Not currently pregnant but love thinking ahead. I’m pretty set on the firsts, but my dilemma is in choosing middle names as I can’t decide to go with names we ‘just’ like or if we should go for a family name in the middle spot as is the family tradition.
On one hand we really love the idea of honouring a loved family member. I do really like the family names themselves, and they feel meaningful to us. However while I like the family names, I’m a name nerd and have some middle names that I absolutely adore. I like the thought that those names would be all their own, and that we have chosen them because we really love them. While there is no family pressure to use the family names, but they would be the only kids in several generations not to have family middles.
I also feel like if child 1 has a family middle then child 2 should also, and same for the non-family names. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you guys think it would be an issue to have one with a family middle and one without?
We want to have two kids so here are the potential sibling combinations. I’d love to hear absolutely any thoughts or ideas on the names, and what you think sounds and flows best! Surname sounds like ‘[name_u]Bird[/name_u]’.
I’ve noticed that you’ve listed some names under “[name_u]Love[/name_u]” and the others for “Family”. You should definitely use the names that you feel most comfortable using and what makes you happy. Especially if you [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] certain names over your family name options.
If there is no family pressure, then it really just comes down to your preference.
You could always have two middles (1 new, 1 family name)? Or find a mn that may have the same meaning or similar style to the family name. Example: [name_m]Victor[/name_m] --> [name_m]Thor[/name_m], [name_m]Vince[/name_m], etc.
I love family names. My girls have them and I am looking forward to the day I get to tell them who they were named after. With that being said, you have to do what’s right for you. [name_f]Sylvie[/name_f] [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] and [name_f]Nina[/name_f] [name_f]Felicity[/name_f] are fantastic ! On your boys side I love [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] [name_u]Flynn[/name_u].
My preference is to go with the names you love the best, but in this case, since you’re so divided, maybe two middle names would work. The combos would be long, yeah, but with a one syllable surname and relatively short first names (besides [name_m]Frederick[/name_m]), I don’t think it’s too much.
[name_m]Frederick[/name_m] [name_m]Victor[/name_m] [name_u]Flynn[/name_u] & [name_m]Walter[/name_m]/[name_m]Arthur[/name_m] [name_m]Felix[/name_m] [name_m]Struan[/name_m] (It’s tougher with the boys since you have so many F names!)
I’ve come across the same dilemma when playing with combos. I’m happy to use a family name in my girls combo because I love it and I there’s nothing else I really like instead. But I also consider how I’d work family names into additional children’s names. That being said I don’t have an OH at the moment so who knows what names they’ll bring to the table. For the sake of being ‘neat’ I would personally have each child have a family name, or not, but to others that may not be a big deal at all.
I love [name_f]Sylvie[/name_f] [name_f]Amelia[/name_f], [name_f]Edie[/name_f] Nightingale, and [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] [name_u]Flynn[/name_u] from your combos. Ultimately you have to consider whether you are happy to let go of the ones you love for the sake of the family names, or perhaps as others have said, use an additional middle.
I understand the appeal of honour names, but I personally prefer individual names that were chosen especially for a child. The names in your ‘love’ list are gorgeous, I like your family names too. Ultimately you have a great shortlist and it is likely once you get pregnant/have a baby, it will become clear to you which option to take. In the meantime you can just enjoy the possibility of using all of these names
Our “formula” for naming our kids has turned out to be first name we love + family middle (we have 2 kids and currently expecting #3). I really love this pattern because it has made our naming so much easier! I.e. I begin with the middle name and can immediately narrow down a lot of first name options based on what I love with the middle.
Also I just really like the balance of personal name + family link name. I think that combo is a gift of individuality AND belonging
