I’ve posted on here recently asking opinions on our final name choices. Our baby Boy is already here and is now 8 weeks old and still nameless!
I really do love both names in different ways, sometimes I look at him and he is [name_m]Innes[/name_m], sometimes he is [name_m]Euan[/name_m]. Or Innie and Yuie as nicknames [name_m]Innes[/name_m] feels like a name he will grow into and [name_m]Euan[/name_m] fits him now. [name_m]Innes[/name_m] feels like a big name, [name_m]Euan[/name_m] is easier somehow. (maybe more relatable?) It’s almost like either one I choose I will think the other could be it! (confusing indeed!)
It’s really tough as I don’t want to loose either name but know I have to choose! The middle name is sorted and they both go well with it so that’s not an issue.
His big sister [name_f]Adie[/name_f] already calls him [name_m]Euan[/name_m], but his dad adores [name_m]Innes[/name_m] and I’m inbetween!
Any tips on making the first a final choice? Any one been in this situation before?
If his sister is already calling him [name_m]Euan[/name_m] and that names feels like it fits him now, it sounds like that really is his name. I think you and your partner are just having a tough time letting go of a name thst doesn’t fit but that you both love.
Question: is this your last baby? Or could [name_m]Innes[/name_m] still be on the table for the future? That might make it easier to let go for now if you know you can keep it in your pocket for later.
Thank you brittanyanitarose. (for you advice on both posts!) Tonight my partner said he is starting to like the name [name_m]Euan[/name_m], after hearing our daughter use it so often! I’m not sure if we will have another but I think that’s a good point.
Please take this with a grain of salt, as the most important thing I’ve ever had to name is a guinea pig.
I agree that if his sister is calling him [name_m]Euan[/name_m], and you both like it, to use that one.
If you’re still undecided: I read about a couple who would shout the names they were considering down their back garden (kind of mimicking shouting it down a playground) and apparently that helped them.
I clicked on this thread because I thought it might be useful, haha. Well, I agree with the other posters. If [name_m]Euan[/name_m] is what his sister calls him, and you think it fits him, it’s probably his name!
You asked for tips on how to choose, so here’s my advice: stop dreaming and be practical. When we name our babies, we have such dreams for them. We search for a name that “feels” right (I do it too!), for a name with a great meaning to imbue onto our child, for a name that can be aspirational, for a name that is some mystical, magical, gift to give. I love to choose a good name, and all of those ideas more or less affect my process, and I’ve seen it described (sometimes not in so many words) by most of the posters on this site. We’re not just looking for a name, we’re looking for something special.
You said [name_m]Innes[/name_m] “feels big” and he can “grow into it.” You said [name_m]Euan[/name_m] “feels” like it fits him now. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you see how you’re dreaming about what you think this name choice means? [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t get me wrong. I don’t think those feelings and thoughts are bad or a mistake; but they do seem to have overwhelmed practicality a bit. Let it go long enough to step back and look at the situation as a whole without focusing so narrowly on the specific name and the specific vibe you get from the name.
Here are the facts as you’ve described them: you like the idea of [name_m]Innes[/name_m] but prefer using [name_m]Euan[/name_m]; your husband likes [name_m]Innes[/name_m] and is coming around to [name_m]Euan[/name_m]; your daughter likes and uses [name_m]Euan[/name_m] exclusively. It looks to me like this baby’s name is already [name_m]Euan[/name_m] and you haven’t quite realized it.
I agree with pp’s. Replying to your comment that “[name_m]Euan[/name_m] fits him now”, he [name_m]WILL[/name_m] grow into and become the name that your choose. Both names fit an adult exceptionally well so [name_m]Euan[/name_m] will “fit” him as he grows into an adult as you feel [name_m]Innes[/name_m] will do. Both names are so handsome. Good luck in your final choice.
Is it possible to combine [name_m]Innes[/name_m] with his current middle name? If it sounds right he could have two middle names, it’s not that uncommon. [name_m]Euan[/name_m] [name_m]Innes[/name_m] _____ _____. Might work. Other than that I agree with everyone else, use [name_m]Euan[/name_m].
[name_f]Hope[/name_f] you figure it out!
[name_m]Man[/name_m], I didn’t know it was possible to have an 8 week old without an official name. I’ve always heard that the hospital won’t discharge you if you haven’t put something down for the birth cert.
Agree with everyone else that [name_m]Euan[/name_m] is his name. [name_m]Just[/name_m] commit.
I prefer [name_m]Innes[/name_m]. I also don’t really know how to say [name_m]Euan[/name_m]…"you-in’?, so depending on where you live there could be a lot of confusion saying and spelling it.
Team [name_m]Euan[/name_m] here too. No, I’ve never been in your situation of having an 8 week old and still not being able to decide between 2 names. But I have been in the situation of being in love with more than 1 name and having to let one go. I’m lucky that my husband is more practical than I am so when we discuss the options and there’s a clear winner, both him and I agree, he’s able to leave the other name in the past. I mourn it for some time. If he was indecisive like me our kids would probably just have to name themselves because I hate shutting the door on names I love.
Luckily, I can tell you that my 2 kids have names that fit them perfectly and I no longer mourn the loss of their almost names. I still think they’re great names, but I think their names fit them better. Which logically, I knew all along, that’s why they were chosen.
Good luck. I hope you feel confident and comfortable in your decision soon, whichever decision that is.
Stick with [name_m]Euan[/name_m]. I know baby is tiny, but don’t you think it would be helpful if you stuck with [name_m]Euan[/name_m], so he didn’t get confused?
Thank you to everyone who has replied so far. I’m not sure what has stopped me standing for the name [name_m]Euan[/name_m], maybe I feel like I’m letting people down not calling him [name_m]Innes[/name_m], or maybe myself! I’m going to have a proper talk to my partner about it and see how he feels now. Also, in Australia we have 90 days to register the name of our babies, we must be an indecisive lot!!
It sounds like [name_m]Euan[/name_m] suits the best from what you’ve said… I’d go with that. Especially if your other little is already in the habit of calling him that.
[name_m]Innes[/name_m] feels like a name he will grow into and [name_m]Euan[/name_m] fits him now. [name_m]Innes[/name_m] feels like a big name, [name_m]Euan[/name_m] is easier somehow. (maybe more relatable?) It’s almost like either one I choose I will think the other could be it! (confusing indeed!)
When we name our babies, we have such dreams for them. We search for a name that “feels” right (I do it too!), for a name with a great meaning to imbue onto our child, for a name that can be aspirational, for a name that is some mystical, magical, gift to give. I love to choose a good name, and all of those ideas more or less affect my process, and I’ve seen it described (sometimes not in so many words) by most of the posters on this site. We’re not just looking for a name, we’re looking for something special.