tell people that it means happy all you want, still wont stop the teasing potential.
I just don’t see it as usable. I would find it very hard on your child if they grew up to be homosexual and they were named [name_u]Gay[/name_u]. I could see it causing other problems with cruel people in the world for your daughter as well. I just don’t find it nice to saddle your child with a loaded name/word.
Not useable, sorry. We live in the world we live in. I wouldn’t subject my child to a name almost guaranteed to promote teasing and hardship. If you love it, put it in the middle.
[name_u]Gay[/name_u] isn’t usable anymore. Not at all.