We, that’s [name]Sandra[/name], [name]Jackson[/name] and me ([name]Carol[/name]), are ‘slightly divided’ when it comes to baby names. We don’t want to know the gender of the tiny human, yet. That’s why we discuss boys’ and girls’ names. There are two possible last names, too. If it’s a girl, we are probably naming her [name]Josephine[/name]. After my mother and [name]Sandra[/name]'s grand-grandmother. So is it[name]Josephine[/name] [name]Sasha[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name]? - with the father’s last name
[name]Josephine[/name] [name]Sasha[/name] [name]Weber[/name]? - with mom’s last name
My surname isn’t an option, ‘cause, officially, it’s not even my kid.
But the major problem are boys’ names. We haven’t found any compromise, yet. [name]Sandra[/name], no matter what, wants a [name]Sasha[/name], [name]Jack[/name] goes for [name]Eli[/name], while I’d like [name]Ismael[/name]. I’m gonna raise this baby with [name]Sandra[/name]. And still, [name]Jack[/name] get’s to discuss this with us and [name]Sandra[/name] listens to him. There has always been something, I couldn’t give her. She found it in her best friend. Anyway, that’s not the point.[name]Sasha[/name] [name]Ismael[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name]?
[name]Eli[/name] [name]Sasha[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name]?
[name]Ismael[/name] [name]Sasha[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name]?
As far as I can tell, the initials S.S. are a little… Ya know? [name]Sandra[/name] is [name]German[/name]… She probably doesn’t see it like that. She sees her homeland in another light. But with all these prejudices about Germans… Kids can be so cruel. With [name]Ismael[/name] [name]Sasha[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name], there would be part of my culture, [name]Sandra[/name]'s brother’s name and [name]Jack[/name]'s last name. Isn’t that a compromise? Or is [name]Eli[/name] it after all? What do you guys think?
I like [name]Eli[/name] [name]Sasha[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name] the best.
I think [name]Ismael[/name] [name]Sasha[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name] or [name]Sasha[/name] [name]Ismael[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name] are too heavy on the S’s. (Sorry.)
[name]Ismael[/name] is nms so I can’t tell you how I feel about any combo with it in general but I think that might be a better fit with LN [name]Weber[/name] instead of [name]Sullivan[/name].
I wouldn’t worry about the SS too much either. I would if it were FN and LN - because those will show up more often next to each other - being [name]German[/name] I am sensitive to that - MN and LN will rarely be seen together and unless the FN starts with A I doubt anyone will every really notice.
I don’t know if a true “compromise” should ever be reached when naming a child. I do think that if you are going to be a major/primary care giver then your voice should also be heard.
Is there a longer version of [name]Eli[/name] that you like that could reflect your culture and could be nn’s [name]Eli[/name]? (I’m assuming your Jewish or very religiously [name]Christian[/name] with a choice like [name]Ismael[/name] reflecting your culture).
Suggestions:
[name]Eliakim[/name]
[name]Eliam[/name]
[name]Elias[/name]
[name]Elihu[/name]
[name]Elijah[/name]/[name]Elisha[/name] (these are too close to [name]Sasha[/name] for me but could be a good mix combo between [name]Eli[/name] and [name]Sasha[/name])
Elior
[name]Edit[/name] Addition:
If [name]Jack[/name] is basically a close friend who served as a sperm-donor then I think it’s nice to consider him as well but I don’t think the child need’s his LN. If he is a full parent then I think giving the child his LN even if it lives mostly with you would be nice so he feels like part of the team.
I wouldn’t worry about the initials SS. I [name]LOVE[/name] [name]Sasha[/name] for a boy.
Also, if it makes you feel better, a friend of mine is in a polyamorous relationship with 7 other people. They’ve been together 10 years and have 3 kids together in total. If they can figure out names without killing each other, so can you!
So I’m gonna bring up Elliot Sasha Sullivan when we meet Jackson. So we have a biblical name with the nick name Eli and Sasha in it. I wouldn’t have thought of longer versions of Eli. But there are so many variations of Elijah. Thank you so much. If the co-parents love this name as much as I do, it should be fix. In fact, Elliot was a name, I liked very much in my childhood. 
Edit: There is less polyamorous about us, than it might have seemed. It’s a little complicated.
[name]Sasha[/name] is one of those nicknames that works for anything.
First thought is [name]Aurelius[/name] [name]Ismael[/name] nn [name]Eli[/name] (it contains [name]Eli[/name], in the middle) and nn [name]Sasha[/name] (if [name]Sasha[/name] can work for [name]Alexander[/name], why not [name]Aurelius[/name]?)
[name]Alexander[/name] - gives you [name]Sasha[/name] and [name]Ali[/name] (close enough to [name]Eli[/name]) [name]Alexander[/name] [name]Ismael[/name] is handsome!
Spell [name]Ismael[/name] Esmail (traditional Arabic way) and you have [name]Eli[/name] as a nickname built in (all three letters inside the name) …[name]Alexander[/name] Esmail nn [name]Sasha[/name] or [name]Eli[/name]
[name]Will[/name] you adopt him? Since you won’t have a biological link to him, why not give him your surname?
[name]Elliot[/name] [name]Sasha[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name] is a great idea!
[name]Glad[/name] you liked the idea of a longer version of [name]Eli[/name] - I hope everyone else likes it too.
And while complicated I’ve just taken to imagining your family as a variation of the “Friends” [name]Ross[/name]-[name]Carol[/name]-[name]Susan[/name] or the “[name]Grey[/name]'s Anatomy” [name]Sloan[/name]-Torres-[name]Arizona[/name] family models. (Polyamorous relationship with 7 other people, while super intriguing, would feel very complicated to me.)