My goal is to pick a name for a future daughter and thats it. Then if im ever blessed with another gitl, shes already named. This simple approach works for all my friends, but has never been so easy for me. After analyzing every name on nb, I think I’ve settled on [name]Nola[/name] and [name]Mabel[/name]. [name]Every[/name] name had pros and cons, but I’ve learned I just have to go for it.
Mostly I want to be settled on first names and leave room for deciding middles when
the time comes.
So any thoughts on [name]Nola[/name] and [name]Mabel[/name] and possible middles?
Help me commit with some great feedback
I don’t agree with that method, I’m a big believe in meeting the child before naming. Feels properly personally to me.
I have combos picked out, but I have middle names that are interchangable, and I’m willing to use a different name instead of the original idea. I plan to wait until I’ve met my child, and then name them. It feels like it’s really they’re name, and not just a name I’m giving them because of birth order or something. Also, tastes can change a lot over months, let alone years. I think it’s best to have a top 2 or 3 and keep those till the birth.
I do agree with wanting to commit.I love the idea of picking out a name before, as I can be very picky, and that way I don’t have to deal with people saying that they don’t like the name and that I should go with their favorite name. My friend [name]Linda[/name] picked out her kids’ names ([name]Emma[/name] and [name]Brandon[/name]) ahead of time, and as a result were less stressed and people also bought a lot of personalized/monogrammed things for them, which was very sweet.
I’m slightly more with @east93 though. I’m pretty set on the names that I want to use (although middles names are also interchangeable depending on if there are people I want to honor) but I want to meet my child first.
I always go back to the show Friends,when [name]Rachel[/name] and [name]Ross[/name] were expecting their daughter. Before [name]Ross[/name] was adamant about using [name]Ruth[/name] but then decided against it. After the baby was born they were thinking of [name]Isabella[/name] or [name]Delilah[/name] and none of them felt right. And then they of course named their daughter [name]Emma[/name] after [name]Monica[/name] let them use her favorite name!
[name]Even[/name] though I probably will end up using [name]Charlotte[/name] and the other names on my list, I’d still want to meet my baby first, just to be sure. :]
I love both [name]Nola[/name] [name]Penelope[/name] [name]Eve[/name] and [name]Mabel[/name] [name]Josephine[/name] [name]Bleu[/name]! [name]Both[/name] combos are beautiful, absolutely stunning. Classic but a little quirky (to me at least) at the same time- I love it!
[name]Nola[/name] [name]Penelope[/name] [name]Eve[/name] is my favorite! I’d use [name]Nola[/name] myself if [name]Norah[/name] wasn’t already on my list. I like [name]Bleu[/name], but the only thing I don’t like about the name is I think a lot of people would pronounce it incorrectly. Granted, it’s the second middle name so most won’t see it and then pronunciation won’t be an issue,but it came across my mind. That aside, I adore your combos!
Thanks for sharing the opposite view.
I look at names as a special gift to my child, and enjoy watching how that little person makes that name theirs. I cant see how a little baby could look like one name over another, but thats just me. I cant see a name fitting until their cute personality shines through around toddlerhood.
Im most likely going to keep having babies or at least try to, so having 2 names picked out isnt so extreme. I dont know if I want to commit to All future baby names, but id like to commit to at least one
I agree with you completely! [name]Even[/name] though I’d find a name like [name]Olive[/name] classic,spunky, and quirky,that doesn’t necessarily mean [name]Olive[/name] will be that way. [name]Even[/name] though I’m not a mom, whenever I take care of my friends’ kids I do enjoy watching them grow up and specifically into their names. My friend’s little sister(now in first grade) was going to be an [name]Isabella[/name], but then at the suggestion of a friend they named her [name]Lydia[/name] [name]Grace[/name].At first, she didn’t seem like a [name]Lydia[/name]. But now, she’s definitely a [name]Lydia[/name] and I can’t see her being an [name]Isabella[/name] at all. I don’t know how to describe it, but once kids start developing personalities, their names just fit them perfectly. :]
Personally,I’m kind of in the same situation.I’m committed to [name]Jack[/name] and [name]Charlotte[/name] as first names for a boy and a girl.[name]Emilia[/name] and [name]Asher[/name] or [name]Henry[/name] are the likely candidates for other children,but I’m not set on those yet.
I think if committing to a name gives you peace of mind it’s great. It’s not like it’s going to be set in stone unless that’s what you decide you’d like it to be.
[name]Maple[/name] [name]Josephine[/name] [name]Bleu[/name] reminds me too much of food -> my childhood love for Cordon bleu and maple syrup probably doesn’t help that.
I really like [name]Nola[/name] [name]Penelope[/name] [name]Eve[/name]. It’s the perfect combo of modern chic and classy.
We picked our son’s name shortly after our 20 week gender ultrasound. We will probably do the same with all of our children. I am pretty sure I would take one look at our new baby and say “I don’t know what he/she looks like!? What do I do!?” They change so much even in the first couple weeks, they will look way different probably after you choose the name anyway! We are TTC right now and so of course I’m working on a list and narrowing down and I will say, that this time around I think it will be much harder to decide. I don’t seem to love any on my list in the way I loved my son’s name. I may try the “Wait and see” method just one time!
I will say though, choosing our son’s name was so easy and I never doubted it was the one I wanted.(It wasn’t DH’s favorite at first but one day he said to me, "I like it just as much as any of the other names on our list so since its your favorite lets just decide that will be his name! I was about ready to give in to his choice of [name]Levi[/name] which I liked but didn’t love. [name]Glad[/name] I held out a few more days! )
Anyhow, I think both of your first name choices are nice. I like [name]Mabel[/name] the most though. I think the middle names you have are nice, except [name]Penelope[/name] and [name]Eve[/name] kind of run into each other but that doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Over all, they are nice names. Are the middles family names? Are they names that you really like but might be 4rd, 4th or 5th on the list? I have a lot of names I really like, and so I just start putting different ones in the middle spots(We use two middles also) until I find a perfect fit. Good luck!
Lol its [name]Mabel[/name] not [name]Maple[/name]. I wasnt sure about the spelling of [name]Blue[/name]/[name]Bleu[/name], but my husband wants [name]Blue[/name] so I changed it.
[name]Maple[/name] [name]Josephine[/name] [name]Bleu[/name] just might make someone hungry! Haha so it is [name]Mable[/name] [name]Josephine[/name] [name]Blue[/name]
Yes, they are favorite names and special meanings and family names.
[name]Nola[/name]- I fell in love with this while using it as a nickname for [name]Magnolia[/name]. I researched [name]Magnolia[/name] trees and think its the perfect image of womanhood: beauty, elegance, strength and endurance. So thats the image [name]Nola[/name] has for me, even though it doesnt mean that.
[name]Penelope[/name]- again, a favorite. I would love to use it as a first name, but popularity put me off. And I cant commit to any nn for it.
[name]Eve[/name]- after my grandmother [name]Evelyn[/name] whom I was extremely close to and I miss her incredibly.
[name]Mabel[/name]- discovered this digging through the family tree. My grandfathers sister. I was looking for a “[name]Mae[/name]” name, and couldnt commit to [name]Maeve[/name] or [name]Esme[/name]. [name]Mabel[/name] seems perfect and I can imagine our future little girl with this name.
[name]Josephine[/name]- [name]Joseph[/name] and Josephines are abundant on all sides of the fam, and I happen to adore it.
[name]Blue[/name]- variety of reasons. My fav place to vaca growing up and now as I,have my own fam, and where we honeymooned was in Blueberry country in ME. My grandmother was very proud of her local blueberries so its a nod to her as well. And blue is my fav color and also was my wedding color and also all 3 of my sister in laws wedding color. We are all very close, and I always wanted to honor them with names in some way. So this seemed like a great way.
Oh I agree with you on the looks thing! I view it more as getting a reading on your baby rather than they’re actual face matching the name. The energy, overall appearance, connection etc. might sway your original idea, or confirm it even more.
I’ve found through my personal experience with pregnancy that the baby already feels like a certain name. If that makes any sense. I’m not quite 4 months along now and haven’t found out the gender yet, but I’m pretty certain already that I’m carrying a little [name]Alice[/name]. Likewise with my son I knew I was carrying Mr. [name]Benton[/name] [name]Grover[/name]. We called him that in the womb from the moment we had confirmation he was a boy, but we both knew he was [name]Benton[/name] [name]Grover[/name] before his gender was confirmed. Also with my miscarriages I knew the first was [name]Flora[/name] and the second was [name]Ransom[/name]. That may sound crazy, but I think most people need to learn to trust their gut. Me included! I keep second guessing [name]Alice[/name]'s middle name even though I know she’s [name]Alice[/name] [name]Imogen[/name] already.
I would also like to say that I tried and tried to nail down a girl name before I became pregnant this time and had never even considered [name]Alice[/name], but for some reason one day a couple of weeks after we found out we were expecting I heard the name and just knew that’s who she was. I’m going to be really surprised if this baby is a boy. LOL
Very true about the pregnancy! I’ve never had that much of an instinct, but more like if the baby needs a very unique name or needs to fit in a little bit more. I was right on with the personality of my girls, but my boys personality was completely opposite of what I expected. So grateful for him!
Anyone have any stories of picking out a name years in advance and actually using it like you planned?
Oh, btw, love [name]Alice[/name] [name]Imogen[/name]! [name]Trust[/name] your gut and go for it!
[name]Mabel[/name] is more appealing to me than [name]Nola[/name].
I’m not someone who says “you need to see the baby first,” because you’re right - how can a newborn look more like one name over another? But I think even if you “commit” now you might change your mind a million times anyway before another daughter is born. With each of my three boys, I “committed” to at least two names before getting to the name we actually used. [name]Felix[/name] was actually my favorite boy name before I even got married (I see you love it too), but it wouldn’t have sounded good with our last name. With the second boy, before I was even pregnant I was sure we’d use the name [name]Arlo[/name] if it was another boy. But he ended up being named [name]Wolfgang[/name], and I’m so happy we didn’t go with [name]Arlo[/name], because now [name]Arlo[/name]/[name]Marlow[/name]/[name]Harlow[/name] are all pretty highly hipster trendy and also [name]Arlo[/name] is starting to lean unisex, which always ends with the name going over to the girls.
I was holding on to “THE” girl name for six years - I just knew my daughter would be named [name]Clover[/name]! But now that I’m actually pregnant with a daughter, I’m definitely not using it. I’m currently debating between the name that was always number three on my girl list and a name that was never even on it until this pregnancy. The thing is, you just don’t know what is going to happen between now and when you have another daughter. You don’t know what the trends could be. [name]Even[/name] if you don’t care at all about trendiness, what if a friend or relative (or enemy) of yours has a daughter before you do and uses the name you “committed” to? What if there’s a really big movie or show that has a character with that name that you just can’t stand, or that just becomes ubiquitous to the culture and you can’t separate that name from the character? What if a political candidate you don’t like has a kid with that name? Again, I don’t know how much any of that would matter to you, but I’m sure at least one of those things might change the name in your eyes, and then you’d have to start fresh.
All that being said, I know how it is to feel mentally unsettled because you don’t have a name for a child who isn’t conceived yet. I can’t tell you how many times I fretted over [name]Clover[/name] becoming too popular or trendy in the past six years, only to settle back down into loving the name again. But now it’s for sure off my list.
Yup, completely understand. I thought of that too. But at least for now I had 2 settled names, and see if that changes or not im hoping not to change it tho. I figure if my friends can do it, I can too, right?
Haha so it is [name]Mable[/name] [name]Josephine[/name] [name]Blue[/name] 